How can I help my failure to launch brother grow up?

[Anonymous]

Also, dating an older woman with resources is not bad. She obviously likes something about him. He's in a need of a mother figure and someone who provides resources, no different than hoards of sugar daddy women. Better than getting a young one pregnant and then being responsible for a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can’t do anything with failure to launch adults who don’t care to manage their mental disorders.

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[Anonymous]

Nothing. There is nothing you can do.

[Anonymous]

The only thing you can do is research subsidized housing in your area and get him into something so he doesn’t end up homeless eventually. There is usually a waiting list that’s years long, so sign him up everywhere and help to navigate the process. Then step aside, that sweet thing will suck you dry if you let him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the Air Force might not be a bad idea.

But will Air Force take him? And he can get kicked out if he dose drugs and bad behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 30- and 40-something losers like this in my extended family who are all licking their chops for their parents to croak to inherit free houses and large sums of money.

Hopefully their parents are leaving it all to charity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, dating an older woman with resources is not bad. She obviously likes something about him. He's in a need of a mother figure and someone who provides resources, no different than hoards of sugar daddy women. Better than getting a young one pregnant and then being responsible for a child.

He would not be responsible for the child. CPS would take the child and place in foster home. He wouldn’t last a few days trying to parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 30- and 40-something losers like this in my extended family who are all licking their chops for their parents to croak to inherit free houses and large sums of money.

Yes, we have someone like this in our family and I'm nervous because we have been told that they intend to leave a significant portion to our kids (their only grandkids) and I genuinely worry this will provoke such rage from the 50-something, unemployed adult who is waiting on that inheritance that they might do something scary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only thing you can do is research subsidized housing in your area and get him into something so he doesn’t end up homeless eventually. There is usually a waiting list that’s years long, so sign him up everywhere and help to navigate the process. Then step aside, that sweet thing will suck you dry if you let him.

This is the only helpful piece of advice on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, dating an older woman with resources is not bad. She obviously likes something about him. He's in a need of a mother figure and someone who provides resources, no different than hoards of sugar daddy women. Better than getting a young one pregnant and then being responsible for a child.

He would not be responsible for the child. CPS would take the child and place in foster home. He wouldn’t last a few days trying to parent.

For that you need a woman also be failure to launch. Believe me, there are plenty of wives trying to wrangle a failure to launch husband.

[Anonymous]

The military is desperate for people right now, they've even upped the age limits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have 30- and 40-something losers like this in my extended family who are all licking their chops for their parents to croak to inherit free houses and large sums of money.

Hopefully their parents are leaving it all to charity.

Unlikely. Blood is thicker than water.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of people who work in restaurants their entire life. I would stop trying to get him to change.

What? We don't want him in a restaurant. Others have to do their work, because of of their lack or motivation, memory, will, work ethic. I have my own problem and/or SN family members to support.
He can sit in the office and make copies, coffee. He needs health insurance. Restaurants don't provided that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of people who work in restaurants their entire life. I would stop trying to get him to change.

What? We don't want him in a restaurant. Others have to do their work, because of of their lack or motivation, memory, will, work ethic. I have my own problem and/or SN family members to support.
He can sit in the office and make copies, coffee. He needs health insurance. Restaurants don't provided that.

OPs brother can put the fries in the bag.

It sounds like he’s worked at multiple restaurants so he should stick with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of people who work in restaurants their entire life. I would stop trying to get him to change.

What? We don't want him in a restaurant. Others have to do their work, because of of their lack or motivation, memory, will, work ethic. I have my own problem and/or SN family members to support.
He can sit in the office and make copies, coffee. He needs health insurance. Restaurants don't provided that.

So special needs run in your family? Stop being a jerk and help your brother rather than denigrate him.