Boyfriend lied to me about his politics

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If anyone is willing to actively lie about basic views (that are important to a lot of people), that person is an unscrupulous liar and you don’t want to be with him - whether the views are politics or marriage/kids or really anything else. I’d say the same if he pretended to be conservative but is secretly a socialist or if he said he wanted a SAHM but secretly wanted his wife to he a working mom or whatever else. Run!

+1
If youre willing to lie or misrepresent your views you are not a safe person or a good partner.

[Anonymous]

Depending on what he is saying and it what context. Your posts reads like you are progressive politically, does that mean you have to align with democrats no matter what or do you disagree with some of the platform? Can you support equal rights for women, while not advocating for the oppression of men?

BTW- Anti-Semetic stuff seems left leaning in the US under the current party platforms, excluding the name calling political posturing.

[Anonymous]

when did liberals and Democrats become anti-Jewish? I always thought that Jews were generally liberal, but the modern Democrat party seems to hate Jews.

[Anonymous]

Err it wasn't the liberals chanting "jews will not replace us".

[Anonymous]

I don't think anyone could ever fake it in a way I would believe. It is in their actions and reactions, their opinons and viewpoints, their decision making, their life style, their response to world events, where they put their money and time.

I have lots of people in my life who have differing political views than I do and I know this without ever talking politics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:when did liberals and Democrats become anti-Jewish? I always thought that Jews were generally liberal, but the modern Democrat party seems to hate Jews.

Donald? Is that you?

[Anonymous]

Criticism of Netanyahu government actions is not antisemitism. Else a lot of Jewish Israelis are...

[Anonymous]

I’m not defending his views or suggesting you stay with him, but it is possible that he wasn’t lying about his views, they’ve just changed. If he’s listening to a lot of podcasts, he may not be spending much time on news, and what “news” he gets may be from unreliable sources. He may have honestly been a feminist when he started dating you, even if after being brainwashed, he isn’t anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not defending his views or suggesting you stay with him, but it is possible that he wasn’t lying about his views, they’ve just changed. If he’s listening to a lot of podcasts, he may not be spending much time on news, and what “news” he gets may be from unreliable sources. He may have honestly been a feminist when he started dating you, even if after being brainwashed, he isn’t anymore.

Then he still isn't a fit partner. End result = dumped. All works out for the best.

[Anonymous]

OP, yay for you for recognizing that the appropriate response to the revelation that he was hiding his true politics is to dump him!

BFs who lie about anything should be immediately dumped. Lying isn't a problem you can fix, and if it's happening in one area, it is happening or will happen in others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Err it wasn't the liberals chanting "jews will not replace us".

+1 The GOP platformed multiple conservative political stars Sieg Heiling on stage at CPAC but we're supposed to think that liberals not supporting a genocide are "anti-Jewish". GMAFB.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I wasn’t trying to turn this into a partisan fight. My ex is neither a Democrat nor a Republican. I was just pointing out that he apparently holds some abhorrent views that he hid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a vent post. When I first met my boyfriend he came off as a pretty nice guy, very well read, open-minded and intelligent. He mentioned being a feminist in our early dating and espoused views about equality (this was all unprompted).

Now that we’ve settled into the relationship he has started trying to get me to listen to various podcasts he’s into. I don’t listen to podcasts and never really knew who these people were. Well after listening more they are saying some very anti-woman stuff, and my boyfriend has started complaining about how feminism and women working has ruined our society. He also has started saying super anti-Jewish stuff. Um WTF?! He is entitled to his opinions, but he clearly deceived me on his views.

I decided im done. But i’m pissed that he wasted my time.

Your boyfriend, a man who has no respect for women and who seeks power over women, acted toward you, a woman, in a disrespectful and high handed way by seeking to deceive you about who he truly is. I'd say his actions are entirely consistent, wouldn't you?

Now, if you don't want a disrespectful, deceptive, power-hungry misogynist, then you're with the wrong person, aren't you? But his politics are the least of what should worry you here.

[Anonymous]

I worked with a guy at a big consulting firm here in the DC area that literally had a degree in women’s studies. He participated in all the women-related D&I initiatives at the firm. It got him a promotion to Senior Associate.

One day, a female junior colleague came up to me very upset that she had asked him for a favor, something like “Hey can you pass that box of Kleenex to me?” And he responded by leaning in within two inches of her face “And if I do, what are you going to do for me?”

Morally if the story: Creeps happen and they masquerade as feminists all day long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:when did liberals and Democrats become anti-Jewish? I always thought that Jews were generally liberal, but the modern Democrat party seems to hate Jews.

It's all a PSYOP.