In a time of social disconnection, large families seem more healthy not less.
I have 3. I know I can’t control everything and it’s key to my happiness as a parent. The intensive parenting espoused here is often toxic. |
They can afford them when they become influencers, which is partly why I try to avoid the content. I know a family IRL that has become an influencer by making videos of their kids. It is fascinating but also really unfair to the kids who are being manipulated to generate social media content. |
Being a financially successful influencer is hugely time-consuming. Which is why I think it’s hypocritical and dishonest to shill yourself as Suzy Homemaker/Mom, when in reality that mom is spending all her time creating content. |
It is mental illness. No sane person will have that many kids. |
DP - the only person I know of who sold essential oils is a mother of 1. |
I agree. It’s essentially an addiction. Instead of collecting purses they collect babies. |
There is a family on YouTube that comes up on my algorithm for some reason and is pretty fascinating to watch. She has a new baby every other year (at this point 8 or 9 kids?), home schools, makes bread from sourdough batch, everything that you would typically think of when we imagine ‘homestead’.
The most interesting part is that she wasn’t raised like that and comes from a ‘conventional’ family with 2 others siblings, went to school all the way to college, not particularly religious upbringing etc. It’s fascinating to think of the mindset change that happened to start her adult life. |
I mean, if you’re going to have an addiction, babies are a happy one! 🤣 But seriously, the amount of self-sacrifice it takes to sustain a pregnancy, not to say anything of actually raising the child (which they are not ignorant of), makes me suspicious of the claim that mothers of huge families are choosing to have children because of an undefined mental illness. |
Have you seen the family with maybe 8 kids and they all live in a camper van? Talk about crazy. |
My friend has three and has to go to the grocery store every other day to feed them. |
I think it's interesting as a mom of 2. Think about it, the cooking, cleaning and how they all would just play with each other.....seems fascinating. |
I know multiple big families. They are not happier. They have different problems- special needs kids, special kid’s needs being ignored because no one has time or energy for this, older siblings stuck babysitting younger ones, sibling rivalry for resources and time with parents, jealousy and constant lack of money that transcends all aspects of life. |
The answer is to LOG OFF. |
You’re a bitter loser. PP sounds great. |
Or, just buy more during the trip you go. |