Outgrowing marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just accept that the average man is useless. This is what I've come to figure out and I'm happier when I just pretend I'm a single woman again and have to do everything myself. I want my child to grow up with two parents, so I won't divorce my husband, but he's not much help. He can't even say that he's the breadwinner and so I should take care of everything else. I make 4 times his salary. He can't understand why some women don't want to get married. I think it's pretty obvious. When you have to do almost everything on your own, there really isn't much point in having a man around. It's just more work.

Quit nagging him, but do your laundry, your cooking, etc. When he complains tell him it will either be that way or you both can do your 50/50.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just accept that the average man is useless.

If you were dumb enough to marry an average "useless" man, that doesn't say much about your intelligence or good judgment.

He wasn't useless until she got bored of him. Then her brain rewrote history so that he was always useless -- emphasizing the negative and forgetting the positive. On some level, her body hopes she'll get rid of him so that there will be more excitement and she can get more of that sweet, sweet dopamine.

[Anonymous]

Could he have ADD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You never "outgrow" a marriage. Find a common hobby, and find some individual ones. Some good advice I received when DH and I got married is that you can't ever expect your spouse to meet all of your needs. Join a book club if you're looking for more intellectual conversation. Hire a handyman if you're sick of fixing things yourself (I guarantee you, no matter how many times you need one, it will be cheaper than a divorce). Find happiness in your life outside of marriage. Don't tear apart a family because you think there's some Mr. Perfect out there... I promise you, there is not.

This post is full of wisdom.

Get a handyman, join a book club and stop expecting DH to be your end all be all.

Maybe his hidden special skill is putting up with your difficult personality? I know I wouldn't.