DD is giving me the silent treatment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have found it helpful to text my teens when they are really emotional and they are upset with me but in reality they are just upset and feeling down. I am a safe place for them to express anger/frustration/doubt etc.

I text stuff like:
I love you so much and i am so proud of you because you are ——-. Maybe you can’t always see it or you doubt it but you are ——. I am so sorry what I said upset you, I never want to see you hurting. I shouldn’t have said —— but I was feeling so ——- when you get down on yourself.

Texting sometimes works better there is a little distance and you don’t get cut off mid sentence.

This is excellent advice!!!

[Anonymous]

I have also texted my kid. She doesn’t have full time access to her texts so often she’s had some space before she sees them and they land a little better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually wouldn't feel bad about that. It's realistic and fair. I don't think you should feel horrible OR disgusted with yourself, nor do I think you should buy her super expensive makeup. She's 16 - this is what part time jobs are for!

You don't have to fix this. Silent treatments are immature. She will get over it when she needs something else from you. Food, a ride, to find something she's lost, money, info, etc.

This. You already apologized.