My husband brought our neighbor's trashcan to the curb, without the neighbor knowing. Weird?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is neighborly. Not weird at all. It is not uncommon in our neighborhood for people to -

- rake the leaves from side lawns of neighbors that abuts their lawn.
- pull neighbors trash can near and to the side of their garage from the curb after the trash is picked up.
- clear the driveway of their neighbors if they have a snow removal machine
- share rented lawn aerator, power washer, seed spreader with other neighbors to offset rental cost
- let other neighbors use their "construction dumpster" to dispose off their construction junk
- have a cooler filled with water bottles and gatorade for delivery people
- replenish the various free libraries in the community
- have community potlucks and garage sales.
- frequently exchange or give away plants and cuttings

This is what communities should be!! Can you tell us generally where it is?

Montgomery County, MD. Not the super-expensive neighborhoods. All SFHs in the 700-900K range. Quite, peaceful, friendly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is neighborly. Not weird at all. It is not uncommon in our neighborhood for people to -

- rake the leaves from side lawns of neighbors that abuts their lawn.
- pull neighbors trash can near and to the side of their garage from the curb after the trash is picked up.
- clear the driveway of their neighbors if they have a snow removal machine
- share rented lawn aerator, power washer, seed spreader with other neighbors to offset rental cost
- let other neighbors use their "construction dumpster" to dispose off their construction junk
- have a cooler filled with water bottles and gatorade for delivery people
- replenish the various free libraries in the community
- have community potlucks and garage sales.
- frequently exchange or give away plants and cuttings

This is what communities should be!! Can you tell us generally where it is?

Montgomery County, MD. Not the super-expensive neighborhoods. All SFHs in the 700-900K range. Quite, peaceful, friendly.

Also - white collar college educated residents and many immigrants from all over the world.

[Anonymous]

OP, why so negative about your DH?

[Anonymous]

My father started doing things like this when he developed a serious mental illness. I'm being serious. He started having inappropriate boundaries and doing strange things like that.

In my entire adult life I have never had a neighbor take my trash out and I've lived all over the United States.

I would find it so weird if a neighbor did this.

[Anonymous]

The majority of folks on my street do this for one another. I never knew it was a "thing" until I moved here but, it is a lovely gesture.

[Anonymous]

He had a really nice impulse. Maybe he shouldn’t do it again, in case the neighbors don’t like it or don’t want it, but it was a kind thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Why’d he marry you?

[Anonymous]

Agree OP is overthinking and overanxious. I’ve been lucky to live several times on streets where neighbors helped each other out with things like garbage, snow shoveling, package delivery, etc without having some sort of formal discussion about it first. This type of community adds tremendous value to one’s living situation.

[Anonymous]

I'm glad I live in a neighborhood where people do this kind of thing regularly for each other and no one thinks twice about it except to be grateful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This morning my husband was taking our trash can out to the curb for trash day, and noticed our neighbor's next door hadn't brought their trash cans out. Their trashcans are stored on the side of their house, so we can see them from our yard/driveway. My husband brought their can to the curb too.

We don't know them well, we just bought our house a few months ago.

I told my husband that was weird and he shouldn't have done it. You never know, maybe there was a specific reason why the neighbor didn't want their trash picked up today.

What do you think?

I think it was neughborly...good job dh!

Cage to post the same thing although I would spell neighbor different. Same meaning though. I think it’s thoughtful and caring. Not weird at all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This morning my husband was taking our trash can out to the curb for trash day, and noticed our neighbor's next door hadn't brought their trash cans out. Their trashcans are stored on the side of their house, so we can see them from our yard/driveway. My husband brought their can to the curb too.

We don't know them well, we just bought our house a few months ago.

I told my husband that was weird and he shouldn't have done it. You never know, maybe there was a specific reason why the neighbor didn't want their trash picked up today.

What do you think?

I think it was neughborly...good job dh!

Cage to post the same thing although I would spell neighbor different. Same meaning though. I think it’s thoughtful and caring. Not weird at all

*Came LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s weird although clearly derived from a kind impulse.

This reminds me of my husband who used to pick up other people’s babies. He loved babies and babies loved him, but you can’t go around picking up other people’s kids!

Not the same thing.

Clearly no one ever held you as a baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s weird although clearly derived from a kind impulse.

This reminds me of my husband who used to pick up other people’s babies. He loved babies and babies loved him, but you can’t go around picking up other people’s kids!

Not the same thing.

Clearly no one ever held you as a baby.

Only on DCUM would people believe trashcans and children are equivalent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not ok. Sometimes when I am traveling, I don't bring my trash out because I'm not there. Make sure you bring them back up if the neighbors don't.

In a friendly neighborhood neighbors would take your trash out to the curb, then bring it back so thieves don't get a clue you're not home. We do it all the time for neighbors, and vice versa.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This morning my husband was taking our trash can out to the curb for trash day, and noticed our neighbor's next door hadn't brought their trash cans out. Their trashcans are stored on the side of their house, so we can see them from our yard/driveway. My husband brought their can to the curb too.

We don't know them well, we just bought our house a few months ago.

I told my husband that was nice and he should have done it.

What do you think?

FIFY. What is wrong with you?