I'm a mom with just girls - tell me about middle school boys

[Anonymous]

My youngest, somewhat shy and reserved DD is going into 8th grade and says boys won't talk to her or text her. My older daughters either didn't have this concern or didn't care enough to mention it to me. I have no idea what might be helpful to her. Any advice or insight appreciated. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

I have boys in middle and high school and neither of them ever text girls or really even have good friends who are girls. I think a lot of girls are more relaxed about hanging out with and being friends with boys, but often boys are much shyer and more reserved about that and just prefer "hanging" with other guys.

Some of my mom friends have said there are some girls who are downright aggressive about texting their sons and they really don't know what to do about it. The girls won't let up and the boys want nothing to do with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have boys in middle and high school and neither of them ever text girls or really even have good friends who are girls. I think a lot of girls are more relaxed about hanging out with and being friends with boys, but often boys are much shyer and more reserved about that and just prefer "hanging" with other guys.

Some of my mom friends have said there are some girls who are downright aggressive about texting their sons and they really don't know what to do about it. The girls won't let up and the boys want nothing to do with them.

Mom of younger boys. Dare I say that if girls in MS were sending my sons unwanted texts "downright aggressively," I would take it upon myself to be in touch with these girls' parents and put a stop to it? Or is that not done in middle school?

[Anonymous]

My DD is going into seventh and is super out-going and friendly. She has lots of friends who are boys. The one who she texts with is gay. I think the straight boys don't realize they can be friends with girls without it Meaning Something.

Don't help her with this beyond telling her to join co-ed clubs at school. Mommy can't help you flirt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD is going into seventh and is super out-going and friendly. She has lots of friends who are boys. The one who she texts with is gay. I think the straight boys don't realize they can be friends with girls without it Meaning Something.

Don't help her with this beyond telling her to join co-ed clubs at school. Mommy can't help you flirt.

Yeah, I got that part, thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have boys in middle and high school and neither of them ever text girls or really even have good friends who are girls. I think a lot of girls are more relaxed about hanging out with and being friends with boys, but often boys are much shyer and more reserved about that and just prefer "hanging" with other guys.

Some of my mom friends have said there are some girls who are downright aggressive about texting their sons and they really don't know what to do about it. The girls won't let up and the boys want nothing to do with them.

I agree.

In middle school, the boys, even the "cool" ones, are just a few steps behind the girls when it comes to socializing and dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have boys in middle and high school and neither of them ever text girls or really even have good friends who are girls. I think a lot of girls are more relaxed about hanging out with and being friends with boys, but often boys are much shyer and more reserved about that and just prefer "hanging" with other guys.

Some of my mom friends have said there are some girls who are downright aggressive about texting their sons and they really don't know what to do about it. The girls won't let up and the boys want nothing to do with them.

Mom of younger boys. Dare I say that if girls in MS were sending my sons unwanted texts "downright aggressively," I would take it upon myself to be in touch with these girls' parents and put a stop to it? Or is that not done in middle school?

When your younger boys are in middle school, get back to us. I'm sure they wouldn't exactly appreciate you "getting in touch with these girls' parents and putting a stop to it," even if they don't appreciate the unwanted attention from girls.

[Anonymous]

My DS just finished 8th grade and only seems to speak to girls if they speak to him first, and then only with one syllable words. All I can tell you about MS boys is that plenty of them probably aren't texting girls yet.

[Anonymous]

I am a male with a good memory....I was a middle school boy....heck, I was probably a middle school boy for longer than just about anyone (4 years....6-9; we moved).

What I remember about those years is that I was desperate to be with girls -- incredibly strong attraction, but I was too shy to do anything about it.

[Anonymous]

Encourage her to join clubs or after school stuff. My daughter has male friends. They are not nearly as communicative as girls their age. The texts are to the point. They sometimes Facetime, but not for an hour or two like her female friends.

My daughter is also shy. She started talking to these boys when they sat near her in classes. Her school assigns seats. She avoids anyone who isn't relaxed and funny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I have boys in middle and high school and neither of them ever text girls or really even have good friends who are girls. I think a lot of girls are more relaxed about hanging out with and being friends with boys, but often boys are much shyer and more reserved about that and just prefer "hanging" with other guys.

Some of my mom friends have said there are some girls who are downright aggressive about texting their sons and they really don't know what to do about it. The girls won't let up and the boys want nothing to do with them.


Mom of younger boys. Dare I say that if girls in MS were sending my sons unwanted texts "downright aggressively," I would take it upon myself to be in touch with these girls' parents and put a stop to it? Or is that not done in middle school?


When your younger boys are in middle school, get back to us. I'm sure they wouldn't exactly appreciate you "getting in touch with these girls' parents and putting a stop to it," even if they don't appreciate the unwanted attention from girls.

But if the sexes were reversed you would not want a parent involved? Just because they a boys does not mean they know how to handle aggressive girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My youngest, somewhat shy and reserved DD is going into 8th grade and says boys won't talk to her or text her. My older daughters either didn't have this concern or didn't care enough to mention it to me. I have no idea what might be helpful to her. Any advice or insight appreciated. Thanks!

OMG, I ha e bed. Thinking about this. When I was in 7th grade, I had several serious infatuated crushes. I was already dreaming of marriage!!! Now I have boys, and can see how this is so NOT on their minds. My son came home from a middle school dance and played with Legos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My youngest, somewhat shy and reserved DD is going into 8th grade and says boys won't talk to her or text her. My older daughters either didn't have this concern or didn't care enough to mention it to me. I have no idea what might be helpful to her. Any advice or insight appreciated. Thanks!

OMG, I ha e bed. Thinking about this. When I was in 7th grade, I had several serious infatuated crushes. I was already dreaming of marriage!!! Now I have boys, and can see how this is so NOT on their minds. My son came home from a middle school dance and played with Legos.

Lol. My middle school son plays with cars (matchbox). He likes girls and he's interested in them but he's still a little boy at heart. My older son still plays and he just turned 15 although he is definitely more into girls now...though not as obsessive as I remember my friends and I being obsessed about boys at that age.

Girls are definitely a couple of years ahead of boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have boys in middle and high school and neither of them ever text girls or really even have good friends who are girls. I think a lot of girls are more relaxed about hanging out with and being friends with boys, but often boys are much shyer and more reserved about that and just prefer "hanging" with other guys.

Some of my mom friends have said there are some girls who are downright aggressive about texting their sons and they really don't know what to do about it. The girls won't let up and the boys want nothing to do with them.

Mom of younger boys. Dare I say that if girls in MS were sending my sons unwanted texts "downright aggressively," I would take it upon myself to be in touch with these girls' parents and put a stop to it? Or is that not done in middle school?

Yeah, you stop intervening like that when your kids are in middle school.

[Anonymous]

I teach middle school, and have 3 kids of my own in college and grad school (two sons and a daughter). There are verrrry few middle school boys who want to text with girls, and to be honest with you, I think you might want to discourage your daughter from doing this. Friendships are much more likely to develop when boys and girls are in the same class or in an activity together.