Do men really not care about a woman’s career?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of men claim that the only thing that matters to them is looks, but

1. If they have the choice between a) hot, uneducated and unemployable, and b) hot, educated and employable, they will choose (b), and

2. If they do choose someone only for her looks, whenever they fight or the relationship hits a rough patch, they will call her stupid and accuse her of being a leech/gold digger. Men love their SAH wives when the money is flowing and all is going well; as soon as things get tough, they lose respect for her (or they are no longer able to hide that they did never did respect her).

The choice isn't one that DCUM type men will face.

If they have the choice between (a) hot, has a BA in English from Big State U, and works in a going-nowhere, not-paid-much job like paralegal, and (b) less hot, has a graduate degree and a well-paid career like lawyer -- then they will pick (a) because she is hotter, more pleasant and agreeable, and more likely to accept being a SAHM. The "advantage" of (b) is her career but he doesn't really care about that. And frankly, career women are disagreeable, argumentative PITA (see: everything every DCUM women posted in this forum ever) and who needs that?

As for your second paragraph, it's the usual career-woman cope that men want a women they "respect" and won't respect a hot, less-educated SAHM. Nope. In fact it is you (career women) who do not respect good-looking SAHMs and indulge in spiteful fantasies about their husbands abusing them. Men like these women just fine.

Why isn’t a choice DCUM men face? The hot girl from law school, b school or med school often pairs up with the hot, ambitious guy from law school, b school or med school.

[Anonymous]

Western women are too entitled, go to Eastern Europe and date

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of men claim that the only thing that matters to them is looks, but

1. If they have the choice between a) hot, uneducated and unemployable, and b) hot, educated and employable, they will choose (b), and

2. If they do choose someone only for her looks, whenever they fight or the relationship hits a rough patch, they will call her stupid and accuse her of being a leech/gold digger. Men love their SAH wives when the money is flowing and all is going well; as soon as things get tough, they lose respect for her (or they are no longer able to hide that they did never did respect her).

The choice isn't one that DCUM type men will face.

If they have the choice between (a) hot, has a BA in English from Big State U, and works in a going-nowhere, not-paid-much job like paralegal, and (b) less hot, has a graduate degree and a well-paid career like lawyer -- then they will pick (a) because she is hotter, more pleasant and agreeable, and more likely to accept being a SAHM. The "advantage" of (b) is her career but he doesn't really care about that. And frankly, career women are disagreeable, argumentative PITA (see: everything every DCUM women posted in this forum ever) and who needs that?

As for your second paragraph, it's the usual career-woman cope that men want a women they "respect" and won't respect a hot, less-educated SAHM. Nope. In fact it is you (career women) who do not respect good-looking SAHMs and indulge in spiteful fantasies about their husbands abusing them. Men like these women just fine.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of men claim that the only thing that matters to them is looks, but

1. If they have the choice between a) hot, uneducated and unemployable, and b) hot, educated and employable, they will choose (b), and

2. If they do choose someone only for her looks, whenever they fight or the relationship hits a rough patch, they will call her stupid and accuse her of being a leech/gold digger. Men love their SAH wives when the money is flowing and all is going well; as soon as things get tough, they lose respect for her (or they are no longer able to hide that they did never did respect her).

The choice isn't one that DCUM type men will face.

If they have the choice between (a) hot, has a BA in English from Big State U, and works in a going-nowhere, not-paid-much job like paralegal, and (b) less hot, has a graduate degree and a well-paid career like lawyer -- then they will pick (a) because she is hotter, more pleasant and agreeable, and more likely to accept being a SAHM. The "advantage" of (b) is her career but he doesn't really care about that. And frankly, career women are disagreeable, argumentative PITA (see: everything every DCUM women posted in this forum ever) and who needs that?

As for your second paragraph, it's the usual career-woman cope that men want a women they "respect" and won't respect a hot, less-educated SAHM. Nope. In fact it is you (career women) who do not respect good-looking SAHMs and indulge in spiteful fantasies about their husbands abusing them. Men like these women just fine.

There is a certain ineffable quality about devine femininity that you have to admire and respect and that many career-oriented women simply lack.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Combined HHI is around $700k. My husband isn’t going to live a $450K lifestyle just for the privilege of “not caring” about my career. Adequate HHI means outsourcing a lot of the points of tension in a dual-income relationship.

Sure..but your husband isn't high income..enough. Most couples fall in the middle and need dual incoms to live a "$700 K lifestyle". In that case, a woman's career matters. If your DH made 700K by himself this wouldn't matter.

Unless he or the family wanted to live a $950K lifestyle. It’s all about how people want to live. Even in DC there are people who make it work on $450k if that’s how they want to live.

Sure there’s lifestyle creep, but at a certain point if a family is comfortable priorities switch to other things rather than money. Private school is going to be a stretch still at $450k for two kids unless you want to cut back on other umc luxuries like travel.

Which still concludes that at the top 2% by income for the country, men care about women's careers.

Sorry you didn't marry rich enough.

There isn’t rich enough for me to give up my career, I love what I do. I would quickly give up a husband who didn’t support it, though.

What you don’t understand is at that high income level your husband supports whatever you want. You want to work, great. You want to do a hobby, great. You want to spend time with your children, great. But does he care what you do as long as you guys get along, no.

Funny because both the founder of Facebook and George Clooney both speak publically about how important their wives careers are. They’d be surprised to find out some random internet man considers that a mark of low-income.

Clooney in particular had a fairly wide selection of attractive partners before marrying a human rights lawyer…

Clooney got beauty and brains. If she was ugly as sin and not as exotic he won't look twice at her. Priscilla Chan got to Zuckerberg and an iron clad prenup before he hit it rich. There's history there. If Amal Clooney and Priscilla Chan decide to take a sabbatical for the next five years their husbands won't blink twice. Oh wait, note that Priscilla Chan is now a philanthropist and a "former pediatrician".

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Amal Clooney is gorgeous and a good twenty years younger than Clooney. No one ever talks about how much younger she is than him when discussing her brains.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of men claim that the only thing that matters to them is looks, but

1. If they have the choice between a) hot, uneducated and unemployable, and b) hot, educated and employable, they will choose (b), and

2. If they do choose someone only for her looks, whenever they fight or the relationship hits a rough patch, they will call her stupid and accuse her of being a leech/gold digger. Men love their SAH wives when the money is flowing and all is going well; as soon as things get tough, they lose respect for her (or they are no longer able to hide that they did never did respect her).

The choice isn't one that DCUM type men will face.

If they have the choice between (a) hot, has a BA in English from Big State U, and works in a going-nowhere, not-paid-much job like paralegal, and (b) less hot, has a graduate degree and a well-paid career like lawyer -- then they will pick (a) because she is hotter, more pleasant and agreeable, and more likely to accept being a SAHM. The "advantage" of (b) is her career but he doesn't really care about that. And frankly, career women are disagreeable, argumentative PITA (see: everything every DCUM women posted in this forum ever) and who needs that?

As for your second paragraph, it's the usual career-woman cope that men want a women they "respect" and won't respect a hot, less-educated SAHM. Nope. In fact it is you (career women) who do not respect good-looking SAHMs and indulge in spiteful fantasies about their husbands abusing them. Men like these women just fine.

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As a “career-woman” I can say my mom was an abused SAHM, and my sisters and I were abused children, so yeah, it happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of men claim that the only thing that matters to them is looks, but

1. If they have the choice between a) hot, uneducated and unemployable, and b) hot, educated and employable, they will choose (b), and

2. If they do choose someone only for her looks, whenever they fight or the relationship hits a rough patch, they will call her stupid and accuse her of being a leech/gold digger. Men love their SAH wives when the money is flowing and all is going well; as soon as things get tough, they lose respect for her (or they are no longer able to hide that they did never did respect her).

The choice isn't one that DCUM type men will face.

If they have the choice between (a) hot, has a BA in English from Big State U, and works in a going-nowhere, not-paid-much job like paralegal, and (b) less hot, has a graduate degree and a well-paid career like lawyer -- then they will pick (a) because she is hotter, more pleasant and agreeable, and more likely to accept being a SAHM. The "advantage" of (b) is her career but he doesn't really care about that. And frankly, career women are disagreeable, argumentative PITA (see: everything every DCUM women posted in this forum ever) and who needs that?

As for your second paragraph, it's the usual career-woman cope that men want a women they "respect" and won't respect a hot, less-educated SAHM. Nope. In fact it is you (career women) who do not respect good-looking SAHMs and indulge in spiteful fantasies about their husbands abusing them. Men like these women just fine.

There is a certain ineffable quality about devine femininity that you have to admire and respect and that many career-oriented women simply lack.

Spoken like the boy who was passed over by the hot girls at school for men who went on to run businesses and law firms with the support of their admired wives who very well might have left her career but now sits on the boards of nonprofits and manages the families’ staff.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Combined HHI is around $700k. My husband isn’t going to live a $450K lifestyle just for the privilege of “not caring” about my career. Adequate HHI means outsourcing a lot of the points of tension in a dual-income relationship.

Sure..but your husband isn't high income..enough. Most couples fall in the middle and need dual incoms to live a "$700 K lifestyle". In that case, a woman's career matters. If your DH made 700K by himself this wouldn't matter.

Unless he or the family wanted to live a $950K lifestyle. It’s all about how people want to live. Even in DC there are people who make it work on $450k if that’s how they want to live.

Sure there’s lifestyle creep, but at a certain point if a family is comfortable priorities switch to other things rather than money. Private school is going to be a stretch still at $450k for two kids unless you want to cut back on other umc luxuries like travel.

Which still concludes that at the top 2% by income for the country, men care about women's careers.

Sorry you didn't marry rich enough.

There isn’t rich enough for me to give up my career, I love what I do. I would quickly give up a husband who didn’t support it, though.

What you don’t understand is at that high income level your husband supports whatever you want. You want to work, great. You want to do a hobby, great. You want to spend time with your children, great. But does he care what you do as long as you guys get along, no.

Funny because both the founder of Facebook and George Clooney both speak publically about how important their wives careers are. They’d be surprised to find out some random internet man considers that a mark of low-income.

Clooney in particular had a fairly wide selection of attractive partners before marrying a human rights lawyer…

Clooney got beauty and brains. If she was ugly as sin and not as exotic he won't look twice at her. Priscilla Chan got to Zuckerberg and an iron clad prenup before he hit it rich. There's history there. If Amal Clooney and Priscilla Chan decide to take a sabbatical for the next five years their husbands won't blink twice. Oh wait, note that Priscilla Chan is now a philanthropist and a "former pediatrician".

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Amal Clooney is gorgeous and a good twenty years younger than Clooney. No one ever talks about how much younger she is than him when discussing her brains.

It’s because she over 35

Once you are over 35 no one cares wha the age gap is

People care about Leo because he bags under 25 baddies

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of men claim that the only thing that matters to them is looks, but

1. If they have the choice between a) hot, uneducated and unemployable, and b) hot, educated and employable, they will choose (b), and

2. If they do choose someone only for her looks, whenever they fight or the relationship hits a rough patch, they will call her stupid and accuse her of being a leech/gold digger. Men love their SAH wives when the money is flowing and all is going well; as soon as things get tough, they lose respect for her (or they are no longer able to hide that they did never did respect her).

The choice isn't one that DCUM type men will face.

If they have the choice between (a) hot, has a BA in English from Big State U, and works in a going-nowhere, not-paid-much job like paralegal, and (b) less hot, has a graduate degree and a well-paid career like lawyer -- then they will pick (a) because she is hotter, more pleasant and agreeable, and more likely to accept being a SAHM. The "advantage" of (b) is her career but he doesn't really care about that. And frankly, career women are disagreeable, argumentative PITA (see: everything every DCUM women posted in this forum ever) and who needs that?

As for your second paragraph, it's the usual career-woman cope that men want a women they "respect" and won't respect a hot, less-educated SAHM. Nope. In fact it is you (career women) who do not respect good-looking SAHMs and indulge in spiteful fantasies about their husbands abusing them. Men like these women just fine.

There is a certain ineffable quality about devine femininity that you have to admire and respect and that many career-oriented women simply lack.

Spoken like the boy who was passed over by the hot girls at school for men who went on to run businesses and law firms with the support of their admired wives who very well might have left her career but now sits on the boards of nonprofits and manages the families’ staff.

I was that boy. I am that man. I am HIM. A a properly feminine woman inspires you to do almost anything to make her happy. It is irresistible.

Doing ok for myself. Enjoy your non-profit boards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think my DH cared that I was career focused before we got married.

Once we got married and had kids, he definitely preferred I stay home, and couldn’t care less

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Anonymous wrote:Combined HHI is around $700k. My husband isn’t going to live a $450K lifestyle just for the privilege of “not caring” about my career. Adequate HHI means outsourcing a lot of the points of tension in a dual-income relationship.

Sure..but your husband isn't high income..enough. Most couples fall in the middle and need dual incoms to live a "$700 K lifestyle". In that case, a woman's career matters. If your DH made 700K by himself this wouldn't matter.

Unless he or the family wanted to live a $950K lifestyle. It’s all about how people want to live. Even in DC there are people who make it work on $450k if that’s how they want to live.

Sure there’s lifestyle creep, but at a certain point if a family is comfortable priorities switch to other things rather than money. Private school is going to be a stretch still at $450k for two kids unless you want to cut back on other umc luxuries like travel.

Which still concludes that at the top 2% by income for the country, men care about women's careers.

Sorry you didn't marry rich enough.

There isn’t rich enough for me to give up my career, I love what I do. I would quickly give up a husband who didn’t support it, though.

What you don’t understand is at that high income level your husband supports whatever you want. You want to work, great. You want to do a hobby, great. You want to spend time with your children, great. But does he care what you do as long as you guys get along, no.

Funny because both the founder of Facebook and George Clooney both speak publically about how important their wives careers are. They’d be surprised to find out some random internet man considers that a mark of low-income.

Clooney in particular had a fairly wide selection of attractive partners before marrying a human rights lawyer…

Clooney got beauty and brains. If she was ugly as sin and not as exotic he won't look twice at her. Priscilla Chan got to Zuckerberg and an iron clad prenup before he hit it rich. There's history there. If Amal Clooney and Priscilla Chan decide to take a sabbatical for the next five years their husbands won't blink twice. Oh wait, note that Priscilla Chan is now a philanthropist and a "former pediatrician".

+1

Amal Clooney is gorgeous and a good twenty years younger than Clooney. No one ever talks about how much younger she is than him when discussing her brains.

It’s because she over 35

Once you are over 35 no one cares wha the age gap is

People care about Leo because he bags under 25 baddies

My point is that he sure didn’t choose an age appropriate woman. He chose someone much much younger and very beautiful. There are plenty of beautiful more age appropriate women for him. Sure the brains help but her relative youth and beauty was a factor. And a twenty year age gap is still kinda side eyed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of men claim that the only thing that matters to them is looks, but

1. If they have the choice between a) hot, uneducated and unemployable, and b) hot, educated and employable, they will choose (b), and

2. If they do choose someone only for her looks, whenever they fight or the relationship hits a rough patch, they will call her stupid and accuse her of being a leech/gold digger. Men love their SAH wives when the money is flowing and all is going well; as soon as things get tough, they lose respect for her (or they are no longer able to hide that they did never did respect her).

The choice isn't one that DCUM type men will face.

If they have the choice between (a) hot, has a BA in English from Big State U, and works in a going-nowhere, not-paid-much job like paralegal, and (b) less hot, has a graduate degree and a well-paid career like lawyer -- then they will pick (a) because she is hotter, more pleasant and agreeable, and more likely to accept being a SAHM. The "advantage" of (b) is her career but he doesn't really care about that. And frankly, career women are disagreeable, argumentative PITA (see: everything every DCUM women posted in this forum ever) and who needs that?

As for your second paragraph, it's the usual career-woman cope that men want a women they "respect" and won't respect a hot, less-educated SAHM. Nope. In fact it is you (career women) who do not respect good-looking SAHMs and indulge in spiteful fantasies about their husbands abusing them. Men like these women just fine.

I'm not a career woman.
And men turn on their SAHM wives all the time.

[Anonymous]

Our daughter’s BF is the same age as DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our daughter’s BF is the same age as DH.

Three scenarios (A) they are both insecure or losers, (B) he is decently successful to wealthy not terrible looking and she is hott (C) he is old and wealthy and she is kind enough and he they both silently acknowledge why they are both in the relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of men claim that the only thing that matters to them is looks, but

1. If they have the choice between a) hot, uneducated and unemployable, and b) hot, educated and employable, they will choose (b), and

2. If they do choose someone only for her looks, whenever they fight or the relationship hits a rough patch, they will call her stupid and accuse her of being a leech/gold digger. Men love their SAH wives when the money is flowing and all is going well; as soon as things get tough, they lose respect for her (or they are no longer able to hide that they did never did respect her).

The choice isn't one that DCUM type men will face.

If they have the choice between (a) hot, has a BA in English from Big State U, and works in a going-nowhere, not-paid-much job like paralegal, and (b) less hot, has a graduate degree and a well-paid career like lawyer -- then they will pick (a) because she is hotter, more pleasant and agreeable, and more likely to accept being a SAHM. The "advantage" of (b) is her career but he doesn't really care about that. And frankly, career women are disagreeable, argumentative PITA (see: everything every DCUM women posted in this forum ever) and who needs that?

As for your second paragraph, it's the usual career-woman cope that men want a women they "respect" and won't respect a hot, less-educated SAHM. Nope. In fact it is you (career women) who do not respect good-looking SAHMs and indulge in spiteful fantasies about their husbands abusing them. Men like these women just fine.

My dude. You are very much outing yourself here.