Intimacy with an ex-spouse - is it weird?

[Anonymous]

Not typical but not uncommon. Don't let other people judge you.

[Anonymous]

Well if you ➕ your ex are on the same page and things are not complicated I do not see any issue in what you do.

It can have some drawbacks which may fall into the “unhealthy” category.
I.e., possibly one person may still have residual romantic feelings, etc.

Plus if you are canoodling w/your ex - - you may not be taking advantage of opportunities to meet someone that you can possibly have a serious relationship with later on.

Just some food for thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How often and are you both in relationships?

Maybe twice a month or once every two months, it depends. We are both dating, but not in super serious relationships.

Excuse me what? Cut him off. Either he resumes fidelity and shares the assets or he gets no more cookies.

Wtf are you doing here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re going to sleep with your ex husband, why bother getting divorced?

Honestly, not having to sleep my husband is one of the biggest benefits of getting divorced. I can’t imagine giving up half my assets, and dealing with custody of the kids only to still have to have sex with an ex. Like WHY?

You have the worst of all worlds.

I mean sex wasn’t really the main point of our marriage, and when we we’re married enjoyed it, so ur didn’t feel like a chore. Though we are super compatible sexually, and we can get along and be friends. We still have love for each other, even though we couldn’t stay married at the time. We don’t have resentment for towards each other, and just view sex as something we do to, that benefits both of us, to keep our connection. That was registered as being done by weird people, by the podcast host and viewers, and I didn’t get it.

ahem. cough, cough.

[Anonymous]

It’s weird.
Sounds like you are getting back together. Problematically, he gets everything he wants without commitment.
Neither of you should be dating other people, that’s horrible. You are dating each other and shouldn’t misrepresent to innocent people.
I’m not sure why you’d cheapen yourself like this, but face it- you are getting back together.

[Anonymous]

Super weird. Either remarry your cheater or move on with your life. By continuing to sleep with him you’re stagnant- can’t move on. But just know what you’re getting into. If you’re okay with that then you do you.

[Anonymous]

My ex-wife and i did this for about a year. But we were considering re-marrying.

She wanted the divorce (I was opposed) and after a couple of years decided she wanted to get back together. I seriously considered it and we had sex and went on dates, but in the end I didn't want to back down that route.

The sex was great!
We didn't remarry.

[Anonymous]

Well my friend is currently 6 months pregnant with her ex's baby. It has been very hard/confusing on their 10 year old because he knows they are having another baby but also not getting back together. So, just make sure you're using lots of protection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do you.

People can think it’s weird, it can also work for you.

Takes all kinds. Rock on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex-husband and I have been divorced for about seven years, but we’ve still been intimate occasionally over that time. I recently came across a discussion online where a lot of people were saying this kind of situation is weird or unhealthy, which made me pause.

Curious what others think—if both people on the same page, is this actually a problem, or just one of those things people judge more harshly than they should?

Duh

Such weird posts.

Do whatever you want but don’t lie about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know how you can respect your ex when he cheated on you, and you're still sleeping with him after the divorce.

This.
Like girlllll Eww

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re going to sleep with your ex husband, why bother getting divorced?

Honestly, not having to sleep my husband is one of the biggest benefits of getting divorced. I can’t imagine giving up half my assets, and dealing with custody of the kids only to still have to have sex with an ex. Like WHY?

You have the worst of all worlds.

I mean sex wasn’t really the main point of our marriage, and when we we’re married enjoyed it, so ur didn’t feel like a chore. Though we are super compatible sexually, and we can get along and be friends. We still have love for each other, even though we couldn’t stay married at the time. We don’t have resentment for towards each other, and just view sex as something we do to, that benefits both of us, to keep our connection. That was registered as being done by weird people, by the podcast host and viewers, and I didn’t get it.

It makes absolutely no sense while you’re divorced; you should’ve stayed married.

[Anonymous]

Op, you shouldn’t be having sex with him if you are not married to him. Please repent. Get remarried to him and continue to have sex with him. You can still live separately. No harm

[Anonymous]

I would not do it, but I don't think there is anything wrong with it if it works for you.

[Anonymous]

The only good thing about my ex was our sex life. The rest was awful and I’m sure he feels the same way. Neither of us want to pursue new relationships until we are empty nesters which will be in 2 years. So, once a month or so we get together at a nice hotel and go at it. It works well for both of us but I do look forward to moving on.