To the cranky old lady at the gym

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Deal with your damn kid, OP. I HATE hearing kids screaming and crying and the parent just continues on doing whatever s/he wants. If you are incapable of making him stop, don't foist him on the rest of us just because you " have been hearing it for 12 months." That is NO excuse to subject the rest of the world to your obnoxious child. And yes, I am a mom and I have two kids and no, I would never have done what you did. A kid that out of control should be left at home. You are SELFISH, OP, and a bitch. Nothing else explains your behavior.

I'm the OP. what's your suggestion, then? Honestly curious. I was taking a 5 minutes shower. Should I just lock myself up at home? I need to exercise. Unfortunately I can't afford a jogging stroller so my only solution is my $9 gym membership.

I don't understand all this people telling me to leave my child at home. Do you all just leave your babies alone like that???

[Anonymous]

It is not reasonable to expect an airplane to be an adults-only place. That is because an airplane is a mode of public transportation, and children are also members of the public who have to get from here to there.

The gym locker room, on the other hand, is a place where adults who work out at the gym go to shower and change. Unless children and babies also work out at this gym?

[Anonymous]

We get sitters or nannies or ask friends or relatives to sit for us for an hour or two. Or, we pop in a workout DVD at home.

[Anonymous]

OP, there are plenty of gyms where children are allowed to stay in the playrooms for 1.5-2 hours. You should find one of those.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I'm the OP. what's your suggestion, then? Honestly curious. I was taking a 5 minutes shower. Should I just lock myself up at home? I need to exercise. Unfortunately I can't afford a jogging stroller so my only solution is my $9 gym membership.

I don't understand all this people telling me to leave my child at home. Do you all just leave your babies alone like that???

Since you ask, I think you have 3 choices:

1. Get a babysitter while you work out at the gym.
2. Work out somewhere where people take babies.
3. Accept that if you have a screaming baby at the gym, other people who also need to exercise might be unhappy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm the OP. what's your suggestion, then? Honestly curious. I was taking a 5 minutes shower. Should I just lock myself up at home? I need to exercise. Unfortunately I can't afford a jogging stroller so my only solution is my $9 gym membership.

I don't understand all this people telling me to leave my child at home. Do you all just leave your babies alone like that???

Since you ask, I think you have 3 choices:

1. Get a babysitter while you work out at the gym.
2. Work out somewhere where people take babies.
3. Accept that if you have a screaming baby at the gym, other people who also need to exercise might be unhappy.

You may also have another choice: work out while you partner is home with the baby.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why can't you shower at home OP.

Seriously - leave your child in the daycare, and for christ's sake close the shower curtain. What do you think the curtain is there for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm the OP. what's your suggestion, then? Honestly curious. I was taking a 5 minutes shower. Should I just lock myself up at home? I need to exercise. Unfortunately I can't afford a jogging stroller so my only solution is my $9 gym membership.

I don't understand all this people telling me to leave my child at home. Do you all just leave your babies alone like that???

Since you ask, I think you have 3 choices:

1. Get a babysitter while you work out at the gym.
2. Work out somewhere where people take babies.
3. Accept that if you have a screaming baby at the gym, other people who also need to exercise might be unhappy.

Unfortunately I can't afford 1 or 2.

3 is totally fine but people should not try to shame in public a mother who's clearly struggling with a child throwing a tantrum.

He was there right in front of me. I was telling him I was almost done and we would be out soon. He had my phone, he had just nursed so he was not hungry. I did all I could. The lady just wanted to shame me. And when I get old I hope I remember hoe upset she made me feel so I don't do this to other moms.

[Anonymous]

Oh that poor kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Deal with your damn kid, OP. I HATE hearing kids screaming and crying and the parent just continues on doing whatever s/he wants. If you are incapable of making him stop, don't foist him on the rest of us just because you " have been hearing it for 12 months." That is NO excuse to subject the rest of the world to your obnoxious child. And yes, I am a mom and I have two kids and no, I would never have done what you did. A kid that out of control should be left at home. You are SELFISH, OP, and a bitch. Nothing else explains your behavior.

I'm the OP. what's your suggestion, then? Honestly curious. I was taking a 5 minutes shower. Should I just lock myself up at home? I need to exercise. Unfortunately I can't afford a jogging stroller so my only solution is my $9 gym membership.

I don't understand all this people telling me to leave my child at home. Do you all just leave your babies alone like that???

OP, I asked this before, and you still haven't answered. Where does it say you should leave him home alone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm the OP. what's your suggestion, then? Honestly curious. I was taking a 5 minutes shower. Should I just lock myself up at home? I need to exercise. Unfortunately I can't afford a jogging stroller so my only solution is my $9 gym membership.

I don't understand all this people telling me to leave my child at home. Do you all just leave your babies alone like that???

Since you ask, I think you have 3 choices:

1. Get a babysitter while you work out at the gym.
2. Work out somewhere where people take babies.
3. Accept that if you have a screaming baby at the gym, other people who also need to exercise might be unhappy.

You may also have another choice: work out while you partner is home with the baby.

Not every family has 2 responsible adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP. Sounds like you are having a really bad day. Once you calm down, consider that bringing your toddler into the locker room while you shower is against all normal gym etiquette. You need to find a different solution so you can work out and shower. Sorry. I hope things get better for you.

Thanks, PP. yes it's been tough.. He's one and I've been showering with him screaming for 12 months. It's been a long road for us. It was awesome to be able to be by myself for the very first time in 12 months, though.

I've seen kids there before and I asked if it was ok. The manager said most moms leave the class before its over because they can only leave the kids there for one hour so I did like every other woman there does so my child wouldn't be left there past the allowed time.

Unfortunately bathing at home won't work since it's a swimming class and I have to change anyway.Id rather have him cry the extra 5 minutes I shower instead of dragging him home and delaying his nap and lunch so I can have the luxury of a shower

Take. a. shorter. class. Or just do laps for half an hour, leaving you a luxuriant half an hour to shower and dres.. Or go to the gym at night when dad can watch junior. Or stop going to the gym altogether and take walks in your neighborhood. Or, if you really want o go nuts, do as another DCUM mother suggested a few months ago: go to the gym, drop off the kiddo at the daycare, and spend an hour basking in child free wonderment.

Also, based on your tone, I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess the "cranky old lady" heard and saw a child obviously in distress with a mother who seemed indifferent to the child's pain, and she attempted to soothe a strange baby as best she could from her own stall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm the OP. what's your suggestion, then? Honestly curious. I was taking a 5 minutes shower. Should I just lock myself up at home? I need to exercise. Unfortunately I can't afford a jogging stroller so my only solution is my $9 gym membership.

I don't understand all this people telling me to leave my child at home. Do you all just leave your babies alone like that???

Since you ask, I think you have 3 choices:

1. Get a babysitter while you work out at the gym.
2. Work out somewhere where people take babies.
3. Accept that if you have a screaming baby at the gym, other people who also need to exercise might be unhappy.

Unfortunately I can't afford 1 or 2.

3 is totally fine but people should not try to shame in public a mother who's clearly struggling with a child throwing a tantrum.

He was there right in front of me. I was telling him I was almost done and we would be out soon. He had my phone, he had just nursed so he was not hungry. I did all I could. The lady just wanted to shame me. And when I get old I hope I remember hoe upset she made me feel so I don't do this to other moms.

Oh, OP. Just stop.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are saying that you had a screaming baby in a place where screaming babies do not belong, and everybody else should have just been happy about that, because you need to exercise! Can you understand why this is problematic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Deal with your damn kid, OP. I HATE hearing kids screaming and crying and the parent just continues on doing whatever s/he wants. If you are incapable of making him stop, don't foist him on the rest of us just because you " have been hearing it for 12 months." That is NO excuse to subject the rest of the world to your obnoxious child. And yes, I am a mom and I have two kids and no, I would never have done what you did. A kid that out of control should be left at home. You are SELFISH, OP, and a bitch. Nothing else explains your behavior.

I'm the OP. what's your suggestion, then? Honestly curious. I was taking a 5 minutes shower. Should I just lock myself up at home? I need to exercise. Unfortunately I can't afford a jogging stroller so my only solution is my $9 gym membership.

I don't understand all this people telling me to leave my child at home. Do you all just leave your babies alone like that???

OP, I asked this before, and you still haven't answered. Where does it say you should leave him home alone?

2 or 3 posters said "leave him at home" I wonder how... Are you people assuming everybody has a full time nanny?