Is alcohol still an appropriate gift? Has the new Surgeon General warning impacted whether you'd gift it?

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Anonymous wrote:Whatever the benefits of it, is far outweighed by the harm. I personally hate getting a bottle of wine, especially from people who know I don’t drink. I just throw it away. I hate that it’s so ingrained in our culture. We had a mom bring wine to a girls scout meeting recently. In this day and age, you don’t know who doesn’t drink, or is struggling with addiction, or gave it up for health reasons, there are better options for hostess gifts.

There is nothing wrong with bringing a bottle of wine to a dinner party. There is nothing wrong with consuming a glass of wine with dinner. But please do let people know that you're throwing it away so they don't bother spending money. I'm sure they would rather not socialise with you too.

The PP said she doesn't drink. What is she supposed to do? Drink it anyway. It's fine to bring your own bottle of wine to a party to consume, but it's tacky to bring it as a gift if you know for a fact the person doesn't drink.

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I wouldn't have gifted alcohol anyway. I've never thought of alcohol as an appropriate gift. Not outside of very specific circumstances anyway (if a friendship revolves around a love of wine, if you know someone drinks a particular extremely expensive scotch and has shared it with you on special occasions, or something like that).

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Anonymous wrote:Former alcoholic here. Wine is a great gift and the best part is that it’s easily regiftable. Please no more hand towels or tchotchkes

There is no such thing ^^

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Anonymous wrote:Whatever the benefits of it, is far outweighed by the harm. I personally hate getting a bottle of wine, especially from people who know I don’t drink. I just throw it away. I hate that it’s so ingrained in our culture. We had a mom bring wine to a girls scout meeting recently. In this day and age, you don’t know who doesn’t drink, or is struggling with addiction, or gave it up for health reasons, there are better options for hostess gifts.

There is nothing wrong with bringing a bottle of wine to a dinner party. There is nothing wrong with consuming a glass of wine with dinner. But please do let people know that you're throwing it away so they don't bother spending money. I'm sure they would rather not socialise with you too.

The PP said she doesn't drink. What is she supposed to do? Drink it anyway. It's fine to bring your own bottle of wine to a party to consume, but it's tacky to bring it as a gift if you know for a fact the person doesn't drink.

As I said, these are neighbors who i have already told I dont drink. If its someone new, I tell tell I dont and ask if they’d like to gift it to someone else. I socialize with a diverse group of people, many of whom do drink but they know to have nonalcoholic options.

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I agree alcohol is lazy

It is a consumable though - so not adding clutter- but yeah it’s unfortunately for a lot of non-drinkers a gift they get

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Anonymous wrote:Whatever the benefits of it, is far outweighed by the harm. I personally hate getting a bottle of wine, especially from people who know I don’t drink. I just throw it away. I hate that it’s so ingrained in our culture. We had a mom bring wine to a girls scout meeting recently. In this day and age, you don’t know who doesn’t drink, or is struggling with addiction, or gave it up for health reasons, there are better options for hostess gifts.

There is nothing wrong with bringing a bottle of wine to a dinner party. There is nothing wrong with consuming a glass of wine with dinner. But please do let people know that you're throwing it away so they don't bother spending money. I'm sure they would rather not socialise with you too.

The holier than thou PP is just not intelligent or educated enough to understand the data and clearly doesn't interact with mentally stable people who can drink alcohol in a way that enhances their lives--with control and moderation.

You are hilarious do a search online it comes right up any alcohol shortens your life even 1 drink a day, how lazy are you? Maybe put the drink down instead of going back and forth with me like a moron and do your own research it takes two seconds.

You know you're replying to multiple posters calling you out for your outlandish statements, right? And your statement just confirms that you are not knowledgable or educated. You say it takes seconds to find this information? So can you not see that people like you, who take seconds to reach these conclusions are not thoroughly studying the issue? You're reading only the clickbait headlines then reaching a conclusion. So again, I assert, you are not educated. And that's all fine, bu you have educated people on here clarifying the facts for you, yet you continue to maintain that the headlines found with a 2-second internet search hold all the correct answers.

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Anonymous wrote:Has the new Surgeon General warning impacted if you'd give alcohol as a gift?

It has used to be the option to bring a bottle of wine to a party etc.

Eff the surgeon general. Ain’t no point in living long if you can’t enjoy life. I love a good buzz. Booze is always welcome here.

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Non drinkers are becoming as exhausting as vegans. How can you tell someone isn’t drinking at dinner? Because they won’t stop talking about it.

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Anonymous wrote:Whatever the benefits of it, is far outweighed by the harm. I personally hate getting a bottle of wine, especially from people who know I don’t drink. I just throw it away. I hate that it’s so ingrained in our culture. We had a mom bring wine to a girls scout meeting recently. In this day and age, you don’t know who doesn’t drink, or is struggling with addiction, or gave it up for health reasons, there are better options for hostess gifts.

Could not agree more. I think it’s actually a thoughtless host gift.

I am one of the sober alcoholics above (high five, more than one of us here!) who doesn’t mind wine, etc as a gift. I just regift it or use it at that or another party. I have a shelf of wine and liquor for parties…I am not the kind of alcoholic that can’t be around booze or have it in the house. I decided I was done with alcohol and I’m done.

I am also of the mind I don’t particularly know what a thoughtful hostess gift would be, and am not sure I want those because I don’t want to have to display it next time you are over. Candles or chocolate or flowers aren’t any more “thoughtful” and while I like candles, many people hate them so they aren’t as regiftable.

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We all now know without doubt that alcohol shortens your life. So yes, if you hope someone dies sooner rather than later, definitely gift them some good alcohol.

What COVID, MAHA, and now this whole
kerfuffle about alcohol has really made obvious is that scientific education is seriously lacking. People are following the science without actually knowing what the science says.

For example, alcohol hasn’t been shown to shorten your life, certainly not without a doubt.

Perhaps it’s the added pesticides.

I certainly don’t think they add pesticides to wine.

They do, unless you get organic wine.

[Anonymous]

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We all now know without doubt that alcohol shortens your life. So yes, if you hope someone dies sooner rather than later, definitely gift them some good alcohol.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
We all now know without doubt that alcohol shortens your life. So yes, if you hope someone dies sooner rather than later, definitely gift them some good alcohol.

What COVID, MAHA, and now this whole
kerfuffle about alcohol has really made obvious is that scientific education is seriously lacking. People are following the science without actually knowing what the science says.

For example, alcohol hasn’t been shown to shorten your life, certainly not without a doubt.

Perhaps it’s the added pesticides.

I certainly don’t think they add pesticides to wine.

They do, unless you get organic wine.

OMG. Organic food has pesticides, just “organic” ones. Why do people constantly think organic don’t have pesticides? You have been sold a bill of goods with that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has the new Surgeon General warning impacted if you'd give alcohol as a gift?

It has used to be the option to bring a bottle of wine to a party etc.

Yeah, actually I host pretty often and get so many bottles of wine which, if not served at the party, I never drink. I'm always kind of bummed out by the gift. Maybe time to switch to something else as a default hostess gift.

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Anonymous wrote:Has the new Surgeon General warning impacted if you'd give alcohol as a gift?

It has used to be the option to bring a bottle of wine to a party etc.

Yeah, actually I host pretty often and get so many bottles of wine which, if not served at the party, I never drink. I'm always kind of bummed out by the gift. Maybe time to switch to something else as a default hostess gift.

When I give wine or champagne as a gift, it's a specific bottle I have chosen from a winery in Napa where I have a membership or from a shop that has unique options. But, given the latest, I agree it may be time to rethink alcohol as a gift.

Having read DCUM for more than a decade, however, I can tell you right now that there is NO hostess gift that won't be trashed by someone on here. They dont want food or anything sweet because it might clash with their menu. Nobody wants flowers because it means they have to go searching for a vase mid-party. And tea towels at tchotchkes - absolutely not, vulgar.

So what in the world do we do?

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Anonymous wrote:Alcohol is a lazy gift, tbh. Unless you know the person really likes and rarely has a certain kind of high-quality alcohol, whatever red you picked up on the way, last-minute, is a poor gift.

And if the only thing you know about the person is "I heard you like drinking!" well... you're either in your early 20s or you need to find some sober friends.

No, a bottle of wine is a completely normal gift.

For/from an alcoholic, sure. Otherwise, it's a lazy gift that requires no thought about what the recipient likes or who they are beyond "a person who drinks". If that's not your identity, the point stands.

This poster is clearly chafed that no one is giving them an identity-affirming gift like roll of toilet paper or a bidet.

Why do I get the impression that this poster doesn't have a lot of experience but invited anywhere anymore.

Did you drunkpost this?! WTF are you even trying to say?