Other parents know longer keep in touch once your child leaves an activity

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You did what's best for your Daughter (probably) re: the sport. The activity. But hat doesn't mean it's best for your friendships, your Mom friendships or best for your daughter's friendships. You give something a priority, choose that, and that's how you make decisions.

I think this is the best way to look at it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You did what's best for your Daughter (probably) re: the sport. The activity. But hat doesn't mean it's best for your friendships, your Mom friendships or best for your daughter's friendships. You give something a priority, choose that, and that's how you make decisions.

It didn’t change my daughter’s friendships, thank goodness! She probably talks to the girls more than she did when they were at the same studio.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is adulthood. It's hard and feels like a rejection but it's not. Families are busy and most parents are doing their best to get through the week. Most adult friendships do rely on some consistent, common reason that you see one another in person. If this no longer exists, it's a much bigger effort. And perhaps there is a component of awkwardness with you leaving the studio which just adds another layer of difficulty. It is what it is.

Move on and invest in the community at your new studio.

I don’t plan to get that invested in the new studio. I’ll just let my daughter dance and make friends, but I’m not engaging with other parents beyond a hello. I’ve learned my lesson.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the unique activity being dance changes things a little.

I’m very curious about why you left after 8 years.

I know several competitive cheer teams and it would be really awkward to be friends with one mom on a rival team. I would stress about giving away information about my kids routine or something else that could be relevant in competition. The comfort level would be completely different.

This sounds insane.

Haha cheer is insane.

[Anonymous]

Out of sight, out of mind.

I used to be friends with several neighbors and moms from our elementary and preschool. We moved 20 minutes away. For the first year, we still got together, got invited to birthday parties, etc. Then it felt like I was putting in all the effort. I would invite our old friends to our new house and they would accept but we stopped getting invitations to the neighborhood parties.

[Anonymous]

Pp here. I also think it has to do with kids’ ages. When kids are young, parents and kids hang out altogether. Once they turn 10, they all make their own friends. Parents don’t hang out as much.

[Anonymous]

DD suffered an injury that caused her to sit out of her sport for a year. I tried to continue my social life with the other moms but never heard back. Yes, it hurt my feelings. Well DD is back playing, and while I'm friendly with the moms, I am not looking to socialize with them again.

[Anonymous]

It's not uncommon for friendships to change or fade when circumstances like leaving a dance studio occur. While it can be disappointing when efforts to stay in touch aren't reciprocated, it's essential to remember that people's lives can get busy, and priorities can shift. Sometimes, parents may feel a stronger connection with other parents based on shared activities or interests related to their children's involvement in a specific program. However, it's also possible that they may have their reasons for not responding, unrelated to your daughter's departure from the studio. It's natural to feel a sense of loss when relationships change, but it's essential to focus on the connections you still have and continue nurturing those.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sadly it is normal in my experience. I made many mom friends over the years and even when I believed our relationship would survive long-term even if our kids went in different directions, it never did. First there were the baby playgroups, then the preschool parents, then the parents on countless teams. I really tried but by MS reality set in that the other parents are friends for that season of life. It’s made me very hesitant to invest socially beyond pleasantries anymore.

Yes I've learned not to invest too much into friendships here because it's such a transitional area (DMV)

Agree. Story of my life.

At least in a transitional area, you run into those who also may not have friends and family nearby. We moved to New England where everyone lives near friends and extended family. They are all perfectly pleasant but have no need to befriend anyone new.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is adulthood. It's hard and feels like a rejection but it's not. Families are busy and most parents are doing their best to get through the week. Most adult friendships do rely on some consistent, common reason that you see one another in person. If this no longer exists, it's a much bigger effort. And perhaps there is a component of awkwardness with you leaving the studio which just adds another layer of difficulty. It is what it is.

Move on and invest in the community at your new studio.

This! I have good intentions in terms of trying to maintain adult friendships but the family schedule is so busy. It is hard to find time to socialize outside your kids' activities if you're a friend I met through a kid's activity. Don't take it personally.

[Anonymous]

I often wonder if people are using “I’m too busy” as an excuse instead of just saying, I don’t want to be bothered with you.

[Anonymous]

Do they “know” longer? Or, do they “no longer” do something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sadly it is normal in my experience. I made many mom friends over the years and even when I believed our relationship would survive long-term even if our kids went in different directions, it never did. First there were the baby playgroups, then the preschool parents, then the parents on countless teams. I really tried but by MS reality set in that the other parents are friends for that season of life. It’s made me very hesitant to invest socially beyond pleasantries anymore.

+1000

I dont bother.

This is how I’m feeling. It’s really unfortunate it had to be like this though.