Where are the best places to approach women in public?

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Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend approached me while waiting for a train and asked if I'd want to sit together

That's strange just walked up to you and asked to sit together? Odd.

Best thing that ever happened to me. He struck up a convo and then when the train got there he asked what stop i was heading to and if I wanted to sit together/continue the convo.

Is he a really outgoing person in general? Did he ever describe to you how he felt that day?

I'd describe him as a reserved social butterfly. He is never the center of attention or life of the party, but he can shoot the sh-t with anyone about almost any topic and always leaves wherever he goes with new friends. It was a very cold winter day and I was shivering like crazy waiting for the train because I was in a work dress + pea coat + flats and he made some joke about it being a good thing i dressed for the weather and I joked back that I was dismayed because my humble hardworking parents paid good money for 14 years of catholic school skirts to permanently harden my legs to the cold, but I was apparently turning wimpy in my old age. He laughed and said he was also a reformed catholic school kid and we started chatting.

I am invested in this story. Did he get off at the same stop as you? At which point did you ask for his number?

I got off first and he asked for my number beforehand. He texted me right away just continuing the convo we were talking about and he asked me out for coffee 2 weeks later. Coffee lasted 9 hours through lunch, a walk, and dinner too.

[Anonymous]

Pls don’t approach married women.

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Anonymous wrote:I second the "please do!" as long as it's not creepy. Places as are vast as "public" - the gym, the grocery store, the metro, on a walk. Just strike up a neutral conversation.

No please don’t. Bad advice. Most women will consider It harassment.
There is only a 5% chance that the woman you approach might be interested.

So I have a chance?

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I used to be a PUA (pick-up artist), now happily married. Obviously you want to look for IOIs (indicator of interest) and AI (approach invitation) when possible, but you probably know that if you're day-gaming.

In terms of locations, grocery stores on Saturday evenings tend to draw single women. Also museums/art galleries. Avoid book clubs, because they tend to draw the wrong type of woman and you'll be stuck reading "chick lit".

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Wherever you naturally encounter women, without it seeming like you're following her or ogling her. Waiting rooms lend themselves to this. You could also strike up a conversation in a long line somewhere, like at the DMV. But don't make it a situation where you follow her around the grocery store or stalk her while walking along a sidewalk or in a park. That's creepy.

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A few weeks ago I went to my local bar that has line dancing lessons one day during the week. OMG, it's almost all women and hot women at that. I think I was one of only 3 or 4 other men there. I sucked at it sooo bad but still had fun and talked to a few women. I'm goiing back for sure.

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Dog parks seem to be popular pick up places these days. I am NOT suggesting you get a dog for this purpose, just that it seems to be a common place to meet people these days.

My neighborhood has a running group. It started because some women wanted to run at night after work but didn't want to run alone. It seems to be a popular way to meet now. It picks up more women members this time of year as it gets dark earlier.

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I’d say not the gym, but agree it’s fine where you might be near each other.

I don’t get hit on much these days, but it’s easy enough to say “thanks, I’m married” so I wouldn’t worry too much about figuring out if the person is married before you approach.

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My early 20s DS has asked women out in the grocery store, deli, and at Starbucks. All have led to dates and one a longish-term relationship. I find this sort of remarkable, though he’s always been friendly and confident. Sounds like things always start with a couple rounds of eye contact and smiles, then progress to chatting about food or drink preferences, then goes on from there.

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Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend approached me while waiting for a train and asked if I'd want to sit together

That's strange just walked up to you and asked to sit together? Odd.

Best thing that ever happened to me. He struck up a convo and then when the train got there he asked what stop i was heading to and if I wanted to sit together/continue the convo.

Is he a really outgoing person in general? Did he ever describe to you how he felt that day?

I'd describe him as a reserved social butterfly. He is never the center of attention or life of the party, but he can shoot the sh-t with anyone about almost any topic and always leaves wherever he goes with new friends. It was a very cold winter day and I was shivering like crazy waiting for the train because I was in a work dress + pea coat + flats and he made some joke about it being a good thing i dressed for the weather and I joked back that I was dismayed because my humble hardworking parents paid good money for 14 years of catholic school skirts to permanently harden my legs to the cold, but I was apparently turning wimpy in my old age. He laughed and said he was also a reformed catholic school kid and we started chatting.

I am invested in this story. Did he get off at the same stop as you? At which point did you ask for his number?

Love this.
I got off first and he asked for my number beforehand. He texted me right away just continuing the convo we were talking about and he asked me out for coffee 2 weeks later. Coffee lasted 9 hours through lunch, a walk, and dinner too.

[Anonymous]

I know a married couple who met while protesting during the Arab Spring. That was a bust but they emigrated and are happily married.

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Approach women in a place they feel safe so that if they feel uncomfortable they have an escape route. If you are incapable of judging whether a woman is in a safe space please don't approach women in public. If you are an adult man not on the spectrum it's not hard to read the room. If you can't do this stay on OLD.

It's unfortunate some of us men now have to ask this question. This is such a natural skill and I say this as an introvert. I met my wife while we were waiting in line to drop off UPS packages. We naturally started talking and the guy had IT issues so we were waiting in line longer. The rest is history. These are the kind of opportunities you need to take advantage of. Again if you are going to be a weirdo stay on OLD. Women are very very very very good at sending a nervous non confident man miles away.

[Anonymous]

Gym

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Anonymous wrote:I know a married couple who met while protesting during the Arab Spring. That was a bust but they emigrated and are happily married.

They found love in a hopeless place… 🎶

[Anonymous]

I'm just alright looking, and have gotten approached in the wild. Ignore all these people who say not to approach. Nothing happens for you by staying home and doing nothing. Just don't be creepy about it.

Some ways people approached me:
-I was sitting on subway and guy behind me asked if I was from the same small country as him (I'm a POC)
-I was standing on subway platform with suitcase (headed home from airport). Guy asked me if I was coming or going.
-I was on the bus and had a tote bag with name of university I worked at. Guy asked if I went to that school.
-I was at the library. Guy came up and asked if I was X name and said I looked familiar. Probably a line, but it got me intrigued.

All of these ways led to pretty natural conversations. I've also been cold approached at a book store. The guy said he just wanted to meet me and say hi. That's definitely less successful, because the intentions are super clear and puts a lot of pressure on the person being approached.