Dad in our friend group had a mental break and threatened to kill another child in the friend group, advice needed

[Anonymous]

Restraining orders
Contact extended family
Have attorney jointly represent the other families and pressure police. Take it to media (they won’t identify but can publish the threats and police inaction)
Keep telling the story and show the texts to every mandatory reporter you know. Squeaky wheels.

OP, there is nothing identifying in the post. People are so bizarre.

If what you have written is true, this man ticks all the boxes for family annihilation and mass shooter. People should take this very seriously

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:15 families in a neighborhood and everyone goes to the same small private school?! I call BS on that and that made it all ot easy to disregard the rest of the story. ALL MADE UP!

I never said it was a small private school. I don't really care if you believe me or not. The public schools we are zoned for aren't great and most of the kids in our neighborhood go to private school. This one happens to be close to our neighborhood, although there are many others. Some families we are friends with send their kids to Catholic schools, but most attend this one. Again, you don't have to believe me, I know I'm not lying, so you don't need to respond any further.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know who this is and it is too much detail you are sharing. I suggest deleting. It now

Then text me.

[Anonymous]

Wtf is “the W football game”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know who this is and it is too much detail you are sharing. I suggest deleting. It now

Is any of this true?

And how did you find this thread if they supposedly moved out of the area?

They don't know me because if they did they'd actually send me a text to say they're concerned about this thread. We don't live in the DC are anymore, we moved a decade ago. But before then I was on the website and still visit it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it Bob?

Um, no, that's not his name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Those parents are dangerous and negligent, so keep away. Maybe talk with CPS to give your account and possibly get advice. And let the girls know they are welcome in your home.

Do you tell the girls they're welcome in our house as in it's a safe place or that they're welcome to just come over and play? My husband doesn't want them in our house (unless it's an emergency) because he doesn't want the dad to have any reason to try to come here.

[Anonymous]

If real, this is incredibly disturbing and horrifically sad for those kids.

I’d do your due diligence & call both CPS and the police to reiterate and report your concerns. I’m amazed this was not considered to be an emergency by either CPS or the police when it happened.

As sad as it is, I’d steer entirely clear of this family for the time being (lest you somehow end up in the crossfire, god forbid) and keep an extremely careful watch on your children. I’d drive them to and from school, keep your kids in your own home and yard ONLY (no more neighborhood roaming or playing at neighbors homes etc), and beef up your home security procedures. If you want to socialize with the neighbors and their kids meet up somewhere instead (park, zoo, trampoline place or whatever). Keep busy and out of the house on weekends. Maybe plan some weekends away if possible- go visit family or take the kids somewhere fun.

Give that a month or two and see if anything changes. Hopefully CPS will follow up or his wife will find the strength to do something. If nothing changes by then I would seriously consider moving. I don’t throw around “oh just love” lightly- but this is very serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so bad that I would move, including switching schools to get away from this family. He’s clearly mentally unstable and might act on it at any moment. I wouldn’t risk my family’s lives no matter how convenient or how nice of a community you have built.

+1
If this is real, it's a tragedy waiting to happen

Sadly it is real, but can you really wrap your head around moving and changing your kids' school? We are so happy living here and our kids love their school. Again, I'm not trying to minimize the threat, I am terrified of him, but actually relocating is a lot to wrap my head around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those parents are dangerous and negligent, so keep away. Maybe talk with CPS to give your account and possibly get advice. And let the girls know they are welcome in your home.

Do you tell the girls they're welcome in our house as in it's a safe place or that they're welcome to just come over and play? My husband doesn't want them in our house (unless it's an emergency) because he doesn't want the dad to have any reason to try to come here.

I strongly agree with your DH. NO do not have any member of that family over. You don’t want any excuse for the crazy dad to interact with you at all much less enter your home.

As horribly sad as that is.

The safety of our own children must come first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Drive your kids straight to school and pick them up every day. You were threatened by a gun owner and we all have seen this play out, you're reaction is normal

We have been carpooling this week to and from school with other families. Luckily a lot of us work from home but it's a big burden, mostly the afternoon pick up. We have loved the convenience of the bus, but I understand what you're saying and of course my kids' lives aren't worth more than my own convenience.

But at the end of the day, he knows where we live, so even keeping them away from the bus stop doesn't wholly protect us. I can't imagine moving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so bad that I would move, including switching schools to get away from this family. He’s clearly mentally unstable and might act on it at any moment. I wouldn’t risk my family’s lives no matter how convenient or how nice of a community you have built.

+1
If this is real, it's a tragedy waiting to happen

Sadly it is real, but can you really wrap your head around moving and changing your kids' school? We are so happy living here and our kids love their school. Again, I'm not trying to minimize the threat, I am terrified of him, but actually relocating is a lot to wrap my head around.

I probably would not switch schools. I’d definitely move though. If this is not resolved quickly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everything puts your family at risk. As awful as it sounds to turn away kids in need, If you allow those girls to come to your house, you put your entire family at risk. If you exclude them, you put your family at risk. If you are at The bus stop and his girls are there, you put your family at risk. There is virtually nothing safe.

Personally I’d be distancing myself and my family from this entire family. If others include them, I’d distance
Myself and my family from those events. Time may heal things but I wouldn’t count on it.

You sound exactly like my husband and I don't disagree. I'm glad at least no one is saying we're overreacting. I feel like I'm going crazy because I've never experienced anything like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then call the state police. Call your local authorities if the police aren’t doing anything. Call your state congress people.

I hadn't thought about calling the state police, thank.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Restraining orders
Contact extended family
Have attorney jointly represent the other families and pressure police. Take it to media (they won’t identify but can publish the threats and police inaction)
Keep telling the story and show the texts to every mandatory reporter you know. Squeaky wheels.

OP, there is nothing identifying in the post. People are so bizarre.

If what you have written is true, this man ticks all the boxes for family annihilation and mass shooter. People should take this very seriously

I am not friends with the wife's mom but another mom is. I know in the past she has expressed concern about her SIL (and her daughter cut her off for months for it). She said her parents were coming into town to help but we have no idea if that's true since none of us have been seeing them since this happened. I do think reaching out to her parents to make sure they have gotten the full story is not a bad idea. I understand he is not close to his parents at all but don't know any more.