do you send a note to school that has rejected you

[Anonymous]

we have no intention of re-applying, but we thought that it would be a nice touch.

[Anonymous]

I called a school that waitlisted us to request to be taken off the wait list. In the course of the voicemail, I told the AD how much I had really enjoyed the parent interview - and meant it. She may have thought I was a nut, but oh well. If there is something you particularly want to thank the school for, do it. Not sure doing it for nice touch purposes is worth it.

[Anonymous]

I wrote a letter to Sidwell when they rejected us a few years ago and said althought we were disappointed we looked forward to trying again another year.

[Anonymous]

If you do not plan to apply again, why? If you plan to apply again, yes. Some schools keep their files.

[Anonymous]

"Dear Maret: Why do you take $60 apiece from hundreds of families when you are 97% certain that you will have no slots open for their boys in the next school year?"

or, did you mean a different type of note?

[Anonymous]

Why -- to make them feel guilty? I'm all for thanking people who were nice. But this was a business transaction from their point of view, and they're running a business, not a charity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Dear Maret: Why do you take $60 apiece from hundreds of families when you are 97% certain that you will have no slots open for their boys in the next school year?"

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Should they (or any of these schools) prohibit people from applying? For people who complain about "cattle call" open houses, should the schools prohibit people from attending?

[Anonymous]

I could see writing such a note if you intended to re-apply in the future, perhaps for another child (if you have another) but you say you have no interest in re-applying. If you happen to just like writing notes, then sure, go ahead and write a note....no harm. The best notes are those that are unexpected.

[Anonymous]

I wrote a note last year to an AD (middle school) who I thought was terrific. I wrote just to let her know it was a hard decision, that she made a stressful process much easier, and that I was impressed with her. I figured that it is always nice to get good feedback for a job where there probably is not a lot of it - especially from someone that was no longer in a position to kiss ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wrote a note last year to an AD (middle school) who I thought was terrific. I wrote just to let her know it was a hard decision, that she made a stressful process much easier, and that I was impressed with her. I figured that it is always nice to get good feedback for a job where there probably is not a lot of it - especially from someone that was no longer in a position to kiss ass.

Each application is different. When students are older there are more odd occurrences than in lower grades. When schools assess the current applicants in person versus the application written info the AD's might get a lot friendlier to some unconnected children/parents. This happened to us more than once.