Baby at 43

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it shifts if you are currently childless vs already having children- the latter, slightly selfish. I can't imagine having a dependent and also having to deal with menopause. I also think many women love the early years so much that they forget that adult children are also wonderful with milestones, and it makes me sad to think of lowering my chances for being around for that (graduation, marriage, career growth. Etc).

The average age of menopause is 51-52. Are you suggesting that a woman shouldn't have children after 34 because they'll still be minors during probable onset of menopause?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it shifts if you are currently childless vs already having children- the latter, slightly selfish. I can't imagine having a dependent and also having to deal with menopause. I also think many women love the early years so much that they forget that adult children are also wonderful with milestones, and it makes me sad to think of lowering my chances for being around for that (graduation, marriage, career growth. Etc).

The average age of menopause is 51-52. Are you suggesting that a woman shouldn't have children after 34 because they'll still be minors during probable onset of menopause?

Women can have children whenever they want. It's not something I would desire if I already had children as undeniably there is a big difference in physical demands and overall dependence from a parent between a 7-9 year old vs 17-18 (should have been more clear when I said "dependent," my fault).