How to raise a boy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Disgusting.

This entire thread is a horrendous example of cisheterosexism and should be deleted.

+1. A corporation may need men and women on its board of directors, but it is ludicrous to pretend that the child needs a mother and a father.

[Anonymous]

They don’t need one but it most likely leads to better outcomes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Disgusting.

This entire thread is a horrendous example of cisheterosexism and should be deleted.

+1. A corporation may need men and women on its board of directors, but it is ludicrous to pretend that the child needs a mother and a father.

“Need” is a judgement call but there are legitimate issues that a person can face if they don’t have good examples to draw upon re: specific experiences of living as a certain gender.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most of the same basics as a girl.

Things that are specific to boys:

Toxic masculinity

Pervasive homophobia. The messaging to them is subtly all over the place really as early as K.

When they're older, how to interact with and treat with women. Consent. How to interact online. Huge topics. I have told my son you're not getting any grace in this world. Because men got away with so much BS for so long and still do in many ways, you will not be given the benefit of the doubt. If a girl says you did something, you're done. There is no room for mistakes for boys in this department (nor should there be).

There is no such thing as toxic masculinity.

DP but we must live on different planets. You’ve never experienced toxic masculinity??
Teen girls these days can sniff it out and won’t put up with it. I’m raising teen boys and girls and can tell you these girls are going to run circles around the boys of their generation. I’m raising my boys to keep up with the girls. If I want them married (and I do!), I know they’re going to have to bring something to the table. Manners, common sense, the end of weaponized helplessness, conversation skills (and all the things women of our generation looked for- ambition, smarts, kindness etc).

I don’t. Masculinity isn’t toxic. We need to stop teaching little boys this. We need to stop trying to feminize boys.

Correct masculinity is not toxic in and of itself but there is toxic masculinity. Toxic masculinity is the perpetuation of dominance, unchecked aggression, homophobia, affection can only be obtained in sexual relationships, lack of empathy, isolation, refusing to seek out doctors- both for physical and mental ailments, etc.

Masculinity, without toxicity, would be the ideal of duty, honor, pride of excellence and in taking care of others, devotion, etc. Toxic masculinity is the toxic side of all of those characteristics. Taken to extremes and isolating.

An example would be following rules but not cultural/societal gatekeeping. Opening doors in both the literal and metaphorical sense. Willing to be a mentor to both women and men in the workforce. Being openly affectionate with their spouse, parents, children and friends. Recognizing the role of an adult is to provide for themselves- and others if they have a family- but that it is not their sole product and reason for existing. Willing to learn. Willing to teach. Steadfast without the sinking ship conundrum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having strong and healthy father figures in their lives to serve as role models.

+1 There is no substitute for this. Yes, mom can and will teach him important things, but dad will teach him how to be a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teach consent, and teach them to control their ego/anger.

And what do you teach your girls to become good women? To control their emotions, jealousy and inherent whining?

Such a sexist post from PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teach consent, and teach them to control their ego/anger.

And what do you teach your girls to become good women? To control their emotions, jealousy and inherent whining?

Such a sexist post from PP.

To not become Karen’s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having strong and healthy father figures in their lives to serve as role models.

+1 There is no substitute for this. Yes, mom can and will teach him important things, but dad will teach him how to be a man.

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My ex couldn’t teach him how to be a good man so I taught him how to be a good person. He’s a father now and is a good man and father to his kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Disgusting.

This entire thread is a horrendous example of cisheterosexism and should be deleted.

I almost started responding to this and then I stopped and thought.... and I think it's a troll. Well done, I have to say.

[Anonymous]

Read Lise Eliot's Pink Brain, Blue Brain so you have that in your head before the It's Hardwired #Boymoms start spewing their dangerous bilge

[Anonymous]

Ugh - why did I click on this thread. Please let these people be trolls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh - why did I click on this thread. Please let these people be trolls.

No this is life sweetie

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are your best tips or advice on how to raise a boy to become a good man?

First and foremost raise him as a feminist. A true feminist, who fully sees every woman as an equal and as his ally in equality.

Then teach him to grow up to be a gentle, kind, and compassionate sensitive man, and every woman will be attracted to him and want to marry him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With sisters.

LOL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are your best tips or advice on how to raise a boy to become a good man?

First and foremost raise him as a feminist. A true feminist, who fully sees every woman as an equal and as his ally in equality.

Then teach him to grow up to be a gentle, kind, and compassionate sensitive man, and every woman will be attracted to him and want to marry him.

Barf