DH is dismissive of my input about SD(10)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is OP supposed to do, abort her daughter?

She is supposed to stop thinking she's entitled to a do-over nuclear family at the expense of three other children's well-being. Instead she should accept that she created a family her DH cannot handle, and should make some changes to simplify their home life. She should stop blaming the ex-wife, who is only trying to help a struggling child. And she should not have any more kids.

Harsh, but true.

Talk about bigotry!

This whole thread is a classic example of how women who are in a stepmother role are absolutely, unrelentingly vilified as the enemy and the fundamental cause of problems. Now it is the fault of the SM because she wants a child with her husband? And she should forgo that?

Maybe the ex wife cheated, filed for divorce from her husband, destroyed the family unit and is now positioning herself as the Holy Mother who has made no mistakes in her decision making.

But let's not consider that as it would be sacrilege. Only the woman who is in the SM role is to be criticized and condemned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is OP supposed to do, abort her daughter?

She is supposed to stop thinking she's entitled to a do-over nuclear family at the expense of three other children's well-being. Instead she should accept that she created a family her DH cannot handle, and should make some changes to simplify their home life. She should stop blaming the ex-wife, who is only trying to help a struggling child. And she should not have any more kids.

Harsh, but true.

Talk about bigotry!

This whole thread is a classic example of how women who are in a stepmother role are absolutely, unrelentingly vilified as the enemy and the fundamental cause of problems. Now it is the fault of the SM because she wants a child with her husband? And she should forgo that?

Maybe the ex wife cheated, filed for divorce from her husband, destroyed the family unit and is now positioning herself as the Holy Mother who has made no mistakes in her decision making.

But let's not consider that as it would be sacrilege. Only the woman who is in the SM role is to be criticized and condemned.

I have no opinions about the XW other than that she's probably trying to help her struggling daughter as best she knows how, and the SM should stop blaming the XW and take a good look at herself and her DH's parenting of this struggling, unhappy child and how their choices placed a lot of stress on her.

The SM is at fault here for having a larger and more complicated family than she and her DH can handle. Her DH is equally at fault for that. The XW didn't make the SM and the dad have more babies. I don't think anyone should have more children than they can handle, period, no matter how in love they are. A new marriage isn't an entitlement to have more kids if you can't actually manage the household successfully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is OP supposed to do, abort her daughter?

She is supposed to stop thinking she's entitled to a do-over nuclear family at the expense of three other children's well-being. Instead she should accept that she created a family her DH cannot handle, and should make some changes to simplify their home life. She should stop blaming the ex-wife, who is only trying to help a struggling child. And she should not have any more kids.

Harsh, but true.

Talk about bigotry!

This whole thread is a classic example of how women who are in a stepmother role are absolutely, unrelentingly vilified as the enemy and the fundamental cause of problems. Now it is the fault of the SM because she wants a child with her husband? And she should forgo that?

Maybe the ex wife cheated, filed for divorce from her husband, destroyed the family unit and is now positioning herself as the Holy Mother who has made no mistakes in her decision making.

But let's not consider that as it would be sacrilege. Only the woman who is in the SM role is to be criticized and condemned.

Because the XW doesn't matter. So what if she's awful? She's a nasty cheating ho and she robs banks and works for ICE and she listens to TikTok full volume on the metro. Okay. But still, OP's DH is stressed and crabby with four kids and he's going to be even more stressed and crabby with five. No matter how bad you say the XW is, that doesn't change this reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is OP supposed to do, abort her daughter?

She is supposed to stop thinking she's entitled to a do-over nuclear family at the expense of three other children's well-being. Instead she should accept that she created a family her DH cannot handle, and should make some changes to simplify their home life. She should stop blaming the ex-wife, who is only trying to help a struggling child. And she should not have any more kids.

Harsh, but true.

Talk about bigotry!

This whole thread is a classic example of how women who are in a stepmother role are absolutely, unrelentingly vilified as the enemy and the fundamental cause of problems. Now it is the fault of the SM because she wants a child with her husband? And she should forgo that?

Maybe the ex wife cheated, filed for divorce from her husband, destroyed the family unit and is now positioning herself as the Holy Mother who has made no mistakes in her decision making.

But let's not consider that as it would be sacrilege. Only the woman who is in the SM role is to be criticized and condemned.

Again, here is the kind of thinking that the adults should get what they want (or think they want) and everyone else has to put up with the fallout. Adults who think they "deserve to be happy"-- even though OP is not happy, and her DH is not happy, because their choices don't make sense.

If OP and her DH can not handle four or five children, then YES she should forgo having a child with her husband! Because you shouldn't have more children than you can effectively parent, and they already have three children in their household. Not because the XW was mean or OP's ex was mean or because OP is a stepmother or whatever. Because they can't handle a large family. So they shouldn't have one. Period. There's no entitlement to have lots of kids just because other people did something you disagree with. And I would say that if it was a first marriage for both of them with no exes or stepchildren at all.

[Anonymous]

OP: I really do understand the concern mat of you have here about how tough/difficult our blended family situation is. But we know, this is not new to both me and my husband. We both grew up in complicated families, and it isn’t what we wanted for our kids, but things like divorce and selection happen and life doesn’t always go the way you plan. We know our family situation isn’t the most ideal. But, it’s what’s best for us. Lots of blended families have issues but a lot don’t. DH’s parents were divorced, and his father remarried twice. He has a much younger har-sister with whom he has a great relationship, and his mother also remarried. He also has a great relationship with his stepparents and step siblings and hasn’t been any issues. My parents did not get divorced and wanted to stay together for my younger siblings and I, but they separated and lived in different homes for years at a time, many, many times and had a bad relationship. Considering how awful and terrified I felt waking up at 3 a.m. to them drunk, screaming and arguing, and being only eight years old having to comfort and calm down my crying two and three year old younger siblings, plus seeing how unhappy they were in their marriage and how that affected the way they treated me and my three younger siblings, I could not make my kids grow up in a house with parents who were not happily married.

Ex-H and I made the stupid decision to get married young (early 20s) and we were just not compatible. We couldn’t stay married, and our kids are better off with us divorced. At the time, I tried everything in my power to fix our
marriage and thought about staying for the kids, but looking back at my childhood, I knew that wasn’t the right decision. It’s not my place to speak on DH’a previous marriage, but he went through similar. My husband and I’s happiness and well-being is just as important as our kids’, and we’ve both tried to do everything we can to make sure our kids feel comfortable. Having more kids is something we decided to do because we wanted kids together, that’s really it. This is the only life our three daughters remember/have known, and they aren’t missing out on anything. All three have parents who love them very much much, and there isn’t any drama between ex’s. If my two teens were unhappy with our family situation, trust me, they would have already told me or their dad. They know my background and know I did what I thought was best for them.

We not deeply value and respect our kids’ relationships and alone time with their biological mom/dad. Ex-H regular took my kids out, outside of his custody time to the zoo/museum/camping/hiking/skiing and to go see their aunts, uncles, and cousins on his side of the family when they were younger, and now that they older, he takes our kids to shows/trips. They call/talk to him all the time, and they can go to his house whenever they want. DH and SD also have days where they spend quality time together and he takes her to local fairs, out to eat, amusement parks, sometimes with SD’s mom too. As she gets older and our kids together get older, DH will always continue to make sure to spend one-on-one time with SD.

Our kids love their little brother and are super exited to have a baby sister soon. My teens and my stepdaughter have a very close relationship, and considering the huge age/maturity gap, they got along with each other very well. I love my stepdaughter, I’ve known her since she was baby, she is the sweetest little girl, we’ve built a close bond, and I will do everything I can within reason to make sure it stays that way. My husband’s also an amazing stepdad to my kids. There are a lot of assumptions here about our family that aren’t true, and I understand why. It sounds super complicated and hard, because it is sometimes, but we currently and owing well and we have the resources and support we need. Our kids are still young right now, but if/when issues arise, I am sure we will be ready.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: I really do understand the concern mat of you have here about how tough/difficult our blended family situation is. But we know, this is not new to both me and my husband. We both grew up in complicated families, and it isn’t what we wanted for our kids, but things like divorce and selection happen and life doesn’t always go the way you plan. We know our family situation isn’t the most ideal. But, it’s what’s best for us. Lots of blended families have issues but a lot don’t. DH’s parents were divorced, and his father remarried twice. He has a much younger har-sister with whom he has a great relationship, and his mother also remarried. He also has a great relationship with his stepparents and step siblings and hasn’t been any issues. My parents did not get divorced and wanted to stay together for my younger siblings and I, but they separated and lived in different homes for years at a time, many, many times and had a bad relationship. Considering how awful and terrified I felt waking up at 3 a.m. to them drunk, screaming and arguing, and being only eight years old having to comfort and calm down my crying two and three year old younger siblings, plus seeing how unhappy they were in their marriage and how that affected the way they treated me and my three younger siblings, I could not make my kids grow up in a house with parents who were not happily married.

Ex-H and I made the stupid decision to get married young (early 20s) and we were just not compatible. We couldn’t stay married, and our kids are better off with us divorced. At the time, I tried everything in my power to fix our
marriage and thought about staying for the kids, but looking back at my childhood, I knew that wasn’t the right decision. It’s not my place to speak on DH’a previous marriage, but he went through similar. My husband and I’s happiness and well-being is just as important as our kids’, and we’ve both tried to do everything we can to make sure our kids feel comfortable. Having more kids is something we decided to do because we wanted kids together, that’s really it. This is the only life our three daughters remember/have known, and they aren’t missing out on anything. All three have parents who love them very much much, and there isn’t any drama between ex’s. If my two teens were unhappy with our family situation, trust me, they would have already told me or their dad. They know my background and know I did what I thought was best for them.

We not deeply value and respect our kids’ relationships and alone time with their biological mom/dad. Ex-H regular took my kids out, outside of his custody time to the zoo/museum/camping/hiking/skiing and to go see their aunts, uncles, and cousins on his side of the family when they were younger, and now that they older, he takes our kids to shows/trips. They call/talk to him all the time, and they can go to his house whenever they want. DH and SD also have days where they spend quality time together and he takes her to local fairs, out to eat, amusement parks, sometimes with SD’s mom too. As she gets older and our kids together get older, DH will always continue to make sure to spend one-on-one time with SD.

Our kids love their little brother and are super exited to have a baby sister soon. My teens and my stepdaughter have a very close relationship, and considering the huge age/maturity gap, they got along with each other very well. I love my stepdaughter, I’ve known her since she was baby, she is the sweetest little girl, we’ve built a close bond, and I will do everything I can within reason to make sure it stays that way. My husband’s also an amazing stepdad to my kids. There are a lot of assumptions here about our family that aren’t true, and I understand why. It sounds super complicated and hard, because it is sometimes, but we currently and owing well and we have the resources and support we need. Our kids are still young right now, but if/when issues arise, I am sure we will be ready.

You are so deep in denial. The reason you've posted here is that you ARE having problems! Issues are arising right now! That is why your SD wants to sleep in your room. That is why your DH is crabby. You said "DH and I have been struggling with boundaries". You said "he gets upset when I give him any input/ideas that he hasn’t already noticed or any advice that he doesn’t agree with. I value his opinions and ideas regarding how I parent my teens, but he doesn’t reciprocate and is instead pretty dismissive. Sometimes he’ll get angry and use an irrational reaction." He is NOT being a great dad and husband. You are having issues and you need to get your head out of happy-land and face what's actually happening. Stop being so passive. Divorce and more children do not just "happen". They are choices made by adults. You chose to have more kids and a more complicated family than you and your DH can handle and that is why your SD is upset and your DH is unhappy.

Oh, but you wanted kids together! Oh, love! You say that like it's some kind of magic wand that makes your problems go away, or makes your problems not the predictable result of your choices. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: I really do understand the concern mat of you have here about how tough/difficult our blended family situation is. But we know, this is not new to both me and my husband. We both grew up in complicated families, and it isn’t what we wanted for our kids, but things like divorce and selection happen and life doesn’t always go the way you plan. We know our family situation isn’t the most ideal. But, it’s what’s best for us. Lots of blended families have issues but a lot don’t. DH’s parents were divorced, and his father remarried twice. He has a much younger har-sister with whom he has a great relationship, and his mother also remarried. He also has a great relationship with his stepparents and step siblings and hasn’t been any issues. My parents did not get divorced and wanted to stay together for my younger siblings and I, but they separated and lived in different homes for years at a time, many, many times and had a bad relationship. Considering how awful and terrified I felt waking up at 3 a.m. to them drunk, screaming and arguing, and being only eight years old having to comfort and calm down my crying two and three year old younger siblings, plus seeing how unhappy they were in their marriage and how that affected the way they treated me and my three younger siblings, I could not make my kids grow up in a house with parents who were not happily married.

Ex-H and I made the stupid decision to get married young (early 20s) and we were just not compatible. We couldn’t stay married, and our kids are better off with us divorced. At the time, I tried everything in my power to fix our
marriage and thought about staying for the kids, but looking back at my childhood, I knew that wasn’t the right decision. It’s not my place to speak on DH’a previous marriage, but he went through similar. My husband and I’s happiness and well-being is just as important as our kids’, and we’ve both tried to do everything we can to make sure our kids feel comfortable. Having more kids is something we decided to do because we wanted kids together, that’s really it. This is the only life our three daughters remember/have known, and they aren’t missing out on anything. All three have parents who love them very much much, and there isn’t any drama between ex’s. If my two teens were unhappy with our family situation, trust me, they would have already told me or their dad. They know my background and know I did what I thought was best for them.

We not deeply value and respect our kids’ relationships and alone time with their biological mom/dad. Ex-H regular took my kids out, outside of his custody time to the zoo/museum/camping/hiking/skiing and to go see their aunts, uncles, and cousins on his side of the family when they were younger, and now that they older, he takes our kids to shows/trips. They call/talk to him all the time, and they can go to his house whenever they want. DH and SD also have days where they spend quality time together and he takes her to local fairs, out to eat, amusement parks, sometimes with SD’s mom too. As she gets older and our kids together get older, DH will always continue to make sure to spend one-on-one time with SD.

Our kids love their little brother and are super exited to have a baby sister soon. My teens and my stepdaughter have a very close relationship, and considering the huge age/maturity gap, they got along with each other very well. I love my stepdaughter, I’ve known her since she was baby, she is the sweetest little girl, we’ve built a close bond, and I will do everything I can within reason to make sure it stays that way. My husband’s also an amazing stepdad to my kids. There are a lot of assumptions here about our family that aren’t true, and I understand why. It sounds super complicated and hard, because it is sometimes, but we currently and owing well and we have the resources and support we need. Our kids are still young right now, but if/when issues arise, I am sure we will be ready.

You are so deep in denial. The reason you've posted here is that you ARE having problems! Issues are arising right now! That is why your SD wants to sleep in your room. That is why your DH is crabby. You said "DH and I have been struggling with boundaries". You said "he gets upset when I give him any input/ideas that he hasn’t already noticed or any advice that he doesn’t agree with. I value his opinions and ideas regarding how I parent my teens, but he doesn’t reciprocate and is instead pretty dismissive. Sometimes he’ll get angry and use an irrational reaction." He is NOT being a great dad and husband. You are having issues and you need to get your head out of happy-land and face what's actually happening. Stop being so passive. Divorce and more children do not just "happen". They are choices made by adults. You chose to have more kids and a more complicated family than you and your DH can handle and that is why your SD is upset and your DH is unhappy.

Oh, but you wanted kids together! Oh, love! You say that like it's some kind of magic wand that makes your problems go away, or makes your problems not the predictable result of your choices. Grow up.

Yep. This is what happens when you feed your daughters a steady diet of Disney princesses, folks. OP thinks she's Cinderella or Sleeping Beauty, but she's actually the Evil Stepmother.

[Anonymous]

Why on earth do you keep bringing kids into this? 5 kids?! Teens and a kid who is having a hard time and about to go through puberty a toddler and newborn???? WTF???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: I really do understand the concern mat of you have here about how tough/difficult our blended family situation is. But we know, this is not new to both me and my husband. We both grew up in complicated families, and it isn’t what we wanted for our kids, but things like divorce and selection happen and life doesn’t always go the way you plan. We know our family situation isn’t the most ideal. But, it’s what’s best for us. Lots of blended families have issues but a lot don’t. DH’s parents were divorced, and his father remarried twice. He has a much younger har-sister with whom he has a great relationship, and his mother also remarried. He also has a great relationship with his stepparents and step siblings and hasn’t been any issues. My parents did not get divorced and wanted to stay together for my younger siblings and I, but they separated and lived in different homes for years at a time, many, many times and had a bad relationship. Considering how awful and terrified I felt waking up at 3 a.m. to them drunk, screaming and arguing, and being only eight years old having to comfort and calm down my crying two and three year old younger siblings, plus seeing how unhappy they were in their marriage and how that affected the way they treated me and my three younger siblings, I could not make my kids grow up in a house with parents who were not happily married.

Ex-H and I made the stupid decision to get married young (early 20s) and we were just not compatible. We couldn’t stay married, and our kids are better off with us divorced. At the time, I tried everything in my power to fix our
marriage and thought about staying for the kids, but looking back at my childhood, I knew that wasn’t the right decision. It’s not my place to speak on DH’a previous marriage, but he went through similar. My husband and I’s happiness and well-being is just as important as our kids’, and we’ve both tried to do everything we can to make sure our kids feel comfortable. Having more kids is something we decided to do because we wanted kids together, that’s really it. This is the only life our three daughters remember/have known, and they aren’t missing out on anything. All three have parents who love them very much much, and there isn’t any drama between ex’s. If my two teens were unhappy with our family situation, trust me, they would have already told me or their dad. They know my background and know I did what I thought was best for them.

We not deeply value and respect our kids’ relationships and alone time with their biological mom/dad. Ex-H regular took my kids out, outside of his custody time to the zoo/museum/camping/hiking/skiing and to go see their aunts, uncles, and cousins on his side of the family when they were younger, and now that they older, he takes our kids to shows/trips. They call/talk to him all the time, and they can go to his house whenever they want. DH and SD also have days where they spend quality time together and he takes her to local fairs, out to eat, amusement parks, sometimes with SD’s mom too. As she gets older and our kids together get older, DH will always continue to make sure to spend one-on-one time with SD.

Our kids love their little brother and are super exited to have a baby sister soon. My teens and my stepdaughter have a very close relationship, and considering the huge age/maturity gap, they got along with each other very well. I love my stepdaughter, I’ve known her since she was baby, she is the sweetest little girl, we’ve built a close bond, and I will do everything I can within reason to make sure it stays that way. My husband’s also an amazing stepdad to my kids. There are a lot of assumptions here about our family that aren’t true, and I understand why. It sounds super complicated and hard, because it is sometimes, but we currently and owing well and we have the resources and support we need. Our kids are still young right now, but if/when issues arise, I am sure we will be ready.

If everything is so peachy then why are you on this forum asking for advice?

[Anonymous]

Oh please, just stop with the "Our kids love their little brother and are super exited to have a baby sister soon."

The kids are 17, 15, and 10. Of course they are going to say they love their little brother and maybe are excited about the idea of having a baby sister, but there is no way they all would willingly choose to have another baby in the house instead of getting more attention from the parents.

Duh - the 10 year old wants to sleep in your bed because she realizes she is getting kicked to the curb when the new cute younger sister arrives. She is no longer going to be the baby girl in the house.

Your husband realizes this as well and has to be thinking, he had a girl and then a boy with you and two step daughters, so he might have been done with you guys just having one child together. And meanwhile you are ranting over some cheap broken headphones that she needs replaced when he dad makes 7 figures? You have way bigger problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh please, just stop with the "Our kids love their little brother and are super exited to have a baby sister soon."

The kids are 17, 15, and 10. Of course they are going to say they love their little brother and maybe are excited about the idea of having a baby sister, but there is no way they all would willingly choose to have another baby in the house instead of getting more attention from the parents.

Duh - the 10 year old wants to sleep in your bed because she realizes she is getting kicked to the curb when the new cute younger sister arrives. She is no longer going to be the baby girl in the house.

Your husband realizes this as well and has to be thinking, he had a girl and then a boy with you and two step daughters, so he might have been done with you guys just having one child together. And meanwhile you are ranting over some cheap broken headphones that she needs replaced when he dad makes 7 figures? You have way bigger problems.

So do you. If you honestly think this is the way children think about other children in the family.

I guess you were never raised in a household where the kids actually love each other. Including half siblings. Sorry for you. But that doesn't make it true for everyone and if this is how you view other families, you're thinking is very skewed.

And a 10 year old wanting to be considered the "baby girl" and sleeping in parents' bed is not normal either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: I really do understand the concern mat of you have here about how tough/difficult our blended family situation is. But we know, this is not new to both me and my husband. We both grew up in complicated families, and it isn’t what we wanted for our kids, but things like divorce and selection happen and life doesn’t always go the way you plan. We know our family situation isn’t the most ideal. But, it’s what’s best for us. Lots of blended families have issues but a lot don’t. DH’s parents were divorced, and his father remarried twice. He has a much younger har-sister with whom he has a great relationship, and his mother also remarried. He also has a great relationship with his stepparents and step siblings and hasn’t been any issues. My parents did not get divorced and wanted to stay together for my younger siblings and I, but they separated and lived in different homes for years at a time, many, many times and had a bad relationship. Considering how awful and terrified I felt waking up at 3 a.m. to them drunk, screaming and arguing, and being only eight years old having to comfort and calm down my crying two and three year old younger siblings, plus seeing how unhappy they were in their marriage and how that affected the way they treated me and my three younger siblings, I could not make my kids grow up in a house with parents who were not happily married.

Ex-H and I made the stupid decision to get married young (early 20s) and we were just not compatible. We couldn’t stay married, and our kids are better off with us divorced. At the time, I tried everything in my power to fix our
marriage and thought about staying for the kids, but looking back at my childhood, I knew that wasn’t the right decision. It’s not my place to speak on DH’a previous marriage, but he went through similar. My husband and I’s happiness and well-being is just as important as our kids’, and we’ve both tried to do everything we can to make sure our kids feel comfortable. Having more kids is something we decided to do because we wanted kids together, that’s really it. This is the only life our three daughters remember/have known, and they aren’t missing out on anything. All three have parents who love them very much much, and there isn’t any drama between ex’s. If my two teens were unhappy with our family situation, trust me, they would have already told me or their dad. They know my background and know I did what I thought was best for them.

We not deeply value and respect our kids’ relationships and alone time with their biological mom/dad. Ex-H regular took my kids out, outside of his custody time to the zoo/museum/camping/hiking/skiing and to go see their aunts, uncles, and cousins on his side of the family when they were younger, and now that they older, he takes our kids to shows/trips. They call/talk to him all the time, and they can go to his house whenever they want. DH and SD also have days where they spend quality time together and he takes her to local fairs, out to eat, amusement parks, sometimes with SD’s mom too. As she gets older and our kids together get older, DH will always continue to make sure to spend one-on-one time with SD.

Our kids love their little brother and are super exited to have a baby sister soon. My teens and my stepdaughter have a very close relationship, and considering the huge age/maturity gap, they got along with each other very well. I love my stepdaughter, I’ve known her since she was baby, she is the sweetest little girl, we’ve built a close bond, and I will do everything I can within reason to make sure it stays that way. My husband’s also an amazing stepdad to my kids. There are a lot of assumptions here about our family that aren’t true, and I understand why. It sounds super complicated and hard, because it is sometimes, but we currently and owing well and we have the resources and support we need. Our kids are still young right now, but if/when issues arise, I am sure we will be ready.

Sounds like you're assessing the situation with a clear set of eyes, and aren't at all invested in making everyone believe that everyone is happy! kids are resilient! they are not missing out on anything! because your happiness.

[Anonymous]

You need to talk to the girls mom to get on the same page about co parenting. He has no time or energy to handle it. Plus this poor kid is going to be so confused to have such different household expectations, and it will only get rockier in the coming teen years. Bribe the mom, woo her, do whatever it takes to get on her good side so you guys can come up with a plan to present a unified team to your stepdaughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So your current husband pays all the expenses for two kids that aren’t even his? He pays your part of their housing, food, living expenses, clothes, vacations etc? And then he is on the hook if 100% of expenses and costs for himself and you and your shared kids and his own daughter.

How talk about taking advantage of someone!

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[Anonymous]

You are a mess OP.

Only a terrible mother makes the selfish choices you have.