Would you work full time in this scenario?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never not work FT. A man is not a plan so unless you have your own trust fund, you need to make your own money.

Your choice, but if you marry correctly (ie a spouse who loves and respects you, if you mutually decide to have a SAHP, it's not a huge risk)

[Anonymous]

I would not give up my financial independence.

[Anonymous]

It is entitled. Your focus for the week is on personal fulfillment and DHs is on working to support the expenses for a family of 5. What are you really contributing to the family while he is at work 40-50 hours a week. What if he loses his job? What if the pressure and stress of the financial responsibility amongst all other responsibilities negatively impacts his physical and mental health?

As much as he says he is fine with it. Tis is how resentment builts. You spend your day hanging out with friends, going for brunch, getting your nails done, going to the gym, watching Netflix and he comes home from a day at work and is then expected to do his 50% of the household chores and childcare while you chatter in his ear about Brenda at the club.

He gets irritable and then you whine on here and everyone tells you his role as a husband is to support you 100% in whatever you want to do and it is his job to take on 100% of the financial responsibility and 50% of all other family responsibilities and if he isn't doing that then he is a loser and you should dump him and get as much money as you can from him. And you both end up miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is entitled. Your focus for the week is on personal fulfillment and DHs is on working to support the expenses for a family of 5. What are you really contributing to the family while he is at work 40-50 hours a week. What if he loses his job? What if the pressure and stress of the financial responsibility amongst all other responsibilities negatively impacts his physical and mental health?

As much as he says he is fine with it. Tis is how resentment builts. You spend your day hanging out with friends, going for brunch, getting your nails done, going to the gym, watching Netflix and he comes home from a day at work and is then expected to do his 50% of the household chores and childcare while you chatter in his ear about Brenda at the club.

He gets irritable and then you whine on here and everyone tells you his role as a husband is to support you 100% in whatever you want to do and it is his job to take on 100% of the financial responsibility and 50% of all other family responsibilities and if he isn't doing that then he is a loser and you should dump him and get as much money as you can from him. And you both end up miserable.

Most white collar men that age and that income are not working that hard either.

[Anonymous]

I work part time and do a ton of volunteering. I highly recommend it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is entitled. Your focus for the week is on personal fulfillment and DHs is on working to support the expenses for a family of 5. What are you really contributing to the family while he is at work 40-50 hours a week. What if he loses his job? What if the pressure and stress of the financial responsibility amongst all other responsibilities negatively impacts his physical and mental health?

As much as he says he is fine with it. Tis is how resentment builts. You spend your day hanging out with friends, going for brunch, getting your nails done, going to the gym, watching Netflix and he comes home from a day at work and is then expected to do his 50% of the household chores and childcare while you chatter in his ear about Brenda at the club.

He gets irritable and then you whine on here and everyone tells you his role as a husband is to support you 100% in whatever you want to do and it is his job to take on 100% of the financial responsibility and 50% of all other family responsibilities and if he isn't doing that then he is a loser and you should dump him and get as much money as you can from him. And you both end up miserable.

I’ve been married 15 years. I work significantly less and make significantly less than my DH. He has never once been resentful towards me- in fact every time I mention increasing my hours or taking less pro bono cases, he says I am being too focused on money and that it’s not an issue. We work as a team (we see money as ours and we contribute in different ways to our home and society)/ he doesn’t have time to do the philanthropic work that I do, the work that is a labor of love and doesn’t pay much but I get to serve marginalized and vulnerable communities (which he sees as the most valuable work). I wouldn’t stereotype people or relationships - especially when you know nothing about the people involved.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get it. I’m 48, my DH makes slightly more and we have a kid already though college and another heading off next fall. but we don’t have a mortgage on our primary home, but do carry mortgages on rentals that we’ve never had issues renting but mortgage totals 10k/mo. However I also make around 300k. I still work and simply can’t give up that much money. At this point our financial goals have shifted to creating wealth for our kids and I can’t help but see how life changing that will be for them. Personally my goal is to make it to 55 in the workforce, but it’s a SLOG. I hate working. I’ve always hated working. At this point in time my career goals amount to nothing more than wanting to be a professional dog walker. I’m in Tech and it’s so F’ing boring, soulless, and fake. Im just thankful that i work from home so i don’t have to be nauseated by these people in person.

Ugh, I feel you, I am the previous poster who lost her job at 46. Is there a certain NW you would feel comfortable retiring earlier than 55?

I don’t really think about a NW number i just have the 55yrs old in my head. Every day I think about how i’m closer to that age. I’m so sick of Linked in and all the business speak garbage fake crap. I’m over it.