Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a mom of older teens so its been a while. My sister is having a baby and her ob/gym said anyone around the baby within the first two months must have a flu shot, covid shot and Dtap.

I've had enough covid shots and had covid a few times. I was not planning to get me or my kids another shot.

Is this standard for newborns now?

Your sister is asking you to help protect her baby. Who cares if it’s standard! If you don’t want to comply wait to see the child until you sister feels it’s safe. It sounds like you are looking for a reason to fight with your sister and have “proof” she’s wrong. It’s her kid. Let her do what she feels is best.

FWIW - I didn’t ask people to vaccinate and my kids were fine, but my youngest is 12. I did ask them to be healthy and wash their hands.

[Anonymous]

I’m surprised. I did not ask anyone to get shots and I don’t remember the doctor advising me too. I have teens.
What about everyone else who has contact with the baby? All the friends? People at the grocery store? Strangers who walk up to congratulate you and admire the baby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised. I did not ask anyone to get shots and I don’t remember the doctor advising me too. I have teens.
What about everyone else who has contact with the baby? All the friends? People at the grocery store? Strangers who walk up to congratulate you and admire the baby?

Idiot this is why ALL of us should get shots. Bc we walk around groceries stores and hospitals where there will be other people’s babies. It’s why I stay current in my tdao and the vaccines they selfish POS should be driven out of the tribe.

[Anonymous]

They selfish = you selfish

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised. I did not ask anyone to get shots and I don’t remember the doctor advising me too. I have teens.
What about everyone else who has contact with the baby? All the friends? People at the grocery store? Strangers who walk up to congratulate you and admire the baby?

Idiot this is why ALL of us should get shots. Bc we walk around groceries stores and hospitals where there will be other people’s babies. It’s why I stay current in my tdao and the vaccines they selfish POS should be driven out of the tribe.

My brother caught whooping cough in his late 20s as he hadn't had a booster since he was a teen. This was before he met my sis in law and had kids. Even with a milder case due to his previous vaccinations it was terrible. He was sick for months.

You step on a rusty nail, the hospital will immediately give you a Tdap because tetanus is absolutely terrible.

Get your Tdap boosters.

[Anonymous]

Yes OP, it's standard. Standard-enough to not insist on special treatment from your sister. Get your shots, or visit for the first time after 2 months. I'm surprised it isn't 4 months. Or you could see your sister and baby from a slight distance. Ideally outdoors - but she probably won't feel comfortable that you wouldn't step too close and want to chip away at her resolve.

Do what she wants - it's not an outliner request.

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I'll never understand the reasoning of people like OP, who are fine with playing with a newborn's life just because they don't want to be inconvenienced.

OP. I"m not playing with anyone's life. I asked if it was standard now

Also playing with words, I see. To answer your question, yes, it's the standard recommendation to be up to date on all routine vaccines, including flu, Covid, and Tdap (adult version of DtaP).

You should know this. I have a young adult and a high schooler, and I know this.

I know what is required for vaccinations for kids. I don't know of any middle-aged parents who have been asked to get a recent tetanus shot though. Do you?

It's about purtussis, not tetanus. Whooping cough is deadly for babies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised. I did not ask anyone to get shots and I don’t remember the doctor advising me too. I have teens.
What about everyone else who has contact with the baby? All the friends? People at the grocery store? Strangers who walk up to congratulate you and admire the baby?

Are people at the grocery store picking up and kissing your newborn? You might want to rethink that.

[Anonymous]

As a mom whose infant had to be hospitalized at 6weeks due to a fever, I urge you to just get the shots or wait to see the baby. It was traumatic. Knowing your infant is having a spinal tap and then has to be admitted for 3 days when you just brought them home…let’s just say it caused me to be a way more anxious mom than I needed to be.

[Anonymous]

I don't know of any middle-aged parents who have been asked to get a recent tetanus shot though. Do you?

Yes. I am a Grandma of 2 young ones/babies. In the DMV. And so are my friends. We were all asked, and did get.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a mom whose infant had to be hospitalized at 6weeks due to a fever, I urge you to just get the shots or wait to see the baby. It was traumatic. Knowing your infant is having a spinal tap and then has to be admitted for 3 days when you just brought them home…let’s just say it caused me to be a way more anxious mom than I needed to be.

And I didn’t ask anyone to get a vaccine, just wash their hands when they held the baby, but some of the grandparents didn’t even do that for me. It was a holiday gathering where my baby picked up whatever got them sick.

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No it’s not “standard”. Recommended, probably.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your dtap is up to date, screen shot that for her and show her. Even dads don’t have to get dtap for every baby, just the moms do while pregnant because it passes immunity.

The tetanus portion of the vaccine is good for 10 years, but they’ll still have you get it again, even if it’s up to date, if you cut yourself badly on a metal object.

However, the pertussis portion of the vaccine doesn’t convey effective immunity for 10 years. If you haven’t gotten it in the last 3 years, it’s a good idea to get it again before being around a newborn.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your dtap is up to date, screen shot that for her and show her. Even dads don’t have to get dtap for every baby, just the moms do while pregnant because it passes immunity.

The tetanus portion of the vaccine is good for 10 years, but they’ll still have you get it again, even if it’s up to date, if you cut yourself badly on a metal object.

However, the pertussis portion of the vaccine doesn’t convey effective immunity for 10 years. If you haven’t gotten it in the last 3 years, it’s a good idea to get it again before being around a newborn.

But recommended more frequently if you're a primary caretaker of a baby- my husband and parents, who watch our kids, both got updated trap before 10 years at our Dr's recommendation. Your sister is the rational one- you're the one not being logical as you dislike your little sister setting rules on your behavior

[Anonymous]

My newborn (now 17) caught the flu and had to be hospitalized. Thankfully he had no serious complications. I would 100% get vaccinated for Covid/flu and anything else recommended if I planned to visit my family member’s baby or was in any way in close contact with children too young to be vaccinated. Your sister is not unreasonable. If you’re opposed to vaccination, wait to visit until the baby is old enough to have their shots. You have a choice.