If your teen is sexually active...

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Anonymous wrote:Teens will find a way. That’s one of the more exciting parts.

This. You don't have to make it easy for them. I'm fact, you shouldn't.

I honestly do not understand this point of view. What's wrong with safe, consensual sex? Why not let your teen have sex at home in their bed with the door closed? Better that than in a car, or some other dirty unsafe place.

This has to be a teen posting. There's many dangers: emotional fallout when the relationship sours, improper use of b.c. leading to pregnancy or sti, becoming subject of gossip at school which leads to bullying, etc. It seems many of the teen suicides that make the news have some element of romance gone bad or sexual embarrassment.

Not a teen.So you're saying if they're having sex in a car or elsewhere they won't have emotional fallout when the relationship ends, bc won't fail etc?? That makes no sense at all. In fact, it's probably the opposite.

[Anonymous]

My kids must have became sexually active in college. So, they would have been late teens or early twenties. My guess only.

It is not as if they came home with an SO, ever. We are not from that kind of a culture.

The BF and GF they introduced us to were the people they wanted to marry, and we could not find faults with those people. They were similarly educated, met during college, grad school, or job. From same kind of SES and from similar intact families. They just happened to be different races and different religions. They worked for several years before they married these people. There was no revolving door of SOs or casual hookups that we were introduced to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, they are having sex already. Teens always figure it out.

Honest question. What was going through your head when you typed and posted this? Was it "my kid deceives me and so OP is likewise deceived"? Was it "OP forgot to ask "is my kid having sex" so I will just answer the question I thought she should have asked"?

I am seriously dying to know what is behind these dumb pointless responses!

I think it's just the naive confidence of OP, some things teens keep private and getting a play by play from your teen isnt healthy either. Even if they haven't done the big IT, they're having some form of sex, oral sex, HJs, etc. And where is that occurring? If they've figured that out, they'll figure out where to have the big IT.

DP.

The responses here indicate there are MANY naive parents of teens out there.

Your little children are teens now. Yes, teens think about SEX. Many try it before they get to college.

That’s just a fact. Sorry, not sorry.

[Anonymous]

Was in line at Starbucks last year and over heard two teens in front of me flirting. They were talking about the girl giving the boy a blowjob in the Starbucks bathroom.

Then they got out of line, and both went into the bathroom together. They stayed in there for 5 or 10 minutes, then they came out together.

I wonder what possibly could have happened?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My house and her house when parents aren't around, or discreetly if they are I guess. They're about to graduate from high school, have been together for 9 months, and I'm not going to shame them for it. As long as they're not making it super obvious, it's fine by me.

Our kids may be together

Nobody is stopping them from being home alone in either house, and I am pretty certain it's happening in my basement when I'm all the way upstairs because they know I'm not coming to check.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's not much different than your kids masturbating in your house either. Doubly gross if it's boys and leaving their ejaculate in random tissues/socks or not washing their hands after.

You just get used to it. It's nature of life, man.

Oh hell no - I would never clean up my son’s cum. Wtf

You probably don’t know it’s on the carpet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, they are having sex already. Teens always figure it out.

Honest question. What was going through your head when you typed and posted this? Was it "my kid deceives me and so OP is likewise deceived"? Was it "OP forgot to ask "is my kid having sex" so I will just answer the question I thought she should have asked"?

I am seriously dying to know what is behind these dumb pointless responses!

I think it's just the naive confidence of OP, some things teens keep private and getting a play by play from your teen isnt healthy either. Even if they haven't done the big IT, they're having some form of sex, oral sex, HJs, etc. And where is that occurring? If they've figured that out, they'll figure out where to have the big IT.

DP.

The responses here indicate there are MANY naive parents of teens out there.

Your little children are teens now. Yes, teens think about SEX. Many try it before they get to college.

That’s just a fact. Sorry, not sorry.

And it’s a FACT that many don’t.

Sorry, not sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, they are having sex already. Teens always figure it out.

Honest question. What was going through your head when you typed and posted this? Was it "my kid deceives me and so OP is likewise deceived"? Was it "OP forgot to ask "is my kid having sex" so I will just answer the question I thought she should have asked"?

I am seriously dying to know what is behind these dumb pointless responses!

I think it's just the naive confidence of OP, some things teens keep private and getting a play by play from your teen isnt healthy either. Even if they haven't done the big IT, they're having some form of sex, oral sex, HJs, etc. And where is that occurring? If they've figured that out, they'll figure out where to have the big IT.

DP. Wrong again. Many aren’t. My friends and I didn’t.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At home. Not my kid, but that’s where their friends do it. Parents aren’t home all the time, are they? After school, evenings, whenever there is free time. Also. Parties, cars, teens are not picky.

It is your kid, it's all our kids, the ones who say not my kid have their head buried in the sand.

You’re lying and you know it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not much different than your kids masturbating in your house either. Doubly gross if it's boys and leaving their ejaculate in random tissues/socks or not washing their hands after.

You just get used to it. It's nature of life, man.

Oh hell no - I would never clean up my son’s cum. Wtf

You probably don’t know it’s on the carpet

I remember watching Bridesmaids and so grateful for girls lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not much different than your kids masturbating in your house either. Doubly gross if it's boys and leaving their ejaculate in random tissues/socks or not washing their hands after.

You just get used to it. It's nature of life, man.

Oh hell no - I would never clean up my son’s cum. Wtf

You probably don’t know it’s on the carpet

I remember watching Bridesmaids and so grateful for girls lol

Everything is so sticky

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, they are having sex already. Teens always figure it out.

Honest question. What was going through your head when you typed and posted this? Was it "my kid deceives me and so OP is likewise deceived"? Was it "OP forgot to ask "is my kid having sex" so I will just answer the question I thought she should have asked"?

I am seriously dying to know what is behind these dumb pointless responses!

I think it's just the naive confidence of OP, some things teens keep private and getting a play by play from your teen isnt healthy either. Even if they haven't done the big IT, they're having some form of sex, oral sex, HJs, etc. And where is that occurring? If they've figured that out, they'll figure out where to have the big IT.

DP. Wrong again. Many aren’t. My friends and I didn’t.

If OP thinks her teen might have sex soon, their teen has done "stuff." Sexual exploration is a progressive process when it's healthy. You don't go from kissing to sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, they are having sex already. Teens always figure it out.

Honest question. What was going through your head when you typed and posted this? Was it "my kid deceives me and so OP is likewise deceived"? Was it "OP forgot to ask "is my kid having sex" so I will just answer the question I thought she should have asked"?

I am seriously dying to know what is behind these dumb pointless responses!

I think it's just the naive confidence of OP, some things teens keep private and getting a play by play from your teen isnt healthy either. Even if they haven't done the big IT, they're having some form of sex, oral sex, HJs, etc. And where is that occurring? If they've figured that out, they'll figure out where to have the big IT.

DP. Wrong again. Many aren’t. My friends and I didn’t.

If OP thinks her teen might have sex soon, their teen has done "stuff." Sexual exploration is a progressive process when it's healthy. You don't go from kissing to sex.

We don’t know that. It’s JUST an assumption.

[Anonymous]

At age 17 I used to lie to my parents about spending the night with a best friend when I was really alone with my boyfriend while his mom (single mom) travelled for work.

However we never had intercourse. We messed around in other ways (oral, making out). I just wasn't ready and I felt really strongly about it.

So I bristle when people say that every normal teen is horny and having sex at the first opportunity. Many of us did not and we had healthy sex drives and ultimately had plenty of fun in college and 20s and beyond.

That said, I have no idea what my own teens have done (or not done) in terms of sex. I mean, I would guess that my 17 year old daughter has not not sex as she attends a girls' school and has not had a boyfriend and tells me she has not kissed anyone but who the heck knows! She's been out of my sight on many weekend nights. She's gone to parties. She could be giving blow jobs in the bathroom at all of them. I truly have no way of knowing!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, they are having sex already. Teens always figure it out.

Honest question. What was going through your head when you typed and posted this? Was it "my kid deceives me and so OP is likewise deceived"? Was it "OP forgot to ask "is my kid having sex" so I will just answer the question I thought she should have asked"?

I am seriously dying to know what is behind these dumb pointless responses!

I think it's just the naive confidence of OP, some things teens keep private and getting a play by play from your teen isnt healthy either. Even if they haven't done the big IT, they're having some form of sex, oral sex, HJs, etc. And where is that occurring? If they've figured that out, they'll figure out where to have the big IT.

DP. Wrong again. Many aren’t. My friends and I didn’t.

If OP thinks her teen might have sex soon, their teen has done "stuff." Sexual exploration is a progressive process when it's healthy. You don't go from kissing to sex.

We don’t know that. It’s JUST an assumption.

Okay? lol But that's not what OP is asking. Sure, some teens don't have sex, but she's asking a very specific question assuming her teen will have sex soon.