I wonder about the mental health consequences of over-protecting kids. |
No worse than board games that can teach social skills and strategy or art projects that develop hand strength and coordination or reading that can develop vocabulary, etc etc....? |
Not getting a trampoline is not over protecting. It is very common for kids to have serious accidents, I personally know one teen who fractured her spine and has metal and pins in her back as a result and another kid who was just standing by a trampoline when the jumper landed on him and broke his collarbone. Also, if your insurance finds out you have one many will cancel you. |
I’m a single parent and my DS in now 19. I’m a teacher and I used to clean houses on weekends to make extra money. My son would watch TV for hours while I cleaned (later he started helping me). Now he’s in a top college often mentioned on DCUM. I watched TV for hours every day as a kid as did my friends. We are all successful people.
My one caveat comes from being a teacher and hearing from parents that their kid is allowed to be unsupervised on a tablet/phone. This is not okay. One of my kindergarteners started attacking other students at recess. He had been watching mixed martial arts videos online and his mom said she had no idea. She put on a kid’s video but didn’t supervise him so she eventually found he switched to these violent videos. |
Yes - there is a kid in my DD's class with a ton of issues with violence, fighting, and inappropriate language (we are talking telling the teacher to F off) and he reports that he is constantly on Youtube. They are military with a lot of kids and I think the mom has a lot on her plate so I can see how it happens but the behavior is bad and the connection is obvious. |
Totally fine!! |
OP I don't think it's a horrible habit, but you have to decide what you want your kids to do.
I can solo parent my similarly aged kids while cooking dinner and they are reading, crafting, hanging out in the yard, or doing other non-screen things. They don't have access to a tablet except occasionally over the summer (in a public space of the house) for math review. We've been low screen during the week since they were little and this is what they are used to. It took work at first but now it's easy. On the weekends they get movie night - just them because we parents are usually busy despite our intention to watch as a family - and Wii time together so we are definitely not no screens at all. Your kids will likely grow up just as creative and intelligent and happy as mine. I just enjoy seeing what mine come up with to fill their time and they seem happy with it, so that's what we do. But you do you. |
I definitely watched two hours of tv a day as a kid. As a parent, my kids barely get two hours a week of screen time and I keep them too busy for it and say ho more than half the time they ask. |
This. There is a big gap between "horrible" and "not ideal." You and your DH have to decide how you want to parent your kids. The internet can't answer that for you. |
They are extreme outliers. I have 2 elementary school kids and I can’t think of anyone we know who doesn’t allow tv. As long as they still have activities, spend time outside playing, see friends, get enough family time sans screens (like we do family dinner w no screens), get their homework done/spend time reading every day, eat healthy, and get enough sleep, and as long as they’re not watching age inappropriate stuff, screens aren’t a big deal. It’s a balance. |
I’m not anti screens but this is not the only option. Why can’t you take the kids w you while you walk the dog? I live somewhere much colder than DC (upper Midwest) and we go outside for walks daily unless it’s raining or like below zero temps. |
Earlier you said 5-10 mins now it’s 10-15 so I’m guessing it’s really 15-20… |
Looking back on my teens' childhood, I know that they gained a lot from free time doing imaginative play, making crafty/artsy things on their own, writing stories, and reading. It can harder than giving them a screen, so you might not be able to make it happen while you're out walking the dog or whatever. But I do think kids need and benefit from time to think and imagine and create things. |
I agree. But I don’t want to come off as judgmental— especially because you have 3 kids and are solo parenting a lot of the time. That is really hard. But I don’t think this is great or “fine.” My family doesn’t do this— we only have the tv on to watch a specific show or movie, so maybe a couple of times a week. I also agree that tv is way better than just giving your kids tablets and letting them do whatever. But—Is it the end of the world to watch 1-2 hours of tv a day? No, I think we watched way more tv as kids, and it was fine. We have to make imperfect choices as parents and I totally get why you are making this one! But if you have the means to cut down on it, I would try to. |
Did people here really watch more tv than 1-2 hours a day in elementary school? I don’t think I did! We watched maybe one half hour show after dinner. |