Helping young adult with proposal planning

[Anonymous]

Proposals are personal to the couple. Something meaningful to them is what works best... if people give you generic suggestions and your child follows them, it will be a generic meaningless proposal...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please share your ideas or tips to make it a happy and memorable occasion for a young couple.

I'm withholding background information to respect their privacy and to avoid limiting your imagination with given data.

You could spit-polish the young lads twig and berries to make sure he looks his best for his beloved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please share your ideas or tips to make it a happy and memorable occasion for a young couple.

I'm withholding background information to respect their privacy and to avoid limiting your imagination with given data.

Hey great idea Mom! You should also go on the honeymoon to show them the right way to shag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it was my child, I would suggest they ask their friends for advice or look up ideas on social media.

I have never participated in one or had one and so not really sure what the expectation is.

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Its not my child but my godson and its not like he asked me to plan anything, just asked about ideas. He hasn't even told his own or GF's parents.

Why would he tell his own or gfs parents before talking to his gf and finding out if she wants to get married before he proposes?

[Anonymous]

Suggestion: tell him to bring plenty of lube and a bottle of tequila. A proposal followed by drunken anal sex will make for a helluva romantic story to tell the extended family at the wedding reception

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not wait to propose.

Do not hem and haw and wait for some perfect event or trip or planned BS. Just propose at night on the couch. Be a man.

+1

Whilst sonny boy is wasting months and months planning some proposal extravaganza, guess who’s thinking he’s a passive don’t-know-what-I-want ManChild?

[Anonymous]

That makes sense as I've seen many a good couples wasting time to be happy in uncertainty while guy is waiting for everything to be perfect.

Men's collective track record is really horrible so until there is a ring nobody trusts its serious. Proposal doesn't mean you 've to be ready for immediate nuptials, you can get engaged and wait for right time without having to question if this guy is serious or not.

[Anonymous]

My husband’s proposal was quiet and personal at my home. I’d always envisioned something out in nature, like on a home, but it was nice. I had the day off and didn’t know he arranged for the day off too.

The only person I know whose family was involved is in a family that’s all very close (both sides). Her DH proposed and then suggested a walk…they rounded the bend and both her families were there set up with champagne / a picnic. She loved that. Even though I’m extroverted I probably would have found it a bit overwhelming.

By the way, they were involved in that they showed up, but he planned it all.

[Anonymous]

1. If you live in a no sales tax state, your child should ship engagement ring to your house. Saves so much in taxes.

2. My FIL brought the ring over on family vacation so there was no chance that I would accidentally find it.

3. Immediately after DH proposed, my in laws took us out to celebrate with champagne and dinner and we felt very loved and celebrated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband’s proposal was quiet and personal at my home. I’d always envisioned something out in nature, like on a home, but it was nice. I had the day off and didn’t know he arranged for the day off too.

The only person I know whose family was involved is in a family that’s all very close (both sides). Her DH proposed and then suggested a walk…they rounded the bend and both her families were there set up with champagne / a picnic. She loved that. Even though I’m extroverted I probably would have found it a bit overwhelming.

By the way, they were involved in that they showed up, but he planned it all.

Our friends helped their son decorate proposal location on the beach and find a good photographer. They also arranged for both families to show up after the proposal for a celebration.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If the proposer can't come up with a proposal that would please the proposee, they aren't ready for the proposing.

+1 DH’s proposal was amazing and it was probably the best day of my life aside from the births of our children.

He came up with and executed it on his own and it was tailored to what he knew I would love. Stay out of it.

You have zero idea if he came up with entirely on his own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Suggestion: tell him to bring plenty of lube and a bottle of tequila. A proposal followed by drunken anal sex will make for a helluva romantic story to tell the extended family at the wedding reception

Why does there have to be anal when there is a perfectly good vagina there?

[Anonymous]

Friends child had a huge proposal in a romantic setting with tons of friends and all the parents and professional photos and lots of pics online. Ran into the mom recently and we were all asking about her mother of the bride dress and the excitement of wedding planning and she was like “the wedding is off. It didn’t work out”. I remember wondering if the groom regretted the expense and all of he publicity etc. Made me wonder about doing everything so publicly these days with social media etc.

[Anonymous]

Who are all these parents responding telling OP to stay out of it? Do you have good relationships with your kids? If your kid asks for ideas, do you tell them "no, you need to be independent?" I would definitely brainstorm with my kid and secretly do a fist pump that my kid still talks to me and cares to share things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please share your ideas or tips to make it a happy and memorable occasion for a young couple.

I'm withholding background information to respect their privacy and to avoid limiting your imagination with given data.

OP will this be an arranged marriage?