I feel a bit liberated wearing the hijab lately

[Anonymous]

It sure can make mornings easier, specially if you've to get ready, feed and dress kids and drop them at school before heading to your work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:how on earth does a hijab make you "feel liberated". Please explain. in detali

It deflects the male gaze.

Isn’t it easier just to become ugly?

[Anonymous]

I would wear it just to save on hair coloring but I don’t want to look weird

[Anonymous]

It would save all that coloring and bad hair days.
Hijab and a mask - no need for make up , lipstick either … wouldn't mind it and I am not being sarcastic.
54 year old here.

[Anonymous]

Seems like the goal is to take the focus away from appearances and sexuality but it really does the opposite.

I get the impression cultures where women wear the hijab are obsessed with sex. It seems very archaic and like the people haven’t evolved with time. But then you look at other aspects of their life and culture and you can see they haven’t evolved and it makes sense they are so focused on gender.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems like the goal is to take the focus away from appearances and sexuality but it really does the opposite.

I get the impression cultures where women wear the hijab are obsessed with sex. It seems very archaic and like the people haven’t evolved with time. But then you look at other aspects of their life and culture and you can see they haven’t evolved and it makes sense they are so focused on gender.

This is the most Islamophobic thing I’ve heard in a while and that’s saying a lot.

[Anonymous]

I have gray hair and wrinkles and I’m 45 and feel no need to cover myself. If a man approaches me or comments on my looks (and miraculously they still do), I can handle it either politely (if they are polite) or not (if they are not).

I love scarves and think they can look really cute, and certainly I don’t think a hijab is any more oppressive than high heels. But please don’t kid yourself about it being a tool of liberation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I moved to a new state recently and decided to start wearing a hijab (covering my hair). When you think of the hijab, you probably don’t think “political”. Or “independent”. Or “empowered”. Feminist? In a society where our value seems to be based on looks I think covering your hair and dressing modest can be an alterative to avoid this. Woman/sex combination is everywhere.. especially instagram.. it's like soft porn. Everywhere it seems there are ads for enhancing your ass... and lots of people have become obsessed with taking photos of themselves.. Wearing hijab is not the only way to express my feelings and frustrations; but knowing that our interpretation of liberal culture embraces, if not encourages, uncovering, covering up is a way to reject that. I do not believe that the hair in itself is that important; this is not about protection from men’s lusts. It is me telling the world that my femininity is not available for public consumption. I am taking control of it, and I don’t want to be part of a system that reduces and demeans women. I really believe that a non-Muslim woman could do this if she chose to. I know longer worry about face wrinkles on my forehead because the scarf covers them or my hair as much. I still color my hair and get haircuts but I don't worry about styling it everyday. I speak as a woman who just happens to come from the Islamic faith. I also noticed I worry less about my clothing.

So possessive men in your faith ordered you be covered and modest and you think that’s empowerment. Got it.

[Anonymous]

I think you should do what makes you feel comfortable, but I don’t buy the argument that not wearing a head covering means I am participating in a system that demeans women, or that I am opening up my femininity to consumption. I also don’t believe that my hair or my femininity is anything to be ashamed of or reserved for a single man in my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It should help with preventing skin cancer.

Yes, one benefit of any head covering or scarf for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have heard this sentiment before.

But this OP feels like it was written by chatGPT or some cheaper AI bot.

+1. So many DCUM posts these days seem to be written by AI.

Real question, how do you know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I moved to a new state recently and decided to start wearing a hijab (covering my hair). When you think of the hijab, you probably don’t think “political”. Or “independent”. Or “empowered”. Feminist? In a society where our value seems to be based on looks I think covering your hair and dressing modest can be an alterative to avoid this. Woman/sex combination is everywhere.. especially instagram.. it's like soft porn. Everywhere it seems there are ads for enhancing your ass... and lots of people have become obsessed with taking photos of themselves.. Wearing hijab is not the only way to express my feelings and frustrations; but knowing that our interpretation of liberal culture embraces, if not encourages, uncovering, covering up is a way to reject that. I do not believe that the hair in itself is that important; this is not about protection from men’s lusts. It is me telling the world that my femininity is not available for public consumption. I am taking control of it, and I don’t want to be part of a system that reduces and demeans women. I really believe that a non-Muslim woman could do this if she chose to. I know longer worry about face wrinkles on my forehead because the scarf covers them or my hair as much. I still color my hair and get haircuts but I don't worry about styling it everyday. I speak as a woman who just happens to come from the Islamic faith. I also noticed I worry less about my clothing.

You do you. No need to defend, explain or upsell your actions. It has to make sense to you. Wear it with confidence and if it stops making sense to you, take it off without any guilt.

I think it’s interesting to hear OP’s perspective even if I don’t agree.

[Anonymous]

OP disgustingly engages in cultural appropriation while Iranian women die because they challenge the patriarchy. Good job!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I moved to a new state recently and decided to start wearing a hijab (covering my hair). When you think of the hijab, you probably don’t think “political”. Or “independent”. Or “empowered”. Feminist? In a society where our value seems to be based on looks I think covering your hair and dressing modest can be an alterative to avoid this. Woman/sex combination is everywhere.. especially instagram.. it's like soft porn. Everywhere it seems there are ads for enhancing your ass... and lots of people have become obsessed with taking photos of themselves.. Wearing hijab is not the only way to express my feelings and frustrations; but knowing that our interpretation of liberal culture embraces, if not encourages, uncovering, covering up is a way to reject that. I do not believe that the hair in itself is that important; this is not about protection from men’s lusts. It is me telling the world that my femininity is not available for public consumption. I am taking control of it, and I don’t want to be part of a system that reduces and demeans women. I really believe that a non-Muslim woman could do this if she chose to. I know longer worry about face wrinkles on my forehead because the scarf covers them or my hair as much. I still color my hair and get haircuts but I don't worry about styling it everyday. I speak as a woman who just happens to come from the Islamic faith. I also noticed I worry less about my clothing.

Just regarding this comment specifically...

If this is what you see on instagram, remember that those apps show you what you engage with. You or someone with your phone is watching that content. The app thinks you like it, so it's showing you more of it.

I don't see anything close to what you're describing on my instagram. I see ads for shoes and home decor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey I sincerely am glad you posted this. I’m happy for you! Instagram is such a drain and friends getting Botox are boring as heck. I’ll think of you the next time I see a hijab and will have extra perspective

Huh?