Anonymous wrote:Between my kids, parents, friend, job and hobbies, I redirected my energy completely away from my husband. It was like flipping a switch and I just don’t care about him in the slightest. I haven’t divorced simply because I don’t feel like it. I haven’t an attorney, am ready to file at any time, but going through it right now isn’t what’s best for me.
This is my best friend, who is a strong person who can control her emotions better than most of us. She and her husband have an elementary-aged child, and she's not leaving anytime soon because her husband is an addict and will demand 50% custody, but is a danger to their child if left alone. She confronted him about the cheating (the tip-off was a love letter from his AP in a card he left lying around their house), and he denied it all and claimed he was framed. So, he knows she knows, but I think he assumes they now have an understanding. She has seen an attorney and has a plan, and she now closely monitors all their finances. In the event he files, she's ready. However, she has essentially decided not to file for divorce anytime soon proactively. He's a high earner, they have a nice house, and he's never around anyway, so she finds fulfillment in being a parent, friend, sibling, and through her job and hobbies. She's got a good therapist. She spends money "pampering" herself now more than ever. She's also considered "dating" on the side, but decided against it for now as it's not a complication she needs. I'm sure they'll divorce when her son leaves for college, but until then, she's just focused on herself like PP>
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