Finally a job offer, but terrible commute

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t take it if I didn’t need to for the money. I did a commute from Laurel-Leesburg for a year. It was awful coming home, so much stress.

I don’t understand...what stress? I have done longer, and it takes the time it takes. If you stressed about it that was really all in your head.

I mean,, driving around here isn’t driving on an open road with no cars around. Lots of traffic, accidents etc. Maybe it doesn’t matter if you don’t have evening activities or need to make dinner, but with school age kids, Op probably does.

With that said, 2x work from home after 6 months is decent. I would give it a try, given that (and given that I could switch my telework days based on evening schedules each season).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its much easier to find a job when you already have a job.

This. I’d take the job and keep looking.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to say I'd take it (given age and terrible job market.) You got this! It will be the one drawback - think of it that way. It will be the time you listen to your fave audiobook/call your best friend/etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t take it if I didn’t need to for the money. I did a commute from Laurel-Leesburg for a year. It was awful coming home, so much stress.

I don’t understand...what stress? I have done longer, and it takes the time it takes. If you stressed about it that was really all in your head.

I mean,, driving around here isn’t driving on an open road with no cars around. Lots of traffic, accidents etc. Maybe it doesn’t matter if you don’t have evening activities or need to make dinner, but with school age kids, Op probably does.

With that said, 2x work from home after 6 months is decent. I would give it a try, given that (and given that I could switch my telework days based on evening schedules each season).

If you are the one with long commute, your spouse needs to do the dinner and activities. That’s the deal. Does OP even have kids?

[Anonymous]

I drove 90 minutes each way, 3 days a week, for 7 years to babysit my grandchildren. My DH had an hour commute 5 days a week. It’s not that bad.

[Anonymous]

Go in really early and leave early. Beat the rush.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not enough information here to weigh in. Do you have a family and kids who will be impacted by this commute? Are you the mom or dad?

How is this relevant to anything explain it to me like I am six I really wanna know thank you

NP. Do you have kids? What route or direction is the commute? Not enough information to provide advice. But moot point if you don’t need the money. Take job or don’t take the job. Don’t care.

[Anonymous]

You don’t need the money? IMO that commute, even three days a week, would be soul crushing. What a way to waste your limited hours on Earth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you can work from home two days a week make those Mondays and Fridays and get a hotel near the office on Wednesdays.

His wife will never agree to him taking a hotel. She will be paranoid he is f**g someone else lol

[Anonymous]

It sounds horrible. Especially the first six months when you have to go in five days a week. I don’t understand how you got this far in the job application/interview process without thinking about this. I would never even apply for a job where these were the conditions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not enough information here to weigh in. Do you have a family and kids who will be impacted by this commute? Are you the mom or dad?

How is this relevant to anything explain it to me like I am six I really wanna know thank you

Don't wanna. Guessing you don't work with that 2-digit IQ question.

[Anonymous]

OP here, thank everyone! Truly. This thread helped me think through pros and cons. I took the job. Hanging on to employability for a little bit longer…for now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thank everyone! Truly. This thread helped me think through pros and cons. I took the job. Hanging on to employability for a little bit longer…for now.

Good luck! If nothing else you can start job hunting again in a year from a better position being employed.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't do it. But honestly I wouldn't have gotten this far in the process because I would have known the commute was untenable. If you made it this far, it seems like you're not that bothered by it.

With kids of any age at home it would be an absolute no go in my house. Too much time on the road and too many things missed or shifted entirely to your spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t take it if I didn’t need to for the money. I did a commute from Laurel-Leesburg for a year. It was awful coming home, so much stress.

I don’t understand...what stress? I have done longer, and it takes the time it takes. If you stressed about it that was really all in your head.

You really can't fathom what would be stressful about spending 2+ hours in traffic every day? Not having that time at home, to decompress or spend with /care for family? Tend to chores around the house?