Spouse makes significantly more income, how do you handle it?

[Anonymous]

I made 400k and DH makes $160k. It all goes to the same joint account. I handle our finances. Both of us are pretty careful with money, but sometimes I buy myself something nice and he doesn't care.

[Anonymous]

What’s up with all these loser husbands uou all married. Are they castrated as well?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the PP that calculate contributions based on % of earnings...man that's tough. You're a team right? I'm assuming that when the high earner was interviewing for a higher paying job or hustling for that promotion, the spouse had to pick up the slack around the house. Or they helped prep for said interviews/etc.

I don't think I could be with someone who believes their earnings are just theirs and they only need to put in just enough to joint acct to cover essentials. But...to each their own.

You make so many assumptions... so, so wrong.

How about ... many years ago DW, the low earner, talked to me about her issues with money, relationships, etc,, and said that *she* wanted the certainty of knowing she’s contributing there even though my earnings and resources far exceeded hers. So we agreed to do it and revisited and kept going. After about 25 years of marriage my parents died and we had a cushion not requiring her to contribute, so that’s what Inoffered and she agreed. She does many other things including her professional training (landscape design) That contribute significantly to the value and beauty of our house.

Some of the judgmental assumptions made here sure put the “ass” in assume.

[Anonymous]

Dh and I have alway been partners. When we graduated law school he made $135k which seems like a fortune. I literally had no job. Today dh makes $100k in a job he loves and I make $3M+. The money is still all ours.

As a practical matter I pay for mortgages, vacations, credit cards etc. if his personal checking account gets lower than he is comfortable I just transfer money into. Most significant assets are held jointly although to keep liability from him a fair amount is now in just in my name. I’ve started funding assets titled in just his name to even it out a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I have alway been partners. When we graduated law school he made $135k which seems like a fortune. I literally had no job. Today dh makes $100k in a job he loves and I make $3M+. The money is still all ours.

As a practical matter I pay for mortgages, vacations, credit cards etc. if his personal checking account gets lower than he is comfortable I just transfer money into. Most significant assets are held jointly although to keep liability from him a fair amount is now in just in my name. I’ve started funding assets titled in just his name to even it out a bit.

Of course you make $3MM A YEAR!?! SMFH!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I have alway been partners. When we graduated law school he made $135k which seems like a fortune. I literally had no job. Today dh makes $100k in a job he loves and I make $3M+. The money is still all ours.

As a practical matter I pay for mortgages, vacations, credit cards etc. if his personal checking account gets lower than he is comfortable I just transfer money into. Most significant assets are held jointly although to keep liability from him a fair amount is now in just in my name. I’ve started funding assets titled in just his name to even it out a bit.

Wow he must be a dope. Lol

[Anonymous]

All our money goes into one pot and all our expenses do too. Our incomes have varied over the years. We consult each other on large purchases (cars, homes) but otherwise just make our own decisions about spending. On a daily basis this means I'll buy something like a living room rug (for $2k) without asking him (he has no interest) but we'd buy something like a TV together (we both have ideas of what we want).

I don't get married couples who keep their finances separate and pay percentages for things. it seems like they are structuring their entire lives to make a divorce easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We've been together for over 10 years, and when we first met, we both made about the same, $65k-$75k. In the beginning, it was easy to budget and travel and go out since we always just split the expenses down the middle. Flash forward to now and I'm making about $140k and my SO is making close to $300k. The difference is significant and it really only happened in the last 3 years when my SO had a series of job moves that resulted in doubling of salary.

I was wondering how others have dealt with this situation? I'm heard suggestions from splitting expenses as a percentage of your income, to just having one big pot and it's all both of ours, to having separate accounts we're "your money is yours and mine is mine."

This shows the earning disparity between male and female. In marriage it should be in one pot but with a percent of individual discretionary money. You are one team. Next most equitable would be contributions by percentage if you want to maintain individual accounts. We manage with the former method but I feel I have less say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I have alway been partners. When we graduated law school he made $135k which seems like a fortune. I literally had no job. Today dh makes $100k in a job he loves and I make $3M+. The money is still all ours.

As a practical matter I pay for mortgages, vacations, credit cards etc. if his personal checking account gets lower than he is comfortable I just transfer money into. Most significant assets are held jointly although to keep liability from him a fair amount is now in just in my name. I’ve started funding assets titled in just his name to even it out a bit.

Wow he must be a dope. Lol

Not such a dope. He has it made. She’s quite generous and this trend could bite her later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I made 400k and DH makes $160k. It all goes to the same joint account. I handle our finances. Both of us are pretty careful with money, but sometimes I buy myself something nice and he doesn't care.

He shouldn’t care. You deserve and have every right to treat yourself.

[Anonymous]

Where are these bum husbands finding these rich wives? J date?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where are these bum husbands finding these rich wives? J date?

I think there's a lot on www.Imakeshitupontheinternet.com

[Anonymous]

We don't make anywhere near what most of the people on here make but we do have separate accounts for no real reason. I'm the lower earning spouse by 60-80% but manage all the money. I have most of the savings and pay a few bills out of my account. We each have a personal credit card that we pay off each month for our individual expenses. All of our regular spending goes onto a joint credit card and gets paid off each month from his account

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where are these bum husbands finding these rich wives? J date?

Asshole.

Stereotype much? Feck off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where are these bum husbands finding these rich wives? J date?

Asshole.

Stereotype much? Feck off.

Grrrrrr