omg I have to chime in here because I met Gavin de Becker (before his book) while doing work on stalking legislation. He said to me, "If you are telling someone you don't want to speak to them again, you are sending mixed signals because you are speaking to them and saying you don't want to speak to them. So, if you don't want to speak to someone again, just stop speaking to them" I think that's PPs point |
That is cool that you met him and what he said to you is exactly the type of guidance he gives in his book! In the book he also talks about how stalkers and predators are really good at identifying who they pursue - the people who act more according to social mores and ignore the tingling at the back of their neck saying "this isn't safe." I am paraphrasing badly but it was a good lesson for me to hear because I usually would rather cut off my foot than ignore someone. My husband read the book and gave it to me because of that. Now I can give myself "permission" to be "rude" if I feel threatened in some types of situations where I might otherwise feel obligated to respond. |
Get off the TikTok and do not let your child use it. Block the number. |
Agree. Your son may have reached out to someone and doesn’t want to admit it or tell you. Tread lightly so your aim is not embarrassed or forced to discuss. |
This. Only grossly naive parents allow their kids to use TikTok. |
Change the number. Call your cell provider, explain that you are receiving threatening calls, and they will change the number for no fee. |
I was thinking it could be a kid of not an adult trying to help. All of our kids phones are under our names so if you looked up their number it would say our name. Meaning a kid could have sent it not it shows as their parents phone. |