Single mom judgment/rant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A week and a half for a girls trip is a long time to pass your kid off on many others. Your co-worker was not being passive aggressive--they were sharing their honest opinion with you. I get needing the break. We all do (and I too am the parent of an SN child). My divorced single mom went on a skip trip each year with a local ski club and my dad would stay with us for the week or so. To us, that just felt like more time with dad. A week and a half with so many caregivers feels excessive. Again, just an opinion.

Sounds like dad needs to step up then

[Anonymous]

1. Stop telling judgy people things. They ask where you are going on vacation, just tell them the destination (or make it up) without extraneous details

2. Stop caring when random people judge you. If you know in your heart of hearts that you did the right thing, then you’re good.

[Anonymous]

Some people are judgmental. The person who made the comment - do you respect their opinion on the topic? If you do that could sting, if not it should just roll off your back.

[Anonymous]

Some people judge inwardly and others outwardly. Just let it go unless you have a reason to care about their opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people judge inwardly and others outwardly. Just let it go unless you have a reason to care about their opinion.

I'm someone who WOULD judge this decision and I agree. I'd keep it myself, of course, but I'd judge. The question is why would you care unless you doubted the decision? I've had my parenting judged plenty of times, but it doesn't matter because I'm confident that I'm a better parent than those people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're getting to go away and have fun while leaving your kid at home to be passed around between grandparents, ex and nanny.

This shouldn't be hard to understand.

What is easy for me to understand is no one is judging the dad for pawning his kid off to his ex while he does God knows what. Judgements are uniquely for women. Oh, and she probably gets paid less at work than her equivalent male counterpart in the office

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people judge inwardly and others outwardly. Just let it go unless you have a reason to care about their opinion.

I'm someone who WOULD judge this decision and I agree. I'd keep it myself, of course, but I'd judge. The question is why would you care unless you doubted the decision? I've had my parenting judged plenty of times, but it doesn't matter because I'm confident that I'm a better parent than those people.

Sometimes we just say things and don't necessarily invite people to comment on the situation. For example, she could have been telling her coworker that she is going to be gone because it affects her job directly. Then the coworker proceeded to comment on something that is NONE OF HER BUSINESS. I hope you have enough sense with all that judgment and sanctimony to keep your mouth shut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're getting to go away and have fun while leaving your kid at home to be passed around between grandparents, ex and nanny.

This shouldn't be hard to understand.

What is easy for me to understand is no one is judging the dad for pawning his kid off to his ex while he does God knows what. Judgements are uniquely for women. Oh, and she probably gets paid less at work than her equivalent male counterpart in the office

Of course they are! He's a horrible dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're getting to go away and have fun while leaving your kid at home to be passed around between grandparents, ex and nanny.

This shouldn't be hard to understand.

What is easy for me to understand is no one is judging the dad for pawning his kid off to his ex while he does God knows what. Judgements are uniquely for women. Oh, and she probably gets paid less at work than her equivalent male counterpart in the office

Exactly. If she sees his child every other weekend that is more than a week and a half that he is not parenting ALL THE TIME. But even so, OP can't do the same and get a break. GTFOH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're getting to go away and have fun while leaving your kid at home to be passed around between grandparents, ex and nanny.

This shouldn't be hard to understand.

What is easy for me to understand is no one is judging the dad for pawning his kid off to his ex while he does God knows what. Judgements are uniquely for women. Oh, and she probably gets paid less at work than her equivalent male counterpart in the office

Of course they are! He's a horrible dad.

+1. He's a bad dad, she's a bad mom. Such is almost always the way in broken homes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents who go on vacation without their kids get plenty of judgement too.

The key is to stop caring about what random co-workers think about you.

All this. The mommy martyrs don’t care you’re a single mom. They judge moms who go away with their husbands to go to a wedding or adult vacation and leave their kids at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The difference between camp and what you are talking about is the kid probably wants to go to sleep away camp. You are just pawning your kid off on others so that you can have fun Huge difference.

Camp is usually for older kids, too, when they’re learning to be independent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're getting to go away and have fun while leaving your kid at home to be passed around between grandparents, ex and nanny.

This shouldn't be hard to understand.

What is easy for me to understand is no one is judging the dad for pawning his kid off to his ex while he does God knows what. Judgements are uniquely for women. Oh, and she probably gets paid less at work than her equivalent male counterpart in the office

She choose full custody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're getting to go away and have fun while leaving your kid at home to be passed around between grandparents, ex and nanny.

This shouldn't be hard to understand.

What is easy for me to understand is no one is judging the dad for pawning his kid off to his ex while he does God knows what. Judgements are uniquely for women. Oh, and she probably gets paid less at work than her equivalent male counterpart in the office

Of course they are! He's a horrible dad.

+1. He's a bad dad, she's a bad mom. Such is almost always the way in broken homes.

Feeling insecure about something today, you POS?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're getting to go away and have fun while leaving your kid at home to be passed around between grandparents, ex and nanny.

This shouldn't be hard to understand.

What is easy for me to understand is no one is judging the dad for pawning his kid off to his ex while he does God knows what. Judgements are uniquely for women. Oh, and she probably gets paid less at work than her equivalent male counterpart in the office

She choose full custody.

Back to school for you to learn how to speak English.