Can teachers groom students' hair?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would schedule a conference with the parent first. You know parents these days try and spazz out over every little thing.

I also would insist on written permission for assisting your child, even if they are choking or dying. I don't think teachers should ever touch any child. They should write incident reports in triplicates though!

Sounds like a plan, DCUM?

[Anonymous]

Elementary school teacher here.

Elementary age girls asking for help to put her hair in ponytail or fix braid because they have PE and are required to
have hair up is completely normal.

Teacher casually saying to student, come here and let me play with your hair and give you a new hairstyle is creepy and weird.

Common sense...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For example, female students comes to school w/ messy hair. The child is upset and trying to fix her hair. The teacher steps in, combs her hair & does two braids. Is this okay given the circumstance?

Did the child ASK FOR HELP? If no one asked you, it's not appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would schedule a conference with the parent first. You know parents these days try and spazz out over every little thing.

I would be pissed if my kid's preschool teacher called me in for a conference over this.[/quote

My DH was a teacher for years and parents used to threaten to sue over dumb stuff all the time or claim they were calling the news. One parent threatened to sue him after DH took a child's cell phone in class. Teachers have to look out for themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would schedule a conference with the parent first. You know parents these days try and spazz out over every little thing.

I also would insist on written permission for assisting your child, even if they are choking or dying. I don't think teachers should ever touch any child. They should write incident reports in triplicates though!

Sounds like a plan, DCUM?

A child having messy hair is NOT a life or death situation. Not even the same thing, try again.

[Anonymous]

I used to drop my DD off at her daycare and she'd come home with a new hairstyle.

It did bother me. My child is not a toy to play with her hair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to drop my DD off at her daycare and she'd come home with a new hairstyle.

It did bother me. My child is not a toy to play with her hair.

We have this happen, too. My daughter is 2. We just leave her hair down, it's above her shoulders and she has bangs. She rarely wants it up and won't keep things in her hair at home. At least 3-4 days a week she comes home with her hair in various hairdos, sometimes even with clips.

It bothers me, but I let it go because she seems to like it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to drop my DD off at her daycare and she'd come home with a new hairstyle.

It did bother me. My child is not a toy to play with her hair.

I can see how that could be annoying as fuck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want any teacher messing with my daughter's hair.

Cause the white lady does not know how to treat black hair!

I don't want black teachers doing my child's hair either. It's not her place and we have a haircare routine that works. No one needs to be interfering with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I'm transitioning into teaching & wonder about the protocol. At what age/grade does the teacher stop stepping in? I see wild hair children in junior high school, is it the teacher's responsibility to pull the child to the side & give assistance.

I think in Jr high school you'd be crossing the line into criticizing the student's appearance, which is not appropriate, even if you think you're helping. I once had a substitute teacher point out (in front of the whole class) that I had acne and maybe I should see a doctor. This was not helpful.

[Anonymous]

This seems like common sense to me. I can't imagine my middle schooler asking a teacher for help with her hair.

[Anonymous]

Ok let me give a middle school example. A black female student has really bad damaged edges & bald spots. Her black female teacher & blk school secretary suggested that she put the hair product Jam on her edges to smooth them out. They recall being her age & needing the product after years of wearing ponytails that damaged their hairline. She admits to the teachers that she no longer cares about her thinned out hair. She tells her friends. Her friends admits to her that they are embarrassed by the way she looks. The girl starts taking responsibility for her hair. This is a real example.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:assuming the teacher is female, sounds totally fine to me!

There are female child molesters, too. They start out slowly, gaining the child's trust and grooming them to be molested. Remember that female teacher who was recently arrested after her victim put the phone call with her admitting to the molestation years ago on Youtube?

I was just going to reply to the OP quoted to ask why it's not OK for a male teacher to do this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I'm transitioning into teaching & wonder about the protocol. At what age/grade does the teacher stop stepping in? I see wild hair children in junior high school, is it the teacher's responsibility to pull the child to the side & give assistance.

I think in Jr high school you'd be crossing the line into criticizing the student's appearance, which is not appropriate, even if you think you're helping. I once had a substitute teacher point out (in front of the whole class) that I had acne and maybe I should see a doctor. This was not helpful.

What a bitch

[Anonymous]

I had a pre-k teacher apologize for doing DD's hair. It didn't bother me. She had two ponytails when she started school and one when I picked her up. I didn't care and was surprised that I was given an apology. If it happened frequently I'd have some concerns though.