So, the thing I don't get about this is - with say, the Lulu leggings or the Stanley water bottle, people see that you own those products. What's the point of Drunk Elephant for a middle schooler when you just use it at home. Can't you just say you do? (Not that I think kids should be trying to impress each other, just trying to understand the psychology.) |
No, I wouldn’t get it. What she has is perfectly fine and working. If you buy it, you are basically encouraging her to follow the expenses and useless trends on social media. Don’t let her be that girl, who will one day turn into that woman. |
Tween mom here. The Drunk Elephant product they really like is called something like Goldi drops that puts a sort of sheer sparkle on your face. So you can see it if you know what to look for. But it's like Stanleys, Nike Air, etc - the value is saying you have it, or having it, same as it was for whatever hot labels were in when you were in middle school (I'm from the Gen X Benneton/Esprit/Firenze or whatever those sweaters were) . They also show each other their products when they hang out at each other's houses, try them out or show them to each other on Facetime. I think about what I was putting on my face when I was her age - gross Wet n' Wild makeup - so I am okay with some sheer sparkle (that she has to pay for or get as a gift). They are trying to figure out who they are and while they all look at Drunk Elephant at Sephora, I am not sure they are buying it because of the cost. They are into skin care but there are worst hobbies. If these kids try a product and don't like it, or it burns or makes them break out, they stop on their own. They really like the things with the heavy fruity or floral scents. I don't think it's quite as nefarious as people make it out to be. I think middle school is a time to try out some different personas and this is one of them. |
Yes, my 12 year old got the DE goldi drops for chirstmas and she blends a wee bit with her bubble sensitive skin moisturizer for a little glow and wears her fun lip gloss and it's totally fine. Not harsh at all, not causing her to break out. She is into washing her face and wearing moisturizer and also into spf so I think her being influenced by friends w/ social media has been pretty OK for her. I do notice that she takes better care of the stuff she's asked for b/c she's coveted it. She uses cerave to cleanse. Bubble (and the Ordinary at sephora and ulta) are similar/less $ than Cerave. |
Agree. I have a 14 yr old DD and she doesn’t ask for lululemon, drunk elephant, or Stanley cups. |
Omg what a fabulous trendy for being un-trendy child you have 🙄 You know that your attitude is no better, right? |
Actually it is. It’s heathy to be an independent thinker and have preferences that aren’t based on what everyone else is doing or says is “in” |
Says everyone with no sense of style, who doesn't know what is "in." |
Of course those are great qualities! It's also developmentally appropriate for kids this age to look for material ways to fit in that they may let go of when they age. Adding it's also not mutually exclusive. My sixth grader likes a lot of this stuff but also is an independent thinker! Who they are now - with the Drunk Elephant and Stanley or without - will not be who they are in six months, one year, five years. It's called growing up. |
NP. STOP. Drunk Elephant is geared for middle aged women, not teen. Certainly not tweens. This isn't about "style" and you know that. |
^^Gossip Girl has entered the chat. |
Pretty obvious the solution should be to let her pay for it herself. No better way for kids to learn the value of a dollar (assuming she doesn’t get a $100/week allowance ). |
Right, and to also act like you’re soooo much better than those who are not as independent minded and mature as you. |
No expects teens and tweens to be super independent minded. But as parents, we should be able to tell them why makeup for mature skin isn't for them. It's not the same as a Stanley or Guess sweater. |
Hehe. There are kids who don’t care what they wear, there are kids who will copy whatever everyone else wears, and there a only a few that know what looks good on them and chooses their clothes wisely. Lululemon, glitter face, Uggs and a massive water bottle is not what anyone thinks of when talking about a sense of style. |