ADHD college kid overwhelmed by assignments

[Anonymous]

Thanks for starting this thread. We have a similar DC getting ready for college and I’ve been thinking about what support and knowledge would be helpful when he’s on his own. High achieving kid with exec function weakness. I also think in college focused courses in his areas of interest will be helpful.

[Anonymous]

You need to engage the disability services office to get accommodations, which, in our student’s case meant a reduced courseload, coaching, more time on assignments. etc. but you usually have to have a complete neuropsych done in order to engage disability services. Do that the summer before entering college if you don’t already have one. If you have one, your college may require you to update it (usually every three years).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes she talked to her professors and they were accommodating, giving her extensions for assignments. However it’s still hard for her to get assignments done, sometimes it’s just very hard for her to start, even though the assignments are not hard according to her. She told me she wished there was someone who could get things together for her. That’s had been an issue at home but I used to help her. She is a very smart girl, just not good at managing her time.

Totally understand. I feel like I am a secretary for my son, reminding him of what’s on the list all the time. He could get a tippy top score in a hard exam, but also get 0 in an easy project if he missed something. I am so worried. Can you remotely help her in some way? Like sending her important reminders, checking her progress from time to time? This is not helicopter parenting. They need help all their lifetime.

What's your plan for when you die or are unable to manage your son's schedule?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all your sharing. I’m going to talk to her on getting an EF coach. I agree she needs to develop essential skills, or try to get a job that comes with an executive assistant.

Omg try to get a job that comes with an executive assistant. That poor executive assistant.

[Anonymous]

She's got to figure this out on her own. The real world isn't going to offer extended deadlines and babysit her at work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's got to figure this out on her own. The real world isn't going to offer extended deadlines and babysit her at work.

OP will pay for an executive assistant when her child enters the real world. It will be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes she talked to her professors and they were accommodating, giving her extensions for assignments. However it’s still hard for her to get assignments done, sometimes it’s just very hard for her to start, even though the assignments are not hard according to her. She told me she wished there was someone who could get things together for her. That’s had been an issue at home but I used to help her. She is a very smart girl, just not good at managing her time.

Totally understand. I feel like I am a secretary for my son, reminding him of what’s on the list all the time. He could get a tippy top score in a hard exam, but also get 0 in an easy project if he missed something. I am so worried. Can you remotely help her in some way? Like sending her important reminders, checking her progress from time to time? This is not helicopter parenting. They need help all their lifetime.

What's your plan for when you die or are unable to manage your son's schedule?

By that time AI will be able to handle those things that PP did.

[Anonymous]

ADHD kids mature more slowly and need more guidance. EF often doesn't come naturally to them, but they can learn. They often have strengths nonADHD people don't. They can be extremely creative, for example. There is a lot of good advice on this thread but also a lot of ignorant comments from people who have no experience with ADHD. Our kid wouldn't trade their brain, but it comes with huge challenges too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's got to figure this out on her own. The real world isn't going to offer extended deadlines and babysit her at work.

OP will pay for an executive assistant when her child enters the real world. It will be fine.

Op won't pay. Op will call the supervisor of her child's entry level position and demand work provide an executive assistant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ADHD kids mature more slowly and need more guidance. EF often doesn't come naturally to them, but they can learn. They often have strengths nonADHD people don't. They can be extremely creative, for example. There is a lot of good advice on this thread but also a lot of ignorant comments from people who have no experience with ADHD. Our kid wouldn't trade their brain, but it comes with huge challenges too.

that's great, but as a boss I don't care about your extremely creative mind when you are unable to meet deadlines.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ADHD kids mature more slowly and need more guidance. EF often doesn't come naturally to them, but they can learn. They often have strengths nonADHD people don't. They can be extremely creative, for example. There is a lot of good advice on this thread but also a lot of ignorant comments from people who have no experience with ADHD. Our kid wouldn't trade their brain, but it comes with huge challenges too.

that's great, but as a boss I don't care about your extremely creative mind when you are unable to meet deadlines.

Don’t worry boss. PP’s kid will be using AI to creatively meet your deadlines, and will probably taking over your position sooner than you think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ADHD kids mature more slowly and need more guidance. EF often doesn't come naturally to them, but they can learn. They often have strengths nonADHD people don't. They can be extremely creative, for example. There is a lot of good advice on this thread but also a lot of ignorant comments from people who have no experience with ADHD. Our kid wouldn't trade their brain, but it comes with huge challenges too.

that's great, but as a boss I don't care about your extremely creative mind when you are unable to meet deadlines.

Don’t worry boss. PP’s kid will be using AI to creatively meet your deadlines, and will probably taking over your position sooner than you think.

More likely PP's kid will be overwhelmed trying to make it to work on time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ADHD kids mature more slowly and need more guidance. EF often doesn't come naturally to them, but they can learn. They often have strengths nonADHD people don't. They can be extremely creative, for example. There is a lot of good advice on this thread but also a lot of ignorant comments from people who have no experience with ADHD. Our kid wouldn't trade their brain, but it comes with huge challenges too.

that's great, but as a boss I don't care about your extremely creative mind when you are unable to meet deadlines.

Don’t worry boss. PP’s kid will be using AI to creatively meet your deadlines, and will probably taking over your position sooner than you think.

Lol, the one who is tired and can't meet deadlines without a babysitter...sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ADHD kids mature more slowly and need more guidance. EF often doesn't come naturally to them, but they can learn. They often have strengths nonADHD people don't. They can be extremely creative, for example. There is a lot of good advice on this thread but also a lot of ignorant comments from people who have no experience with ADHD. Our kid wouldn't trade their brain, but it comes with huge challenges too.

that's great, but as a boss I don't care about your extremely creative mind when you are unable to meet deadlines.

Don’t worry boss. PP’s kid will be using AI to creatively meet your deadlines, and will probably taking over your position sooner than you think.

More likely PP's kid will be overwhelmed trying to make it to work on time.

And you say that with glee?

You should be ashamed of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ADHD kids mature more slowly and need more guidance. EF often doesn't come naturally to them, but they can learn. They often have strengths nonADHD people don't. They can be extremely creative, for example. There is a lot of good advice on this thread but also a lot of ignorant comments from people who have no experience with ADHD. Our kid wouldn't trade their brain, but it comes with huge challenges too.

that's great, but as a boss I don't care about your extremely creative mind when you are unable to meet deadlines.

Don’t worry boss. PP’s kid will be using AI to creatively meet your deadlines, and will probably taking over your position sooner than you think.

More likely PP's kid will be overwhelmed trying to make it to work on time.

And you say that with glee?

You should be ashamed of yourself.

There's an element of truth to it. The sooner people realize it, the better off their kids will be. 20 some years of special extensions has drawbacks.