Weekend activities w shared custody

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Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

No one is being hostile but you're being stubborn and selfish. Your child needs to come first. If they have activities that fall on a Sunday, then that's what you do. If you want your Sunday free, you find another time for the activity. It's not that hard. So you have an activity that is being slotted for a Sunday, you take it and do what needs to be done. What's so hard about this?

Ok …. I feel like I have explained this numerous times but here goes again:
1. I have my kid on Sundays
2. We (my ex and I) jointly agree on a couple of activities for him.
3. Said activites are 1:1/tutoring type activities, NOT sports teams where there is little choice about the schedule.
4. My kid is not passionate about these activities or requesting to do them on Sundays but I would absolutely support that if he was.
5. The activity providers right now want to schedule on Sundays but I’m wondering if it’s better to keep Sundays free and unscheduled for friends etc.
6. We can potentially schedule these activities during the week but with some compromises (have to do virtual, find different tutor, less time for downtime after school, etc.)

No, it's not better to keep Sunday free. There, are you happy?

He can't do an hour of tutoring and also friend time on a Sunday? I am confused.

Of course he can but OP is insisting this is the biggest decision of her life and she can't do both. She wants her Sunday totally free.

Not sure why you feel the need to be so scathing. What are you gaining from this? I’m just looking to hear perspectives.

Not gaining anything other than hoping to impart perspective on the OP. She's being obstinate and ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

No one is being hostile but you're being stubborn and selfish. Your child needs to come first. If they have activities that fall on a Sunday, then that's what you do. If you want your Sunday free, you find another time for the activity. It's not that hard. So you have an activity that is being slotted for a Sunday, you take it and do what needs to be done. What's so hard about this?

Ok …. I feel like I have explained this numerous times but here goes again:
1. I have my kid on Sundays
2. We (my ex and I) jointly agree on a couple of activities for him.
3. Said activites are 1:1/tutoring type activities, NOT sports teams where there is little choice about the schedule.
4. My kid is not passionate about these activities or requesting to do them on Sundays but I would absolutely support that if he was.
5. The activity providers right now want to schedule on Sundays but I’m wondering if it’s better to keep Sundays free and unscheduled for friends etc.
6. We can potentially schedule these activities during the week but with some compromises (have to do virtual, find different tutor, less time for downtime after school, etc.)

No, it's not better to keep Sunday free. There, are you happy?

He can't do an hour of tutoring and also friend time on a Sunday? I am confused.

Of course he can but OP is insisting this is the biggest decision of her life and she can't do both. She wants her Sunday totally free.

Not sure why you feel the need to be so scathing. What are you gaining from this? I’m just looking to hear perspectives.

Not gaining anything other than hoping to impart perspective on the OP. She's being obstinate and ridiculous.

I’m being obstinate by … asking the question? What? Do you have anything to contribute?

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Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

No one is being hostile but you're being stubborn and selfish. Your child needs to come first. If they have activities that fall on a Sunday, then that's what you do. If you want your Sunday free, you find another time for the activity. It's not that hard. So you have an activity that is being slotted for a Sunday, you take it and do what needs to be done. What's so hard about this?

Ok …. I feel like I have explained this numerous times but here goes again:
1. I have my kid on Sundays
2. We (my ex and I) jointly agree on a couple of activities for him.
3. Said activites are 1:1/tutoring type activities, NOT sports teams where there is little choice about the schedule.
4. My kid is not passionate about these activities or requesting to do them on Sundays but I would absolutely support that if he was.
5. The activity providers right now want to schedule on Sundays but I’m wondering if it’s better to keep Sundays free and unscheduled for friends etc.
6. We can potentially schedule these activities during the week but with some compromises (have to do virtual, find different tutor, less time for downtime after school, etc.)

No, it's not better to keep Sunday free. There, are you happy?

He can't do an hour of tutoring and also friend time on a Sunday? I am confused.

Of course he can but OP is insisting this is the biggest decision of her life and she can't do both. She wants her Sunday totally free.

Not sure why you feel the need to be so scathing. What are you gaining from this? I’m just looking to hear perspectives.

Not gaining anything other than hoping to impart perspective on the OP. She's being obstinate and ridiculous.

I’m being obstinate by … asking the question? What? Do you have anything to contribute?

Yes--either switch your schedule so Dad has meaningful time with your kid OR schedule the activity for Sunday.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

No one is being hostile but you're being stubborn and selfish. Your child needs to come first. If they have activities that fall on a Sunday, then that's what you do. If you want your Sunday free, you find another time for the activity. It's not that hard. So you have an activity that is being slotted for a Sunday, you take it and do what needs to be done. What's so hard about this?

Ok …. I feel like I have explained this numerous times but here goes again:
1. I have my kid on Sundays
2. We (my ex and I) jointly agree on a couple of activities for him.
3. Said activites are 1:1/tutoring type activities, NOT sports teams where there is little choice about the schedule.
4. My kid is not passionate about these activities or requesting to do them on Sundays but I would absolutely support that if he was.
5. The activity providers right now want to schedule on Sundays but I’m wondering if it’s better to keep Sundays free and unscheduled for friends etc.
6. We can potentially schedule these activities during the week but with some compromises (have to do virtual, find different tutor, less time for downtime after school, etc.)

No, it's not better to keep Sunday free. There, are you happy?

He can't do an hour of tutoring and also friend time on a Sunday? I am confused.

Yeah, the tutor time would potentially interrupt longer time with friends, trips, etc.

For starters, no one is taking a trip EVERY Sunday. For that Sunday that you do have a "trip", reschedule or skip the activity. Secondly, no 12yr has all day playdates or whatever with friends. Those can absolutely be scheduled around the activity. So, again--not sure why the OP is all out of sorts over this.

My kid actually does have pretty long playdates sometimes and they are important to me to prioritize. Seems like a real bummer to tell him he can’t go play football w a friend because he has to do tutoring… And the activities are also important and can’t just be canceled (b/c these are individual providers so that costs them $$, it’s not like skipping a sports practice.)

So really this is a question about how to balance kid activities, but with the added complication that I only have half the weekend to do so.

I wonder if my best solution is to trade off w ex - activity on Saturday for a few months then move to Sunday. Ex will probably facilitate the activity on “his” day. He’s just not that great at facilitating the friend stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

No one is being hostile but you're being stubborn and selfish. Your child needs to come first. If they have activities that fall on a Sunday, then that's what you do. If you want your Sunday free, you find another time for the activity. It's not that hard. So you have an activity that is being slotted for a Sunday, you take it and do what needs to be done. What's so hard about this?

Ok …. I feel like I have explained this numerous times but here goes again:
1. I have my kid on Sundays
2. We (my ex and I) jointly agree on a couple of activities for him.
3. Said activites are 1:1/tutoring type activities, NOT sports teams where there is little choice about the schedule.
4. My kid is not passionate about these activities or requesting to do them on Sundays but I would absolutely support that if he was.
5. The activity providers right now want to schedule on Sundays but I’m wondering if it’s better to keep Sundays free and unscheduled for friends etc.
6. We can potentially schedule these activities during the week but with some compromises (have to do virtual, find different tutor, less time for downtime after school, etc.)

No, it's not better to keep Sunday free. There, are you happy?

He can't do an hour of tutoring and also friend time on a Sunday? I am confused.

Of course he can but OP is insisting this is the biggest decision of her life and she can't do both. She wants her Sunday totally free.

Not sure why you feel the need to be so scathing. What are you gaining from this? I’m just looking to hear perspectives.

Not gaining anything other than hoping to impart perspective on the OP. She's being obstinate and ridiculous.

I’m being obstinate by … asking the question? What? Do you have anything to contribute?

Yes--either switch your schedule so Dad has meaningful time with your kid OR schedule the activity for Sunday.

Dad has the exact schedule he wants, this isn’t about that.

[Anonymous]

There reaches a point where a kid needs to balance his schedule out for himself. "hey Jack. I can play football from x time to y time and then I am busy". More than likely, Jack will also have commitments and the two will work together to find a time to hang. He's 12. Not 6.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

No one is being hostile but you're being stubborn and selfish. Your child needs to come first. If they have activities that fall on a Sunday, then that's what you do. If you want your Sunday free, you find another time for the activity. It's not that hard. So you have an activity that is being slotted for a Sunday, you take it and do what needs to be done. What's so hard about this?

Ok …. I feel like I have explained this numerous times but here goes again:
1. I have my kid on Sundays
2. We (my ex and I) jointly agree on a couple of activities for him.
3. Said activites are 1:1/tutoring type activities, NOT sports teams where there is little choice about the schedule.
4. My kid is not passionate about these activities or requesting to do them on Sundays but I would absolutely support that if he was.
5. The activity providers right now want to schedule on Sundays but I’m wondering if it’s better to keep Sundays free and unscheduled for friends etc.
6. We can potentially schedule these activities during the week but with some compromises (have to do virtual, find different tutor, less time for downtime after school, etc.)

No, it's not better to keep Sunday free. There, are you happy?

He can't do an hour of tutoring and also friend time on a Sunday? I am confused.

+1 Not sure how many 1:1 tutoring activities we're talking about, but an hour isn't going to kill a kid's Sunday. My kids actually prefer to have activities spread out even on Sunday rather than crammed in on single days-then they get a mix of busy and relaxation time.

[Anonymous]

What else does he do during the week that a one hour tutoring session would be “ crammed in”
If he can’t swim at 12 he definitely needs to learn. I would prioritize that over everything personally.
Is he doing any activities with his Dad on Saturdays?

[Anonymous]

Does this kid do anything during the week? Why try to cram every thing on Sunday? He seems to have a lot of free time the rest of the week. Do the tutoring and swim lesson then. When all the friends are busying doing other things also.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

You are not making any sense. Sign your kid up for stuff they want to do. You and dad deal.

How am I not making sense? My particular kid doesn’t have a burning desire for these activities (mainly tutoring and some 1:1 lessons). If he DID really want to be on a team with weekend practices obviously I would accommodate.

Well there is your answer. Why force him to do something he doesn’t have a burning desire to do at this point?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

You are not making any sense. Sign your kid up for stuff they want to do. You and dad deal.

How am I not making sense? My particular kid doesn’t have a burning desire for these activities (mainly tutoring and some 1:1 lessons). If he DID really want to be on a team with weekend practices obviously I would accommodate.

Well there is your answer. Why force him to do something he doesn’t have a burning desire to do at this point?

I forget - am I a bad mom because he cannot swim yet or because I am making him learn to swim?

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Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

You are not making any sense. Sign your kid up for stuff they want to do. You and dad deal.

How am I not making sense? My particular kid doesn’t have a burning desire for these activities (mainly tutoring and some 1:1 lessons). If he DID really want to be on a team with weekend practices obviously I would accommodate.

Well there is your answer. Why force him to do something he doesn’t have a burning desire to do at this point?

I forget - am I a bad mom because he cannot swim yet or because I am making him learn to swim?

This is DCUM. You can be called a bad mom for multiple conflicting things at once!

You're a good mom.

How busy are your weekdays?

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Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

No one is being hostile but you're being stubborn and selfish. Your child needs to come first. If they have activities that fall on a Sunday, then that's what you do. If you want your Sunday free, you find another time for the activity. It's not that hard. So you have an activity that is being slotted for a Sunday, you take it and do what needs to be done. What's so hard about this?

Ok …. I feel like I have explained this numerous times but here goes again:
1. I have my kid on Sundays
2. We (my ex and I) jointly agree on a couple of activities for him.
3. Said activites are 1:1/tutoring type activities, NOT sports teams where there is little choice about the schedule.
4. My kid is not passionate about these activities or requesting to do them on Sundays but I would absolutely support that if he was.
5. The activity providers right now want to schedule on Sundays but I’m wondering if it’s better to keep Sundays free and unscheduled for friends etc.
6. We can potentially schedule these activities during the week but with some compromises (have to do virtual, find different tutor, less time for downtime after school, etc.)

No, kids don't need playdates. You do it when the activity is available. As they get older lots of kids have activities on Sunday.

[Anonymous]

It’s hard for us to answer this because only you know what will make you and your kid more sane. Is having a free day on Sundays to hang with friends or do things together worth some frantic weeknights? Or could you knock out tutoring Sunday evening and be able to enjoy the week a bit more? I’d be inclined to try to make it work during the week but mostly because I like flexibility and spontaneity and bc it’s easy enough with flexible job to make that work. Others would definitely make another choice.

[Anonymous]

Your story keeps changing - do you want the day to spend with your kid or for playdates so you don't have to run around to activities (and can dad do the driving if you don't want to). At age 12, its a bit late to learn to swim.