How did having a second child change your marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am jealous (ok, kind of hate) people who say it hasn't affected their marriage at all and everything is just peaches.

That is not the case for us. We were in a pretty good place after 1 kid, but 2 kids has really strained us and there are days I find myself wondering if we are going to make it.

Our experience with our first was so wonderful I was a little blindsided by how hard this would be - and my youngest is a great baby! Not a good sleeper though, so maybe that has to do with it.

I also work full-time out of the home, as does DH. I think the dynamics are different if one person can stay home and enjoys it.

Don't discount that lack of sleep. Sleep deprivation is a form of torture for a reason.

[Anonymous]

My four year old son is really laying it on thick — telling us that all of his classmates have siblings (and some close friends are now expecting
a second). I’m so torn. I think he’d be a great big brother, but I worry about how it would all be with two — financially, time pressures, etc.