Orientation parties

[Anonymous]

I spent the night at a frat house at my orientation …this one frat had a party that a bunch of us went to and 17 year me and my new friends I had known for like 20 minutes partied all night and passed out… and I kissed a 23 year old! Sadly, this is all true!

[Anonymous]

I had sex in high school and college (one boyfriend in college and a few long-term boyfriends in college at what is generally regarded as a very top university while also being a party school). There is a big difference between being sexually active and sleeping with randoms during your first week of college. Socially it is just not a good idea, and if it bites your kid (ok, daughter) in the ass, it will affect her self-esteem considerably. It's also dangerous to go off alone with boys you just met, especially when you're drunk.

Getting wasted and having literal sex with people during orientation is not something you should think is just the norm and be encouraging your kids to do (especially your girls, sorry). And I say this as a pretty permissive parent of two teenage daughters, and as someone who had sex before and during college.

At my age I am allowed to do a lot of things--I could get drunk daily and go around embarrassing myself socially at all kinds of events. Being over 21 doesn't mean this is a good idea... encourage a little judgment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had sex in high school and college (one boyfriend in college and a few long-term boyfriends in college at what is generally regarded as a very top university while also being a party school). There is a big difference between being sexually active and sleeping with randoms during your first week of college. Socially it is just not a good idea, and if it bites your kid (ok, daughter) in the ass, it will affect her self-esteem considerably. It's also dangerous to go off alone with boys you just met, especially when you're drunk.

Getting wasted and having literal sex with people during orientation is not something you should think is just the norm and be encouraging your kids to do (especially your girls, sorry). And I say this as a pretty permissive parent of two teenage daughters, and as someone who had sex before and during college.

At my age I am allowed to do a lot of things--I could get drunk daily and go around embarrassing myself socially at all kinds of events. Being over 21 doesn't mean this is a good idea... encourage a little judgment.

Do you acknowledge the current generation has different viewpoints towards sex than your generation?

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a hopeful teenager. Don't worry, you are going off to college for real very soon.

Huh? Are you not aware of what’s happening at orientation?

The same thing as the rest of the year. Pack condoms and plan b for the whole year, not specifically orientation.

There are some pretty bad side effects coming out from plan b.

Condoms, pay attention to your burth control, and have enough self respect not to do random hook ups, especially while drunk. Keep your power by not being a dummy.

Are you slut shaming?

DP here. Um, I am. SOrry, but it is just not a good look for any 17-18 yr old female or male to hook up with complete strangers. It is not a good way to start the school year. How can anyone be okay with their kids doing this? THat's just gross and don't be shocked if the other kids think the same way.

You’re kidding yourself if you think this isn’t happening and it’s not just the kids that were having sex in high school. It’s not up to you decide what is or isn’t a good look for someone 18 and older. Grow up.

You grow up. Regardless of where this happens, in high school, college. It is NOT a good look and people WILL judge. Let's not pretend that when your freshman decides to have sex with a boy or decides to hook up with a bunch of randoms at a party that the other kids aren't talking or calling her names. Same thing with boys. And worse, their reputation will be tainted and no one who knows what happened is going to want to date them. Whether you like it or not, this is reality.

This isn’t true at all. You sound like an old fashioned, judgmental prude. Are you jealous kids these days are free to enjoy casual sex or something? You might need therapy.

Its not about having casual sex. Its about having sex with a stranger you literally just met an hour or 2 ago. Disgusting. Do you know how many girls get sexually assaulted in college? Stop glorifying this stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At my orientation, other kids got to party but I got put with nerds and we played board games.

That would absolutely be my preference, and my kids' too. I hope that's an option!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had sex in high school and college (one boyfriend in college and a few long-term boyfriends in college at what is generally regarded as a very top university while also being a party school). There is a big difference between being sexually active and sleeping with randoms during your first week of college. Socially it is just not a good idea, and if it bites your kid (ok, daughter) in the ass, it will affect her self-esteem considerably. It's also dangerous to go off alone with boys you just met, especially when you're drunk.

Getting wasted and having literal sex with people during orientation is not something you should think is just the norm and be encouraging your kids to do (especially your girls, sorry). And I say this as a pretty permissive parent of two teenage daughters, and as someone who had sex before and during college.

At my age I am allowed to do a lot of things--I could get drunk daily and go around embarrassing myself socially at all kinds of events. Being over 21 doesn't mean this is a good idea... encourage a little judgment.

Do you acknowledge the current generation has different viewpoints towards sex than your generation?

And social media exists.

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a hopeful teenager. Don't worry, you are going off to college for real very soon.

Huh? Are you not aware of what’s happening at orientation?

The same thing as the rest of the year. Pack condoms and plan b for the whole year, not specifically orientation.

There are some pretty bad side effects coming out from plan b.

Condoms, pay attention to your burth control, and have enough self respect not to do random hook ups, especially while drunk. Keep your power by not being a dummy.

Are you slut shaming?

DP here. Um, I am. SOrry, but it is just not a good look for any 17-18 yr old female or male to hook up with complete strangers. It is not a good way to start the school year. How can anyone be okay with their kids doing this? THat's just gross and don't be shocked if the other kids think the same way.

You’re kidding yourself if you think this isn’t happening and it’s not just the kids that were having sex in high school. It’s not up to you decide what is or isn’t a good look for someone 18 and older. Grow up.

You grow up. Regardless of where this happens, in high school, college. It is NOT a good look and people WILL judge. Let's not pretend that when your freshman decides to have sex with a boy or decides to hook up with a bunch of randoms at a party that the other kids aren't talking or calling her names. Same thing with boys. And worse, their reputation will be tainted and no one who knows what happened is going to want to date them. Whether you like it or not, this is reality.

This isn’t true at all. You sound like an old fashioned, judgmental prude. Are you jealous kids these days are free to enjoy casual sex or something? You might need therapy.

Its not about having casual sex. Its about having sex with a stranger you literally just met an hour or 2 ago. Disgusting. Do you know how many girls get sexually assaulted in college? Stop glorifying this stuff.

You don’t understand the hookup culture that has replaced how dating worked in your day. College students consensually have sex with people they meet in bars or on hookup apps all the time. You really sound out of touch.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had sex in high school and college (one boyfriend in college and a few long-term boyfriends in college at what is generally regarded as a very top university while also being a party school). There is a big difference between being sexually active and sleeping with randoms during your first week of college. Socially it is just not a good idea, and if it bites your kid (ok, daughter) in the ass, it will affect her self-esteem considerably. It's also dangerous to go off alone with boys you just met, especially when you're drunk.

Getting wasted and having literal sex with people during orientation is not something you should think is just the norm and be encouraging your kids to do (especially your girls, sorry). And I say this as a pretty permissive parent of two teenage daughters, and as someone who had sex before and during college.

At my age I am allowed to do a lot of things--I could get drunk daily and go around embarrassing myself socially at all kinds of events. Being over 21 doesn't mean this is a good idea... encourage a little judgment.

Do you acknowledge the current generation has different viewpoints towards sex than your generation?

And social media exists.

Who cares. This generation doesn’t find casual sex shameful. If you do, maybe you should ask yourself why you were trained to think that way.

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a hopeful teenager. Don't worry, you are going off to college for real very soon.

Huh? Are you not aware of what’s happening at orientation?

The same thing as the rest of the year. Pack condoms and plan b for the whole year, not specifically orientation.

There are some pretty bad side effects coming out from plan b.

Condoms, pay attention to your burth control, and have enough self respect not to do random hook ups, especially while drunk. Keep your power by not being a dummy.

Are you slut shaming?

DP here. Um, I am. SOrry, but it is just not a good look for any 17-18 yr old female or male to hook up with complete strangers. It is not a good way to start the school year. How can anyone be okay with their kids doing this? THat's just gross and don't be shocked if the other kids think the same way.

You’re kidding yourself if you think this isn’t happening and it’s not just the kids that were having sex in high school. It’s not up to you decide what is or isn’t a good look for someone 18 and older. Grow up.

You grow up. Regardless of where this happens, in high school, college. It is NOT a good look and people WILL judge. Let's not pretend that when your freshman decides to have sex with a boy or decides to hook up with a bunch of randoms at a party that the other kids aren't talking or calling her names. Same thing with boys. And worse, their reputation will be tainted and no one who knows what happened is going to want to date them. Whether you like it or not, this is reality.

This isn’t true at all. You sound like an old fashioned, judgmental prude. Are you jealous kids these days are free to enjoy casual sex or something? You might need therapy.

Its not about having casual sex. Its about having sex with a stranger you literally just met an hour or 2 ago. Disgusting. Do you know how many girls get sexually assaulted in college? Stop glorifying this stuff.

You don’t understand the hookup culture that has replaced how dating worked in your day. College students consensually have sex with people they meet in bars or on hookup apps all the time. You really sound out of touch.

And that still doesn’t make it right. I have college-aged kids in sororities, and they know better than to go off with random strangers at bars. This is a serious safety issue. Yes, people do it—but let’s not pretend others aren’t watching and thinking, What are they thinking? You're completely out of touch.

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a hopeful teenager. Don't worry, you are going off to college for real very soon.

Huh? Are you not aware of what’s happening at orientation?

The same thing as the rest of the year. Pack condoms and plan b for the whole year, not specifically orientation.

There are some pretty bad side effects coming out from plan b.

Condoms, pay attention to your burth control, and have enough self respect not to do random hook ups, especially while drunk. Keep your power by not being a dummy.

Are you slut shaming?

DP here. Um, I am. SOrry, but it is just not a good look for any 17-18 yr old female or male to hook up with complete strangers. It is not a good way to start the school year. How can anyone be okay with their kids doing this? THat's just gross and don't be shocked if the other kids think the same way.

You’re kidding yourself if you think this isn’t happening and it’s not just the kids that were having sex in high school. It’s not up to you decide what is or isn’t a good look for someone 18 and older. Grow up.

You grow up. Regardless of where this happens, in high school, college. It is NOT a good look and people WILL judge. Let's not pretend that when your freshman decides to have sex with a boy or decides to hook up with a bunch of randoms at a party that the other kids aren't talking or calling her names. Same thing with boys. And worse, their reputation will be tainted and no one who knows what happened is going to want to date them. Whether you like it or not, this is reality.

This isn’t true at all. You sound like an old fashioned, judgmental prude. Are you jealous kids these days are free to enjoy casual sex or something? You might need therapy.

Its not about having casual sex. Its about having sex with a stranger you literally just met an hour or 2 ago. Disgusting. Do you know how many girls get sexually assaulted in college? Stop glorifying this stuff.

You don’t understand the hookup culture that has replaced how dating worked in your day. College students consensually have sex with people they meet in bars or on hookup apps all the time. You really sound out of touch.

And that still doesn’t make it right. I have college-aged kids in sororities, and they know better than to go off with random strangers at bars. This is a serious safety issue. Yes, people do it—but let’s not pretend others aren’t watching and thinking, What are they thinking? You're completely out of touch.

You don’t get to decide what’s right and wrong. Most of the hooking up is done with fellow students, so not really complete strangers. With your provincial attitude, your kids probably don’t feel comfortable being honest about how this stuff works now. But sure, keep pretending I’m the one that’s out of touch if it makes you feel better.

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a hopeful teenager. Don't worry, you are going off to college for real very soon.

Huh? Are you not aware of what’s happening at orientation?

The same thing as the rest of the year. Pack condoms and plan b for the whole year, not specifically orientation.

There are some pretty bad side effects coming out from plan b.

Condoms, pay attention to your burth control, and have enough self respect not to do random hook ups, especially while drunk. Keep your power by not being a dummy.

Are you slut shaming?

DP here. Um, I am. SOrry, but it is just not a good look for any 17-18 yr old female or male to hook up with complete strangers. It is not a good way to start the school year. How can anyone be okay with their kids doing this? THat's just gross and don't be shocked if the other kids think the same way.

You’re kidding yourself if you think this isn’t happening and it’s not just the kids that were having sex in high school. It’s not up to you decide what is or isn’t a good look for someone 18 and older. Grow up.

You grow up. Regardless of where this happens, in high school, college. It is NOT a good look and people WILL judge. Let's not pretend that when your freshman decides to have sex with a boy or decides to hook up with a bunch of randoms at a party that the other kids aren't talking or calling her names. Same thing with boys. And worse, their reputation will be tainted and no one who knows what happened is going to want to date them. Whether you like it or not, this is reality.

This isn’t true at all. You sound like an old fashioned, judgmental prude. Are you jealous kids these days are free to enjoy casual sex or something? You might need therapy.

Its not about having casual sex. Its about having sex with a stranger you literally just met an hour or 2 ago. Disgusting. Do you know how many girls get sexually assaulted in college? Stop glorifying this stuff.

You don’t understand the hookup culture that has replaced how dating worked in your day. College students consensually have sex with people they meet in bars or on hookup apps all the time. You really sound out of touch.

And that still doesn’t make it right. I have college-aged kids in sororities, and they know better than to go off with random strangers at bars. This is a serious safety issue. Yes, people do it—but let’s not pretend others aren’t watching and thinking, What are they thinking? You're completely out of touch.

You don’t get to decide what’s right and wrong. Most of the hooking up is done with fellow students, so not really complete strangers. With your provincial attitude, your kids probably don’t feel comfortable being honest about how this stuff works now. But sure, keep pretending I’m the one that’s out of touch if it makes you feel better.

Like I said we're not talking about casual sex with someone you already know. We're literally talking about meeting a random at a bar or meeting a student at a party and sleeping with them a couple hours later. But I get it, you're ok with your kid doing that so no point in going back and forth about it.

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a hopeful teenager. Don't worry, you are going off to college for real very soon.

Huh? Are you not aware of what’s happening at orientation?

The same thing as the rest of the year. Pack condoms and plan b for the whole year, not specifically orientation.

There are some pretty bad side effects coming out from plan b.

Condoms, pay attention to your burth control, and have enough self respect not to do random hook ups, especially while drunk. Keep your power by not being a dummy.

Are you slut shaming?

DP here. Um, I am. SOrry, but it is just not a good look for any 17-18 yr old female or male to hook up with complete strangers. It is not a good way to start the school year. How can anyone be okay with their kids doing this? THat's just gross and don't be shocked if the other kids think the same way.

You’re kidding yourself if you think this isn’t happening and it’s not just the kids that were having sex in high school. It’s not up to you decide what is or isn’t a good look for someone 18 and older. Grow up.

You grow up. Regardless of where this happens, in high school, college. It is NOT a good look and people WILL judge. Let's not pretend that when your freshman decides to have sex with a boy or decides to hook up with a bunch of randoms at a party that the other kids aren't talking or calling her names. Same thing with boys. And worse, their reputation will be tainted and no one who knows what happened is going to want to date them. Whether you like it or not, this is reality.

This isn’t true at all. You sound like an old fashioned, judgmental prude. Are you jealous kids these days are free to enjoy casual sex or something? You might need therapy.

Its not about having casual sex. Its about having sex with a stranger you literally just met an hour or 2 ago. Disgusting. Do you know how many girls get sexually assaulted in college? Stop glorifying this stuff.

You don’t understand the hookup culture that has replaced how dating worked in your day. College students consensually have sex with people they meet in bars or on hookup apps all the time. You really sound out of touch.

And that still doesn’t make it right. I have college-aged kids in sororities, and they know better than to go off with random strangers at bars. This is a serious safety issue. Yes, people do it—but let’s not pretend others aren’t watching and thinking, What are they thinking? You're completely out of touch.

You don’t get to decide what’s right and wrong. Most of the hooking up is done with fellow students, so not really complete strangers. With your provincial attitude, your kids probably don’t feel comfortable being honest about how this stuff works now. But sure, keep pretending I’m the one that’s out of touch if it makes you feel better.

Like I said we're not talking about casual sex with someone you already know. We're literally talking about meeting a random at a bar or meeting a student at a party and sleeping with them a couple hours later. But I get it, you're ok with your kid doing that so no point in going back and forth about it.

LOL if you think your kid in a sorority isn’t doing that. Greek Life hookup culture is very real. Seriously, unless your kid goes to Liberty they’ve more than likely hooked up with a “stranger”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a hopeful teenager. Don't worry, you are going off to college for real very soon.

Huh? Are you not aware of what’s happening at orientation?

The same thing as the rest of the year. Pack condoms and plan b for the whole year, not specifically orientation.

There are some pretty bad side effects coming out from plan b.

Condoms, pay attention to your burth control, and have enough self respect not to do random hook ups, especially while drunk. Keep your power by not being a dummy.

Are you slut shaming?

DP here. Um, I am. SOrry, but it is just not a good look for any 17-18 yr old female or male to hook up with complete strangers. It is not a good way to start the school year. How can anyone be okay with their kids doing this? THat's just gross and don't be shocked if the other kids think the same way.

You’re kidding yourself if you think this isn’t happening and it’s not just the kids that were having sex in high school. It’s not up to you decide what is or isn’t a good look for someone 18 and older. Grow up.

You grow up. Regardless of where this happens, in high school, college. It is NOT a good look and people WILL judge. Let's not pretend that when your freshman decides to have sex with a boy or decides to hook up with a bunch of randoms at a party that the other kids aren't talking or calling her names. Same thing with boys. And worse, their reputation will be tainted and no one who knows what happened is going to want to date them. Whether you like it or not, this is reality.

This isn’t true at all. You sound like an old fashioned, judgmental prude. Are you jealous kids these days are free to enjoy casual sex or something? You might need therapy.

Its not about having casual sex. Its about having sex with a stranger you literally just met an hour or 2 ago. Disgusting. Do you know how many girls get sexually assaulted in college? Stop glorifying this stuff.

You don’t understand the hookup culture that has replaced how dating worked in your day. College students consensually have sex with people they meet in bars or on hookup apps all the time. You really sound out of touch.

And that still doesn’t make it right. I have college-aged kids in sororities, and they know better than to go off with random strangers at bars. This is a serious safety issue. Yes, people do it—but let’s not pretend others aren’t watching and thinking, What are they thinking? You're completely out of touch.

You don’t get to decide what’s right and wrong. Most of the hooking up is done with fellow students, so not really complete strangers. With your provincial attitude, your kids probably don’t feel comfortable being honest about how this stuff works now. But sure, keep pretending I’m the one that’s out of touch if it makes you feel better.

You do realize that most sexual assaults that happen on campus are done by fellow students, right? You're the one with the provincial out of touch attitude.

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a hopeful teenager. Don't worry, you are going off to college for real very soon.

Huh? Are you not aware of what’s happening at orientation?

The same thing as the rest of the year. Pack condoms and plan b for the whole year, not specifically orientation.

There are some pretty bad side effects coming out from plan b.

Condoms, pay attention to your burth control, and have enough self respect not to do random hook ups, especially while drunk. Keep your power by not being a dummy.

Are you slut shaming?

DP here. Um, I am. SOrry, but it is just not a good look for any 17-18 yr old female or male to hook up with complete strangers. It is not a good way to start the school year. How can anyone be okay with their kids doing this? THat's just gross and don't be shocked if the other kids think the same way.

You’re kidding yourself if you think this isn’t happening and it’s not just the kids that were having sex in high school. It’s not up to you decide what is or isn’t a good look for someone 18 and older. Grow up.

You grow up. Regardless of where this happens, in high school, college. It is NOT a good look and people WILL judge. Let's not pretend that when your freshman decides to have sex with a boy or decides to hook up with a bunch of randoms at a party that the other kids aren't talking or calling her names. Same thing with boys. And worse, their reputation will be tainted and no one who knows what happened is going to want to date them. Whether you like it or not, this is reality.

This isn’t true at all. You sound like an old fashioned, judgmental prude. Are you jealous kids these days are free to enjoy casual sex or something? You might need therapy.

Its not about having casual sex. Its about having sex with a stranger you literally just met an hour or 2 ago. Disgusting. Do you know how many girls get sexually assaulted in college? Stop glorifying this stuff.

You don’t understand the hookup culture that has replaced how dating worked in your day. College students consensually have sex with people they meet in bars or on hookup apps all the time. You really sound out of touch.

And that still doesn’t make it right. I have college-aged kids in sororities, and they know better than to go off with random strangers at bars. This is a serious safety issue. Yes, people do it—but let’s not pretend others aren’t watching and thinking, What are they thinking? You're completely out of touch.

You don’t get to decide what’s right and wrong. Most of the hooking up is done with fellow students, so not really complete strangers. With your provincial attitude, your kids probably don’t feel comfortable being honest about how this stuff works now. But sure, keep pretending I’m the one that’s out of touch if it makes you feel better.

You do realize that most sexual assaults that happen on campus are done by fellow students, right? You're the one with the provincial out of touch attitude.

False equivalence. The grownups are talking about consensual sex. Start a new thread about SA if you want, which is a very serious issue, but not what we’re talking about. Sober students, or students not drunk at a bar, can and do engage in hookups.

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a hopeful teenager. Don't worry, you are going off to college for real very soon.

Huh? Are you not aware of what’s happening at orientation?

The same thing as the rest of the year. Pack condoms and plan b for the whole year, not specifically orientation.

There are some pretty bad side effects coming out from plan b.

Condoms, pay attention to your burth control, and have enough self respect not to do random hook ups, especially while drunk. Keep your power by not being a dummy.

Are you slut shaming?

DP here. Um, I am. SOrry, but it is just not a good look for any 17-18 yr old female or male to hook up with complete strangers. It is not a good way to start the school year. How can anyone be okay with their kids doing this? THat's just gross and don't be shocked if the other kids think the same way.

You’re kidding yourself if you think this isn’t happening and it’s not just the kids that were having sex in high school. It’s not up to you decide what is or isn’t a good look for someone 18 and older. Grow up.

You grow up. Regardless of where this happens, in high school, college. It is NOT a good look and people WILL judge. Let's not pretend that when your freshman decides to have sex with a boy or decides to hook up with a bunch of randoms at a party that the other kids aren't talking or calling her names. Same thing with boys. And worse, their reputation will be tainted and no one who knows what happened is going to want to date them. Whether you like it or not, this is reality.

This isn’t true at all. You sound like an old fashioned, judgmental prude. Are you jealous kids these days are free to enjoy casual sex or something? You might need therapy.

Its not about having casual sex. Its about having sex with a stranger you literally just met an hour or 2 ago. Disgusting. Do you know how many girls get sexually assaulted in college? Stop glorifying this stuff.

You don’t understand the hookup culture that has replaced how dating worked in your day. College students consensually have sex with people they meet in bars or on hookup apps all the time. You really sound out of touch.

And that still doesn’t make it right. I have college-aged kids in sororities, and they know better than to go off with random strangers at bars. This is a serious safety issue. Yes, people do it—but let’s not pretend others aren’t watching and thinking, What are they thinking? You're completely out of touch.

You don’t get to decide what’s right and wrong. Most of the hooking up is done with fellow students, so not really complete strangers. With your provincial attitude, your kids probably don’t feel comfortable being honest about how this stuff works now. But sure, keep pretending I’m the one that’s out of touch if it makes you feel better.

You do realize that most sexual assaults that happen on campus are done by fellow students, right? You're the one with the provincial out of touch attitude.

False equivalence. The grownups are talking about consensual sex. Start a new thread about SA if you want, which is a very serious issue, but not what we’re talking about. Sober students, or students not drunk at a bar, can and do engage in hookups.

And the real grownups know this thread is about drinking and hooking up during orientation.