| maybe don't let them come home until 5:30 pm? |
Let them know that you will not tolerate poor grades without evidence that they have taken full advantage of these resources. Make the consequences severe and real. This is the time kids needs to grow up, because life gets real in 4 years. |
Way for some posters just to be spouting nonsense without actually knowing anything about Banneker. Typical DCUM. |
It can be draining if you never had to work hard before. It comes as a shock. But if you know what you are going into, you'll see there's plenty of help for those who ask. |
This approach leans more toward the “stick,” where I as a parent lean more toward the “carrot,” but I guess each parent-child combo has its own dynamic. I endorse this person’s view that learning to approach a teacher and ask for help is a valuable life skill. Far more valuable, actually, than being effortlessly good at everything, because no one is effortlessly good at everything forever; everyone needs to ask for help sometime. Maybe start with their favorite teacher, or their advisor, and build courage as they go? However you help them build this skill, it’s worth it. |
Honestly, begging and pleading my kid to “just do it!!!” It can be really hard to ask for help. But the teachers have all been receptive and helpful. In person, face-to-face requests seem to get a better response than email or portal requests. And, from what I gather, you can also talk to another teacher that teaches a different section of the same-level course; they might staff a study hall or be otherwise available when your kid’s teacher is not. Hope this helps! |
| Gosh Banneker seems hard. My DD was planning on applying but now after reading all this, I’d rather she not. Walls has less work and is still number 1. Win-Win and probably way better for the children’s stress level and mental health. We can’t forget that they aren’t adults yet and also need a break from time to time. Overworking them is not the solution. |
That’s not the same as “many end up transferring to walls in sophomore year”. |
tell me you have a daughter without telling m you have a daughter |
| I feel this challenge of a student unwilling to seek help! Starting with building the muscle with a trusted and liked teacher is a great start. Also, my kid found it easier when a friend also needed help, so they could approach the teacher together. We also have talked it out in advance so my (perfectionist, introverted) kid felt comfortable saying what they needed. Even as far as writing down some notes so if they got flustered they could refer to them. If it's not those types of concerns about anxiety/perfectionism, then yes it could be time to lay down the law a bit and make sure they know you are expecting them to do this and report back, and if they don't, the consequences will be XY or Z. good luck! |
Right. And this is why there are several selective schools; not every school is the best fit for every kid. My kid goes to Banneker and loves it. Yours might or might not. Good luck to your kid getting into Walls. That's a tough one! I'd also try McKinley and perhaps others. And there's always the in-bound option. |
Good discussion -again- about Banneker's workload. But does anyone actually have an answer to my original question about the summer before Freshman year? When does it usually start, how many hours per day and for how many weeks? |
Yeah my two oldest sons are at walls and they love it. |
When my kid did it a few years ago, it was 3 weeks, and it was mornings M-F. the exact timing was released late in the spring, annoyingly enough. Ours was I believe all in July post-July 4th. I think others have gone mid-july to early august. As others have shared, get your kid enrolled in the Summer Youth Employment Program even before HS placement is known, so if they come to Banneker they can get paid for BSI. |
Of course, lots of kids love it! But, there is no sibling preference and you can't bank on it. |