Age gap or no?

[Anonymous]

I went to college at 17 and had a fake idea, went out with men in their late 20s and beyond... Granted different maturity levels. I don't think the age gap is a problem per se, more about match in maturity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. If she were a 17 year old senior I must feel differently. She's a17 year old junior she doesn't need college friends or a 20 year old boyfriend.

She told you about it she wants an easy out

This. If she really wants to get a coffee with him I think that’s fine but she doesn’t need college friends nor does she need to date someone in college. When she is a freshman in college he will be a senior and they will both be over 18. Lots of reasons to say no to this. The power imbalance is what bothers me though. There is an imbalance and that’s not a good recipe for starting a relationship. Also, what if something happens and it’s uncomfortable for them to be in class together? The more I think about it the more the only answer is no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mom, you've made this way harder on yourself by setting-up this scenario. Since here you are, I think all you can hope for is adherence to this rule: she's 17. He dates her as if he were 17 too. The youngest age and rules for that age determines it. Curfew, locations. Ideally, time spent at your house. With the family, ideally.

Good luck. Many of us would be in college at 18, so not much older but our parents didn't have to witness this. She's a junior? You redshirted her?

Another anti red shirter who can't seem to math. My on-time January child will be 17 for half their junior year.

Exactly, my on time December kid is in the same spot...