Your kids see and hear everything - and share with their friends

[Anonymous]

Just dealt with this over the weekend. We'd caught a neighbor doing something really wrong (could have called cops), but we handled it with them. I didn't know my kids knew, but I heard one telling another neighbor's kid about it. We had a massive discussion with our kids about spreading gossip, lies, hurtful information and to think about what they say to their friends. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who then share with their parents. Just FYI. My daughter came home and told me that so and so's parents are on the brink of divorce and sleep in separate beds every night. And another time came home and told me that her friend's mom tells her all the time that if her parents get divorced then it is little girls fault. Oh and they also sleep in separate rooms and Dad sleeps on the couch every night with a special pillow that he hides behind the couch.

Grow up. These kids are hurting/processing and sharing with their friends. People have real problems. How privileged on your high horse and judge these families and kids. You’d rather these kids stay silent. You are the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just dealt with this over the weekend. We'd caught a neighbor doing something really wrong (could have called cops), but we handled it with them. I didn't know my kids knew, but I heard one telling another neighbor's kid about it. We had a massive discussion with our kids about spreading gossip, lies, hurtful information and to think about what they say to their friends. Sigh.

Actually I’d argue that you actually dealt with this by demonstrating emotionally mature behavior to your kids. OP is just shaming these families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure your kids are reporting you and DH have a great sex life!

😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boys barely tell me about their own day! I can’t believe this many kids are coming home and talking about other people’s families. But maybe I just have weirdly aloof kids.

Does your family talk around the dinner table? My kids also are very chatty right before bed (grrr that's when I have the least amount of time and patience because getting them to bed takes forever).

Not sure how it started, but all 3 of my kids are very involved in the lives of everyone around them. Even my 4 year old was telling me about how her best friend is worried about becoming a big sister. We do ask them lots of questions. It's a great way to share your own values and to tell your kids to be kind to others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just dealt with this over the weekend. We'd caught a neighbor doing something really wrong (could have called cops), but we handled it with them. I didn't know my kids knew, but I heard one telling another neighbor's kid about it. We had a massive discussion with our kids about spreading gossip, lies, hurtful information and to think about what they say to their friends. Sigh.

Actually I’d argue that you actually dealt with this by demonstrating emotionally mature behavior to your kids. OP is just shaming these families.

No- it was way out of bounds that my son shared it. He was basically gossiping. We'd already dealt with it and the neighbor didn't need more grief over what happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just dealt with this over the weekend. We'd caught a neighbor doing something really wrong (could have called cops), but we handled it with them. I didn't know my kids knew, but I heard one telling another neighbor's kid about it. We had a massive discussion with our kids about spreading gossip, lies, hurtful information and to think about what they say to their friends. Sigh.

Actually I’d argue that you actually dealt with this by demonstrating emotionally mature behavior to your kids. OP is just shaming these families.

No- it was way out of bounds that my son shared it. He was basically gossiping. We'd already dealt with it and the neighbor didn't need more grief over what happened.

Huh? They’re saying that the way you handled it after the fact was emotionally mature. You did what we would all want other families to do : hold our kids accountable for when they do something wrong. The OP is coming and doing what your son did, gossiping about what all these other kids are seeing and saying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're gullible, aren't you, OP?

My parents have always slept in separate rooms because my father snores terribly. At 75, they're still together.

Maybe don't believe everything you hear, hmm?

Goodness.

Ha, yeah, my bedroom became my father's room as soon as I went off to college. He snores like a freight train. They're mid-80s and still together.