Permission to Stop Dieting

[Anonymous]

I’ve always had a slim, athletic build - until menopause hit me like a train. Within 6 months, I gained 15 pounds and no matter how much I diet or exercise those pound’s won’t budge.

So much of our body composition is driven by our hormones and no amount of self discipline can change that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The concept of "dieting" is outdated. The phrase intself connotes old age: no one says "dieting" anymore. Now we are to think about the lifestyle of eating that we should engage in. Low sugar, low salt, abundance of leafy green vegetablels, healthy oils (non-seed oils, such as olive, avocado, walnut, coconut), small amount oh not-too-surgary fruit (blueberries, raspberries), oily fish (salmon, sardines), beans, small amount of whole grains. Yes, eating heathily and maintaining a healthy weight is important for heart health and for preserving the quality of life in older age (preventing need to take lots of meds, preventing kidney failure, etc). We can't just give up, that is not responsible toward ourselves and our families.

Little detail: the notion that oily fish should be a part of a healthy diet is sadly outdated as well, because fish these days contain too high amounts of heavy metals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The concept of "dieting" is outdated. The phrase intself connotes old age: no one says "dieting" anymore. Now we are to think about the lifestyle of eating that we should engage in. Low sugar, low salt, abundance of leafy green vegetablels, healthy oils (non-seed oils, such as olive, avocado, walnut, coconut), small amount oh not-too-surgary fruit (blueberries, raspberries), oily fish (salmon, sardines), beans, small amount of whole grains. Yes, eating heathily and maintaining a healthy weight is important for heart health and for preserving the quality of life in older age (preventing need to take lots of meds, preventing kidney failure, etc). We can't just give up, that is not responsible toward ourselves and our families.

You may not use the word "dieting" anymore, but you are the very picture of an eating disorder. Obsessing about "Not too sugary" fruit? Please, tell me what a too sugary fruit looks like? What would be the health effects of eating, for example, watermelon, instead of blueberries? It's outrageous that you would call the concept of dieting outdated and try to convince people to only eat "leafy" green vegetables or low salt.

PP who just nitpicked about fish.
Easy: grapes. Bananas. Yes, they're healthier for your toddler than chicken nuggets or skittles, but for a middle aged woman who would like to avoid dieting, cutting them out in favor of less sugary fruit isn't unreasonable at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The concept of "dieting" is outdated. The phrase intself connotes old age: no one says "dieting" anymore. Now we are to think about the lifestyle of eating that we should engage in. Low sugar, low salt, abundance of leafy green vegetablels, healthy oils (non-seed oils, such as olive, avocado, walnut, coconut), small amount oh not-too-surgary fruit (blueberries, raspberries), oily fish (salmon, sardines), beans, small amount of whole grains. Yes, eating heathily and maintaining a healthy weight is important for heart health and for preserving the quality of life in older age (preventing need to take lots of meds, preventing kidney failure, etc). We can't just give up, that is not responsible toward ourselves and our families.

Little detail: the notion that oily fish should be a part of a healthy diet is sadly outdated as well, because fish these days contain too high amounts of heavy metals.

You can check out the level of mercury in canned fish on consumer lab.com

[Anonymous]

I’ve lost 30 lbs but I’m still 10 pounds overweight - I’m gaining muscle right now through heavy weight lifting so I’m trying to distinguish between fat/muscle through through Inbody Scans. I’m liking my gaining muscle approach v weight loss approach.

I’m having a cancer scare right now. Extra weight is linked to certain cancers. I don’t want to put my family through this.

Risk tolerance is personal.

Good luck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - I am not looking for permission to become a glutton, just freedom from the mindset that because I am 20 lbs overweight I should be on a diet.

I give you permission!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The concept of "dieting" is outdated. The phrase intself connotes old age: no one says "dieting" anymore. Now we are to think about the lifestyle of eating that we should engage in. Low sugar, low salt, abundance of leafy green vegetablels, healthy oils (non-seed oils, such as olive, avocado, walnut, coconut), small amount oh not-too-surgary fruit (blueberries, raspberries), oily fish (salmon, sardines), beans, small amount of whole grains. Yes, eating heathily and maintaining a healthy weight is important for heart health and for preserving the quality of life in older age (preventing need to take lots of meds, preventing kidney failure, etc). We can't just give up, that is not responsible toward ourselves and our families.

Little detail: the notion that oily fish should be a part of a healthy diet is sadly outdated as well, because fish these days contain too high amounts of heavy metals.

You can check out the level of mercury in canned fish on consumer lab.com

Fish also contains a crap ton of plastics and forever chemicals.

[Anonymous]

Set yourself free and give yourself the permission.

I’m on active duty and the #1 reason I’m retiring in 3 years is the struggle to maintain my weight. Max I can be is 143 lbs to maintain a max BMI 27.5. It’s been very difficult especially with menopause. I love my job, I love to serve, it’s been an incredible career, and.I wanted to continue for another 7 years to get my children through college but the weight requirements is not something I can realistically continue to achieve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop eating garbage.

DP, and start eating cabbage! Ha!

[Anonymous]

OP, what will you get to do with all the mental space you save on letting this go?? So exciting!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Set yourself free and give yourself the permission.

I’m on active duty and the #1 reason I’m retiring in 3 years is the struggle to maintain my weight. Max I can be is 143 lbs to maintain a max BMI 27.5. It’s been very difficult especially with menopause. I love my job, I love to serve, it’s been an incredible career, and.I wanted to continue for another 7 years to get my children through college but the weight requirements is not something I can realistically continue to achieve.

Not to be a pusher but consider Ozempic if you can get it covered, since you want to continue in your job. I went from 28.5 to 23.5 BMI this year. I’m also post menopause and I’d given up on traditional diets because they didn't work for me.

I think 27.5 is fine, and you weigh less than I do even now, but I do feel a lot better carrying less weight. Still working on a few more lbs.

[Anonymous]

Let me get this straight. You have been doing something for 20+ years and it has not gotten you the result you want, but you still feel like you need permission to stop?

[Anonymous]

I have finally reached this stage in my life. I have did all the diet programs you can name. So I know this is going to be freeing for me. I know it is going to be an adjustment in my mindset. I have lived for over 40 years with food either good or bad and my weight either good or bad. I just want to love ❤️ me in the body that I am in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have finally reached this stage in my life. I have did all the diet programs you can name. So I know this is going to be freeing for me. I know it is going to be an adjustment in my mindset. I have lived for over 40 years with food either good or bad and my weight either good or bad. I just want to love ❤️ me in the body that I am in.

I think it's OK to prioritize your mental health. I hope it works out for you.

[Anonymous]

You are going to end up serverly obese. I think you need to get some therapy for emotional eating.