Summer camp with daily swimming + child with shoulder length curly hair

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My child does not wear their hair in braids, never has and isn’t open to trying it.

They don’t want their hair cut and we honor that request….

Then send her and let her deal with it. Do not ask someone else to brush it and put in curl cream. That is ridiculous!

[Anonymous]

My kid used to refuse braids and tying their hair up too. But there were some times it wasn’t optional. You’re the parent, so parent.

https://raisingbiracialbabies.com/protect-biracial-hair-while-swimming/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, Thanks for those who understand my child can have a voice for how he wears his hair. He’s biracial and hair is part of Black culture but it also shouldn’t matter. Race, sec at birth, and gender identity should be entirely irrelevant here.

Thank you also for those who gave realistic suggestions. He is learning to care for his hair. He is also 5.

Come on and braid his hair

I wish that I could talk to you be with you somehow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, Thanks for those who understand my child can have a voice for how he wears his hair. He’s biracial and hair is part of Black culture but it also shouldn’t matter. Race, sec at birth, and gender identity should be entirely irrelevant here.

Thank you also for those who gave realistic suggestions. He is learning to care for his hair. He is also 5.

Of COURSE race is relevant, OP! You’re getting incorrect advice for white hair here. The way I manage my white child’s curly hair during swim season is TOTALLY different from the way her BFF’s mom handles her natural hair. Educate yourself before you ruin your son’s hair.

[Anonymous]

Biracial hair may not be as textured and in some cases might be more similar to non-black hair. OP, whatever you child's hair is like, if the daily swims without protective styling and/or a cap are causing hair damage, then you either have to cut the hair or insist on protective styling and a cap. Who is the boss here??? Your child? No, you are. This is taking gentle parenting too far. Your kid will not like to see the state of his hair after weeks of daily swim if it is not properly protected.

[Anonymous]

My DD is AA and we leave it natural all
Summer because don’t look good after a couple of days of swimming.
A good condition at night when she showers seems to work. No issues with dryness or chlorine smell or anything. I use Camille Rose conditioner which is for AA kids but might work well for yours too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD is AA and we leave it natural all
Summer because don’t look good after a couple of days of swimming.
A good condition at night when she showers seems to work. No issues with dryness or chlorine smell or anything. I use Camille Rose conditioner which is for AA kids but might work well for yours too.

Thanks for the suggestion. When we’ve tried different styles the past few summers it does end up looking horrible like you said. We use mostly Mielle products but I will definitely check this out so we can try it this weekend. His hair responds really well to conditioner and we could do that each night as you suggested. Thanks again!

[Anonymous]

Black mother to biracial girls with 3B, 3C, and 4A hair.

Put hair in a pony tail underneath swim cap. Wash hair after swim and put in leave in conditioner. Rinse off leave in conditioner before getting into pool the next day.

If you detangle everyday after swim, it stays manageable.

I'm curious about what culture you are referring to that encourages long unbraided hair for biracial children. It's certainly not African American or African culture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Black mother to biracial girls with 3B, 3C, and 4A hair.

Put hair in a pony tail underneath swim cap. Wash hair after swim and put in leave in conditioner. Rinse off leave in conditioner before getting into pool the next day.

If you detangle everyday after swim, it stays manageable.

I'm curious about what culture you are referring to that encourages long unbraided hair for biracial children. It's certainly not African American or African culture.

I’m guessing OP adopted him and has no idea what she is talking about.

[Anonymous]

You could try a swim cap made for use with black hair.

https://www.amazon.com/SOUL-CAP-XL-Dreadlocks-Extensions/dp/B073FDSFVH/ref=asc_df_B073FDSFVH/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312050278064&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=13039362195449638508&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9016966&hvtargid=pla-423079752423&psc=1&mcid=3907091814e63f03b69953b22cc5b99c&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=63589537818&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=312050278064&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=13039362195449638508&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9016966&hvtargid=pla-423079752423

There probably is a version of this for children.

I own this one. But I use it because I have a ton of very, very thick Asian hair and a larger head. Struggling with a standard swim cap over the years literally gave me a headache and usually they slipped off mid swim

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could try a swim cap made for use with black hair.

https://www.amazon.com/SOUL-CAP-XL-Dreadlocks-Extensions/dp/B073FDSFVH/ref=asc_df_B073FDSFVH/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312050278064&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=13039362195449638508&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9016966&hvtargid=pla-423079752423&psc=1&mcid=3907091814e63f03b69953b22cc5b99c&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=63589537818&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=312050278064&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=13039362195449638508&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9016966&hvtargid=pla-423079752423

There probably is a version of this for children.

I own this one. But I use it because I have a ton of very, very thick Asian hair and a larger head. Struggling with a standard swim cap over the years literally gave me a headache and usually they slipped off mid swim

Oh, if you do try this, sizing is critical. I had to order a few sizes. If it's super comfortable, it's probably not snug enough to keep water out. And I'm just a recreational swimmer. This isn’t for competitive situations obviously.

[Anonymous]

Braid that hair damn

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Black mother to biracial girls with 3B, 3C, and 4A hair.

Put hair in a pony tail underneath swim cap. Wash hair after swim and put in leave in conditioner. Rinse off leave in conditioner before getting into pool the next day.

If you detangle everyday after swim, it stays manageable.

I'm curious about what culture you are referring to that encourages long unbraided hair for biracial children. It's certainly not African American or African culture.

I’m guessing OP adopted him and has no idea what she is talking about.

DP. There’s no need to be nasty. Anyway, I’m biracial and know some Dominican kids (mixed ancestry) do the long unbraided hair thing for kids.

[Anonymous]

I’m not the OP but I’m a PP with an AA kid ( adopted but not really relevant)
No kid wants to wear a swim cap for rec swimming with friends in 90 degree temps.
My kid did swim team so wore a cap for that. But just playing in the water in the hot sun there was no way, she said her head felt all hot and sweaty after 2 mins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Black mother to biracial girls with 3B, 3C, and 4A hair.

Put hair in a pony tail underneath swim cap. Wash hair after swim and put in leave in conditioner. Rinse off leave in conditioner before getting into pool the next day.

If you detangle everyday after swim, it stays manageable.

I'm curious about what culture you are referring to that encourages long unbraided hair for biracial children. It's certainly not African American or African culture.

I’m guessing OP adopted him and has no idea what she is talking about.

DP. There’s no need to be nasty. Anyway, I’m biracial and know some Dominican kids (mixed ancestry) do the long unbraided hair thing for kids.

You are missing the point. Some kids do it, but it has nothing to do with their culture.