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Anonymous wrote:You were totally fine, OP. He sounds uncomfortable with extroverted behavior and cannot imagine himself acting the way you did. It sounds like you had a really fun night. And even if you WERE tipsy and slightly “extra,” so what? You know who cares and was judging you? NOBODY! Nobody except your husband, I guess.

And I agree that if you were in an argument, he dredged this up and grossly exaggerated just to take you down and hurt you. I don’t know what your normal style of arguing is as a couple, but this was petty of him.

In sum, you were totally fine! Keep having fun and maybe leave him home for a while.

Plus a million.

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

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It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

"Us"? You and your shadow. OPs husband respectfully brought up his issues the next day. He didn't fight with her when she got home like some might do. OP has some kind of next day regret. What actual advice has anyone given her here? Drink and club more? Get a divorce?

Probably as "respectfully" as you.

If this was about caring about OP, there are gentle and respectful ways to talk about it. However, you made it about you, your own feelings, and your need to control and shame others.

And no, I don't drink myself. God.

What are you prattling on about? Are you this insecure about your own life that you heavily identify with OPs problems?

Nope.

My religion encourages me not to drink. It also is pretty clear about not taking delight or pride in the shaming of others. We are apparently of very different belief systems.

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Who is this Carrie Nation weirdo hijacking this thread?

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

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It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

"Us"? You and your shadow. OPs husband respectfully brought up his issues the next day. He didn't fight with her when she got home like some might do. OP has some kind of next day regret. What actual advice has anyone given her here? Drink and club more? Get a divorce?

He brought up the so-called issues a few weeks later. That timing suggests he either made something up to make her feel bad or else it was so low-level that it wasn’t even worth bringing up genuinely shortly after that evening.

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems than about OP. It's kind of gross.

One glass of wine is more than one standard drink. 2 glasses of wine is around 3 standard drinks which is actually pretty close to 4 drinks and certainly not “well below it”.

No. Learn math.

A restaurant pour of wine is the same as a standard drink amount, or 5oz. That's what makes it standard. It's the standard reference.

A bottle of wine has 750 mL, or 25.36 ounces. That's 5 x 5oz glasses of wine.

Where are you getting 10 ounce pours of wine in a glass at a restaurant?

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Anonymous wrote:Who is this Carrie Nation weirdo hijacking this thread?

I don’t know, but I love you for the Carrie Nation reference!

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Anonymous wrote:Who is this Carrie Nation weirdo hijacking this thread?

I don’t know, but I love you for the Carrie Nation reference!

Me too!!!

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I don’t know, but I love you for the Carrie Nation reference!

Me too!!!

Thirded!

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

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It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

"Us"? You and your shadow. OPs husband respectfully brought up his issues the next day. He didn't fight with her when she got home like some might do. OP has some kind of next day regret. What actual advice has anyone given her here? Drink and club more? Get a divorce?

You are experiencing time compression. It may alternate with time dilation, which is what I am experiencing reading this slog of a thread.

Here is what OP actually wrote:

We just went to one a few weeks ago, and I thought of it as maybe the best night together ever. ... Today he brought up some really hurtful things ...

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

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It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

"Us"? You and your shadow. OPs husband respectfully brought up his issues the next day. He didn't fight with her when she got home like some might do. OP has some kind of next day regret. What actual advice has anyone given her here? Drink and club more? Get a divorce?

You are experiencing time compression. It may alternate with time dilation, which is what I am experiencing reading this slog of a thread.

Here is what OP actually wrote:

We just went to one a few weeks ago, and I thought of it as maybe the best night together ever. ... Today he brought up some really hurtful things ...

So he sat on it for a few weeks. Doesn't mean OP didn't make an ass out of herself. Don't pick fights if you don't want your spouse to bring up things about you.

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

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It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

"Us"? You and your shadow. OPs husband respectfully brought up his issues the next day. He didn't fight with her when she got home like some might do. OP has some kind of next day regret. What actual advice has anyone given her here? Drink and club more? Get a divorce?

You are experiencing time compression. It may alternate with time dilation, which is what I am experiencing reading this slog of a thread.

Here is what OP actually wrote:

We just went to one a few weeks ago, and I thought of it as maybe the best night together ever. ... Today he brought up some really hurtful things ...

So he sat on it for a few weeks. Doesn't mean OP didn't make an ass out of herself. Don't pick fights if you don't want your spouse to bring up things about you.

OP specifically wanted health/wellness input. That's always going to be to drink less.

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

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It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

"Us"? You and your shadow. OPs husband respectfully brought up his issues the next day. He didn't fight with her when she got home like some might do. OP has some kind of next day regret. What actual advice has anyone given her here? Drink and club more? Get a divorce?

Probably as "respectfully" as you.

If this was about caring about OP, there are gentle and respectful ways to talk about it. However, you made it about you, your own feelings, and your need to control and shame others.

And no, I don't drink myself. God.

What are you prattling on about? Are you this insecure about your own life that you heavily identify with OPs problems?

Nope.

My religion encourages me not to drink. It also is pretty clear about not taking delight or pride in the shaming of others. We are apparently of very different belief systems.

OP wanted health/wellness input. You think encouraging her drinking is a good decision?

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

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It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

"Us"? You and your shadow. OPs husband respectfully brought up his issues the next day. He didn't fight with her when she got home like some might do. OP has some kind of next day regret. What actual advice has anyone given her here? Drink and club more? Get a divorce?

Probably as "respectfully" as you.

If this was about caring about OP, there are gentle and respectful ways to talk about it. However, you made it about you, your own feelings, and your need to control and shame others.

And no, I don't drink myself. God.

What are you prattling on about? Are you this insecure about your own life that you heavily identify with OPs problems?

Nope.

My religion encourages me not to drink. It also is pretty clear about not taking delight or pride in the shaming of others. We are apparently of very different belief systems.

OP wanted health/wellness input. You think encouraging her drinking is a good decision?

This whole black-and-white thinking is kind of rough, isn't it? Hang in there.

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

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It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

"Us"? You and your shadow. OPs husband respectfully brought up his issues the next day. He didn't fight with her when she got home like some might do. OP has some kind of next day regret. What actual advice has anyone given her here? Drink and club more? Get a divorce?

Probably as "respectfully" as you.

If this was about caring about OP, there are gentle and respectful ways to talk about it. However, you made it about you, your own feelings, and your need to control and shame others.

And no, I don't drink myself. God.

What are you prattling on about? Are you this insecure about your own life that you heavily identify with OPs problems?

Nope.

My religion encourages me not to drink. It also is pretty clear about not taking delight or pride in the shaming of others. We are apparently of very different belief systems.

OP wanted health/wellness input. You think encouraging her drinking is a good decision?

Where did she say she wanted that? You simply can't write anything without making stuff up.

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Anonymous wrote:You were totally fine, OP. He sounds uncomfortable with extroverted behavior and cannot imagine himself acting the way you did. It sounds like you had a really fun night. And even if you WERE tipsy and slightly “extra,” so what? You know who cares and was judging you? NOBODY! Nobody except your husband, I guess.

And I agree that if you were in an argument, he dredged this up and grossly exaggerated just to take you down and hurt you. I don’t know what your normal style of arguing is as a couple, but this was petty of him.

In sum, you were totally fine! Keep having fun and maybe leave him home for a while.

This! OP you are fun. You are living life. You have nothing to be embarrassed by.