I’d rather have stuck to 2 rather than 3+ kids if it meant I couldn’t afford a babysitter to attend my friends’ and family weddings. |
Um no. I have three kids and they are most definitely not a package. |
You need a new group of friends, OP. I have never ever had friends show up for a poker night with their kids! And we all have them. |
Why is American culture so anti-children? It is so bizarre to me that people have issues with children being a part of life. |
Children don’t belong at a poker night. It’s not anti children to note that. |
. I don’t think it’s American culture. It’s economics. Families don’t think about consequences of having so many kids. They don’t think “Oh, I’ll never be alone with my husband again or any other adult, I’ll not be able to attend weddings, concerts and other events. I won’t afford college. I won’t be able to afford vacations that involve flying.” A French woman would never think of herself as a package with all her kids. I can’t imagine who in Europe would. It’s a psychological problem if one doesn’t see the boundaries between persons. Parents have their own lives and children have their own lives. Parents don’t have to sit through children parties and children don’t need to attend adult events. In America you just can’t afford it. |
I think it is American culture (mostly Western and anti children). Why is a wedding an adult only event? Traditionally, in eastern cultures, it’s a family affair and children are welcome. Framing it as a psychological problem is BS. The people with the psych problems are the ones with the deep seated resentment of children. Maybe they had a bad childhood and their trauma lead to self hatred and projection by getting annoyed seeing children anywhere. |
I live in FCC where the mayor's husband molested 3 girls in his basement and no one in town believed them. Of course until years later his neice caught him on tape admitting to molesting her. I use sound parenting techniques where children are not left alone with adults in a situation that could leave them vulnerable to sexual abuse. If you don't do that, up to you. My kids are in daycare, activities and public school. |
You sound like you need therapy. Honestly, it’s weird to write paragraphs about all “these people” with 3+ kids who bring them everywhere because they can’t organize a babysitter when they drop their eldest off at piano (did I get that right? Are you a bitter piano teacher?). When was the last time something like this negatively impacted you and what is the frequency? Get a life. |
If your friend claimed she couldn’t come to your wedding because she couldn’t afford a babysitter, it’s probably because she would *actually* prefer to hang out with her kids and watch a movie or play a board game than go to your wedding. Sorry. |
Did you miss how they clog the way and make everyone go around them? Its obnoxious. Guess you live in a place devoid of families. |
Same. I bring them when appropriate and don’t when it’s not. I can get many things done quicker and more efficiently when they stay home with spouse. Then we can spend actual quality time together after. I also don’t view taking the family to a doctor appointment together as time well spent. |
Was the mayor's husband babysitting them? It is a strange logical leap to read a news story like that and decide your kids will never have a babysitter. |
Why are you so bothered by having to go around them? Just go around them. Can you not walk? Maybe you can should move somewhere devoid of families. |
I have 3 kids. I keep my kids out of the way when we are out together. We don’t all hold hands demanding people get out of our way. It's not hard to pay attention to your surroundings and not be a selfish jerk. We see you. You seem very upset a oit this. |