What’s the worst thing your in laws have done to you?

[Anonymous]

These toxic people who raised your spouse should be cast out of your lives. You are, of course, perfect and should not be expected to deal with anyone who is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to burst the thread bubble but my IL's are great. They have always been very welcoming to me and they are devoted grandparents and very non judgemental. They are also very generous - my FIL recently disclaimed his inheritance from his father and had it go directly to all of his children. Money is pretty tight for us right now and this was a godsend.

You have nothing to complain about. What if your ILs were not so kind and generous?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: These toxic people who raised your spouse should be cast out of your lives. You are, of course, perfect and should not be expected to deal with anyone who is not.

Thanks for your wise words.

I will prepare my family to go dine with the pedophile rapist.

[Anonymous]

My FIL is a cold, critical, controlling miserable dick. He accidentally killed my dog and screamed at me when we were burying him because I made too big of a deal of my sadness over "just a dog."

He insinuated I was at fault when my newborn was hospitalized. He said he disliked me for a comment I made when I was 22 and then would'nt tell me what the comment was (over 10 years ago). He said he considered disinheriting DH because he wanted to make sure I didnt get any benefit of his money (I WOH full time and am the breadwinner).

There is lots more, but too difficult to explain. I detest him and no longer have anything to do with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to burst the thread bubble but my IL's are great. They have always been very welcoming to me and they are devoted grandparents and very non judgemental. They are also very generous - my FIL recently disclaimed his inheritance from his father and had it go directly to all of his children. Money is pretty tight for us right now and this was a godsend.

You're not sorry at all, you came to gloat on a thread where people are expressing their pain. You are rude.

[Anonymous]

FIL and MIL are totally fine. Harmless and usually helpful.

DH's extended family (Aunt and Uncles) are the pits.

We went to the wedding of some gay friends. DH's uncle heard about it and wrote us a profanity laced e-mail that called us "libtards" and said we were being written out of the will. He's a conservative radio talk show host. We're Libertarians and generally a-political when we talk to family.

What a weirdo. Like we wanted anything from him anyways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My former in-laws here, but...

XH’s father called me names, spread a rumor I was pregnant with another man’s child, and encouraged his son to neglect and verbally abuse me while I was on bed rest in my second pregnancy.

His mother said she was horrified by this, but she didn’t intervene and later lied in an affidavit about what she had seen.

I have since learned that she herself was abused by XH’s father. I am cordial with her when we meet, but I do not speak to her husband.

XH’s second wife testified during their divorce that his father taunted her about what he’d done to me and gotten away with. This man is a prominent local doctor. He feels Teflon.

So you were wife #3?

She was probably #1

Se was 1. now X

Then there was 2, who divorced the same guy. It was a tough divorce, and in court she brought up the behavior of her FIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to burst the thread bubble but my IL's are great. They have always been very welcoming to me and they are devoted grandparents and very non judgemental. They are also very generous - my FIL recently disclaimed his inheritance from his father and had it go directly to all of his children. Money is pretty tight for us right now and this was a godsend.

You're not sorry at all, you came to gloat on a thread where people are expressing their pain. You are rude.

No she isn't. She described what her ILs are like and didn't criticize those of us who have complaints.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to burst the thread bubble but my IL's are great. They have always been very welcoming to me and they are devoted grandparents and very non judgemental. They are also very generous - my FIL recently disclaimed his inheritance from his father and had it go directly to all of his children. Money is pretty tight for us right now and this was a godsend.

You're not sorry at all, you came to gloat on a thread where people are expressing their pain. You are rude.

No she isn't. She described what her ILs are like and didn't criticize those of us who have complaints.

This is “what’s the worst thing...” not “how lovely and generous are your in-laws?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: These toxic people who raised your spouse should be cast out of your lives. You are, of course, perfect and should not be expected to deal with anyone who is not.

No one needs your condescension.

At least with us (and my husband's brother's family), my in-laws treated their sons poorly. Mom was an irrational tyrant and dad an enabler. This same MIL had issues with her own MIL, her SIL and her two DILs. We DILs are far from perfect, but we have not cast anyone out. We deal, but demand that our husbands stand up for their wives and children. People are complicated. Some in-laws suck.

[Anonymous]

My first visit with my MIL - she called me by her ex daughter in law. I pretend I didn't hear it because I know he was married before. My dh apologized to me later that evening saying his mom is still stuck in that year.

[Anonymous]

Emotionally and physically abused DH.

Constantly ask to borrow money that they never pay back and just generally use DH’s love to exploit him.

So continuing to be in our lives is the worst thing they have done to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My FIL is a cold, critical, controlling miserable dick. He accidentally killed my dog and screamed at me when we were burying him because I made too big of a deal of my sadness over "just a dog."

He insinuated I was at fault when my newborn was hospitalized. He said he disliked me for a comment I made when I was 22 and then would'nt tell me what the comment was (over 10 years ago). He said he considered disinheriting DH because he wanted to make sure I didnt get any benefit of his money (I WOH full time and am the breadwinner).

There is lots more, but too difficult to explain. I detest him and no longer have anything to do with him.

Omg, I am so sorry! This is absolutely terrible. Stay strong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

People get awkward about death. Speak about it, don’t speak about it, give space, don’t, it’s too much to deal with.... damned if you do, damned if you don’t. You need to let it go

Very true

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My first visit with my MIL - she called me by her ex daughter in law. I pretend I didn't hear it because I know he was married before. My dh apologized to me later that evening saying his mom is still stuck in that year.

Mine did this first few months after we met. But she is 80, so i kind of dismiss it.