How many dates until you commit?

[Anonymous]

Going exclusive doesn't mean you are committed, engaged or married so yes if one is really interested, they can go exclusive after one date to explore if its long term material.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Going exclusive doesn't mean you are committed, engaged or married so yes if one is really interested, they can go exclusive after one date to explore if its long term material.

How can you be really interested after one date though? How much can you learn about someone on one date? That seems like a waste of time for women.

[Anonymous]

Slept w him too soon. He’s def not all that interested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t sleep with someone unless you are married to them

Hush Gradma/Grandpa

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Going exclusive doesn't mean you are committed, engaged or married so yes if one is really interested, they can go exclusive after one date to explore if its long term material.

How can you be really interested after one date though? How much can you learn about someone on one date? That seems like a waste of time for women.

Yes, and also it gives the guy a default right to ask for no condoms. Of course, since he’s not dating anyone else….

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, he's not super into you, but he's getting sex so why not continue. I follow the "no sex without monogamy" thing because that's what works for me. Clearly that's not what works for him. You have to decide if you need that.

I wouldn’t have been opposed to just hooking up (he’s cute and good in bed), I just find it odd he wasn’t honest with me about sleeping with someone else and not seeing relationship potential with me.

How was he not honest? You asked, he answered.

Or do you mean you think he was dishonest because he didn’t voluntarily disclose it upfront? I don’t think that is dishonest.

OP. Yes, it feels like a lie of omission. Sort of like, I have kids, and if I didn’t disclose to a man after several dates that I had kids, then said “well you never asked!”

Admittedly I may be sensitive to this as my xH would try to get away with cheating on technicalities, like “you never TOLD me I couldn’t get on dating apps/sext with ex-girlfriends/DM random women on Facebook” when I felt it’s pretty obvious you don’t do those things when in a relationship.

Anyway, I’ve decided to end things with the guy. I don’t feel comfortable with the situation. He asked me to come over last night and I let him know I don't see a future and wouldn’t be seeing him anymore.

You need to examine your role in this misunderstanding before you date anyone else. There’s nothing wrong with sleeping with someone on the third date. There’s nothing wrong with wanting exclusivity once a relationship becomes sexual. However, those two things are not automatically assumed to go hand in hand. People who really want exclusivity, but haven’t indicated that, are bound to have this happen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, he's not super into you, but he's getting sex so why not continue. I follow the "no sex without monogamy" thing because that's what works for me. Clearly that's not what works for him. You have to decide if you need that.

I wouldn’t have been opposed to just hooking up (he’s cute and good in bed), I just find it odd he wasn’t honest with me about sleeping with someone else and not seeing relationship potential with me.

How was he not honest? You asked, he answered.

Or do you mean you think he was dishonest because he didn’t voluntarily disclose it upfront? I don’t think that is dishonest.

OP. Yes, it feels like a lie of omission. Sort of like, I have kids, and if I didn’t disclose to a man after several dates that I had kids, then said “well you never asked!”

Admittedly I may be sensitive to this as my xH would try to get away with cheating on technicalities, like “you never TOLD me I couldn’t get on dating apps/sext with ex-girlfriends/DM random women on Facebook” when I felt it’s pretty obvious you don’t do those things when in a relationship.

Anyway, I’ve decided to end things with the guy. I don’t feel comfortable with the situation. He asked me to come over last night and I let him know I don't see a future and wouldn’t be seeing him anymore.

You need to examine your role in this misunderstanding before you date anyone else. There’s nothing wrong with sleeping with someone on the third date. There’s nothing wrong with wanting exclusivity once a relationship becomes sexual. However, those two things are not automatically assumed to go hand in hand. People who really want exclusivity, but haven’t indicated that, are bound to have this happen.

Agree with this. As a woman. I assume nothing when it comes to exclusivity even if we are sleeping together. Ask.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t sleep with someone unless you are married to them

Hush Gradma/Grandpa

Okay… someone is a whore…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t sleep with someone unless you are married to them

Hush Gradma/Grandpa

Okay… someone is a whore…

Hush .. Again

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, he's not super into you, but he's getting sex so why not continue. I follow the "no sex without monogamy" thing because that's what works for me. Clearly that's not what works for him. You have to decide if you need that.

I wouldn’t have been opposed to just hooking up (he’s cute and good in bed), I just find it odd he wasn’t honest with me about sleeping with someone else and not seeing relationship potential with me.

That's a loaded word. He wasn't honest with you? How so? I absolutely see nothing wrong with his behavior up to this point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, he's not super into you, but he's getting sex so why not continue. I follow the "no sex without monogamy" thing because that's what works for me. Clearly that's not what works for him. You have to decide if you need that.

I wouldn’t have been opposed to just hooking up (he’s cute and good in bed), I just find it odd he wasn’t honest with me about sleeping with someone else and not seeing relationship potential with me.

That's a loaded word. He wasn't honest with you? How so? I absolutely see nothing wrong with his behavior up to this point.

OP is blaming the guy for not reading her mind.