Where to store alcohol in a home with teens

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Locking up alcohol as if it were a gun is insane. Try parenting instead.

This- the problem is not the alcohol

Even the best kids will experiment no matter how good the parenting is. My friends and I did it. Hide it, lock it up.

I didn’t. Neither did my close friends. We were told that alcohol messes with your judgment, and none of us wanted that.

We were told that alcohol makes you fat, and none of us wanted that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My teen is not adventuring into alcohol but I’m unsure about his friends. We have a spare fridge in a main part of the basement with alcoholic beverages that my husband and his friends use. Where to store this to eliminate teen access?

If you have to hide alcohol from your teens then there is a problem at home. I could keep a bottle of opened wine in my fridge for months and my teen wouldn’t touch it. Just like if I left my purse open with $20 bills spilling out of it they wouldn’t bother they either. Now I do ration out the Oreo cookies or they will be eaten without any constraint. I put 4 or so in a baggy a day.

Why can’t they control themselves around Oreos? What did you do differently there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Locking up alcohol as if it were a gun is insane. Try parenting instead.

This- the problem is not the alcohol

Even the best kids will experiment no matter how good the parenting is. My friends and I did it. Hide it, lock it up.

I didn’t. Neither did my close friends. We were told that alcohol messes with your judgment, and none of us wanted that.

Same here. I waited until I was 21, which made me an extreme outlier.

I'm still not naive enough to believe that my kids or their friends will never get curious. "My kid would never do that" are words that often get disproved, whether you're aware of it or not.

[Anonymous]

Locking cabinet or file cabinet.

[Anonymous]

Our beer fridge is in the garage. In our old house, it was in the storage/laundry room. Our liquor cabinet is in the dining room and we're usually around. If you really don't trust your kid, then you need an alarm on the door. Our alarm system has a setting where you can set a sensor to send a notification without any sound if a door is opened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Locking up alcohol as if it were a gun is insane. Try parenting instead.

This- the problem is not the alcohol

Even the best kids will experiment no matter how good the parenting is. My friends and I did it. Hide it, lock it up.

I didn’t. Neither did my close friends. We were told that alcohol messes with your judgment, and none of us wanted that.

+1 for locking it up. i was a really good kid for the most part. straight As, travel athlete, church volunteer.... and even then we would sneak booze from my friends' house whose parents did not lock it up or just casually kept it out. i am also from the MW my best friends parents had the bar in the basement thing. My parents did not keep booze in the house after i turned 15. YMMV, but i say lock it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re worried, keep an indoor camera on the alcohol that alerts your phone when someone goes near it.

Really. Why would you do this? Just live the booze or talk w your son if you think it’s gonna be a problem. How old is he?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you’re worried, keep an indoor camera on the alcohol that alerts your phone when someone goes near it.

Really. Why would you do this? Just live the booze or talk w your son if you think it’s gonna be a problem. How old is he?

*move

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My teen is not adventuring into alcohol but I’m unsure about his friends. We have a spare fridge in a main part of the basement with alcoholic beverages that my husband and his friends use. Where to store this to eliminate teen access?

If you have to hide alcohol from your teens then there is a problem at home. I could keep a bottle of opened wine in my fridge for months and my teen wouldn’t touch it. Just like if I left my purse open with $20 bills spilling out of it they wouldn’t bother they either. Now I do ration out the Oreo cookies or they will be eaten without any constraint. I put 4 or so in a baggy a day.

Why can’t they control themselves around Oreos? What did you do differently there?

Are you actually comparing alcohol to Oreo cookies?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Locking up alcohol as if it were a gun is insane. Try parenting instead.

This- the problem is not the alcohol

Even the best kids will experiment no matter how good the parenting is. My friends and I did it. Hide it, lock it up.

Not true. There are actually good kids out there. I guess you just weren’t one of them.

Kids who experiment with alcohol are bad kids, and kids that don’t are good kids?
Lord, lady. You’re an a$$hole.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Locking up alcohol as if it were a gun is insane. Try parenting instead.

100% this. We lock nothing. Our kids made it to become functioning adults.

Not the PP but guess what, we are a house that hosts all of the time. Sleepovers, bbq's, 10 kids over on a Friday night, team dinners, etc...

It is my responsibility as a parent to not allow any access to alcohol to anyone underage, just the same if I had a gun (which we don't.) That also takes off any pressure my teens may have to "parent" their friends who may want to make a wrong decision.

Sounds like you had introverted teens and you never had anyone else over.

This. My son and his friends had free rein of the basement until he went to college. Part of being able to allow that was keeping DH's poker night alcohol locked up. I wasn't really concerned that my son or his core group of friends would drink then, but sometimes there were new kids who came to hang out. And you never really know.

Also, I'm guessing a lot of the responders don't have kids in college yet. You would be amazed at the attitude shift in teens once they spend a semester at college where drinking and drugs are common place. My son is now a college sophomore and we're actually more concerned about potential drinking now than before because it seems like many of his friends just assume it's ok now since they've been at school (and many of them are 20). Not only is everything locked up but we've made it clear that they are not allowed to BYOB and we're considering increasing our supervision depending on who is over (e.g., popping down to say hi and look at what they are drinking). I actually wouldn't care if my 20 y/o son wanted to drink a beer while hanging out with family, but am not ok with taking on the responsibility of implicitly allowing under age drinking in my home.

Many of you who keep alcohol accessible need to consider what your liability would be if a teen drinks at your house and then gets in an accident. I am rolling my eyes so hard at "we have trust instead of locks". These are teenagers and they are playing you. Get a grip on reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My teen is not adventuring into alcohol but I’m unsure about his friends. We have a spare fridge in a main part of the basement with alcoholic beverages that my husband and his friends use. Where to store this to eliminate teen access?

If you have to hide alcohol from your teens then there is a problem at home. I could keep a bottle of opened wine in my fridge for months and my teen wouldn’t touch it. Just like if I left my purse open with $20 bills spilling out of it they wouldn’t bother they either. Now I do ration out the Oreo cookies or they will be eaten without any constraint. I put 4 or so in a baggy a day.

[Anonymous]

Bottle locks or locked cabinet. If you think your kid's friends are drinkers, don't be surprised if they get around your locks by bringing their own. Might need to have a talk to your kid about their friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Our alcohol sits out like a [b]normal family. [i]We do keep the weed locked up though!

There's nothing normal aboit having alcohol out in the open in your home. It may be typical or common, but it is not normal.

Those words all mean the same thing LOL.

[Anonymous]

Hard alcohol keep in your bedroom as that’s the stuff it’s hard to track. And also is too easy to get dangerously wasted on.

I’d keep like cans or bottles of beer etc lighter stuff in that fridge and just keep an eye on quantities. You’d want it cold and I don’t think you should have to hide it away just bc kids are over who might steal it. Then if it actually happens, address that or make a change