3 years after graduating college time to move out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask your ACs if they would like to stay with you rent free to save money and have the comforts of home for a few years. They get to bank and invest their money.

No one will say no, if they get along with their parents and the family is not dysfunctional.

No one,

You be okay with your 60 year old DC at home?

Sure. Not a dysfunctional family and we have lots of space. We live in a huge house in DMV. And no, we are not downsizing.

I would and not dysfunctional like PP big home, and I like my kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD wanted to move out, she has a good paying job and a good career in tech. But, we encouraged her to save her money and continue staying with us. Marriage is on the cards soon, and we do not want her to walk into her marriage broke.

Women I know who moved from their parents house to a joint marital house regret it deeply. It made a few stay in marriages for too long bc they were afraid of living alone, and even those with happy marriages missed the independence. Some things are worth paying for.

I did that. I moved to a group house for about a year and it sucked so I moved back home, save the money and moved in with my husband after marriage. I did not miss out on anything and it was nice to have the money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask your ACs if they would like to stay with you rent free to save money and have the comforts of home for a few years. They get to bank and invest their money.

No one will say no, if they get along with their parents and the family is not dysfunctional.

No one,

You be okay with your 60 year old DC at home?

What a judgmental jerk!

[Anonymous]

If 60 yr old DC is living at home with me, he is probably my caretaker because I would be an 80 yr old parent, no?

Why would I feel bad? Won't I want my 60 yr old DC to live with me so that my house, property and money can go to them without a problem. Won't we both have better care and less loneliness because we share our family home? Won't more socialization happen with family and friends because there are more people in the house?

At least they would not have to clean up and sell my house after my death. They would continue to live at my house without problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If 60 yr old DC is living at home with me, he is probably my caretaker because I would be an 80 yr old parent, no?

Why would I feel bad? Won't I want my 60 yr old DC to live with me so that my house, property and money can go to them without a problem. Won't we both have better care and less loneliness because we share our family home? Won't more socialization happen with family and friends because there are more people in the house?

At least they would not have to clean up and sell my house after my death. They would continue to live at my house without problem.

Also, elderly people contribute their pension and social security to the family funds. They are earning members. So, my 60 yr old will be wealthier and could afford more care and luxuries if living with parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If 60 yr old DC is living at home with me, he is probably my caretaker because I would be an 80 yr old parent, no?

Why would I feel bad? Won't I want my 60 yr old DC to live with me so that my house, property and money can go to them without a problem. Won't we both have better care and less loneliness because we share our family home? Won't more socialization happen with family and friends because there are more people in the house?

At least they would not have to clean up and sell my house after my death. They would continue to live at my house without problem.

Also, elderly people contribute their pension and social security to the family funds. They are earning members. So, my 60 yr old will be wealthier and could afford more care and luxuries if living with parents.

+1
My in-law parents are living with us.  I am 57 years old and my wife is 50 years old.  We want them to live with us so that we can take good care of them.  We both sold our homes and bought a 5000 sqft home so that the house is big enough for everyone.  My in-law parents are very grateful that they can live with us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD wanted to move out, she has a good paying job and a good career in tech. But, we encouraged her to save her money and continue staying with us. Marriage is on the cards soon, and we do not want her to walk into her marriage broke.

Women I know who moved from their parents house to a joint marital house regret it deeply. It made a few stay in marriages for too long bc they were afraid of living alone, and even those with happy marriages missed the independence. Some things are worth paying for.

I did that. I moved to a group house for about a year and it sucked so I moved back home, save the money and moved in with my husband after marriage. I did not miss out on anything and it was nice to have the money.

Ha ha! My college-going DC, (30 minutes away, super social, rooming with a friend, excelling at school) came home for the weekend. He mentioned that he won't mind commuting from home because he misses his bed, his bathroom and all the delicious home cooked food.

So there are perfectly well adjusted kids who are fine being home. It is normal around the world and it is now very normal in USA. Nearly a third of Gen Z are living at home with their parents.

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/07/21/realestate/adult-children-living-at-home.html

This year’s rapid inflation rates have meant higher prices for virtually everything, including rent, food and even partying. So what comes next may not be much of a surprise: Nearly a third of Americans between the ages of 18 and 25 — part of what is collectively known as Gen Z — live at home with their parents or other relatives, according to a new study, and they considered it a long-term housing solution.

The analysis comes courtesy of Credit Karma, a personal finance platform, which surveyed 1,022 young adults in the United States online between June 10 and June 15 of this year.

From the very beginning of the pandemic, flocks of young Americans were moving back home. A 2020 analysis from Zillow found that about 2.7 million adults in the United States moved in with a parent or grandparent in March and April of that year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They graduated college 3 years ago, they have a good paying job is it time to move out yet?
You can’t take the money, how do we tell him to move out?

You should have given them a year to live at home and then they leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They graduated college 3 years ago, they have a good paying job is it time to move out yet?
You can’t take the money, how do we tell him to move out?

There’s an unspoken ten year rule. After 10 years, let him know it’s time to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask your ACs if they would like to stay with you rent free to save money and have the comforts of home for a few years. They get to bank and invest their money.

No one will say no, if they get along with their parents and the family is not dysfunctional.

No one,

You be okay with your 60 year old DC at home?

NP. Did you read the whole post?

[Anonymous]

Either he pays rent to you or he pays rent to someone else which is probably more expensive than what you will charge. If he doesn't want to, have him pay one of the utility bills. If he doesn't want to pay for anything, no. It isn't doing him any good in the future.

even if he is he is telling you he is saving for to buy a home and there has to be a goal on the years he can stay. Paying your one utility is like learning to pay for other bills when he gets his own place.

This all will be good for him in his future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If 60 yr old DC is living at home with me, he is probably my caretaker because I would be an 80 yr old parent, no?

Why would I feel bad? Won't I want my 60 yr old DC to live with me so that my house, property and money can go to them without a problem. Won't we both have better care and less loneliness because we share our family home? Won't more socialization happen with family and friends because there are more people in the house?

At least they would not have to clean up and sell my house after my death. They would continue to live at my house without problem.

Also, elderly people contribute their pension and social security to the family funds. They are earning members. So, my 60 yr old will be wealthier and could afford more care and luxuries if living with parents.

+1
My in-law parents are living with us.  I am 57 years old and my wife is 50 years old.  We want them to live with us so that we can take good care of them.  We both sold our homes and bought a 5000 sqft home so that the house is big enough for everyone.  My in-law parents are very grateful that they can live with us.

You are a saint. I could not live with my in laws (or my parents) - it would break our marriage.

[Anonymous]

I lived at home till 29. Why I had a beach house share, went skiing a lot, Vacation a lot. An apartment was a waste.

I paid my mom rent, mowed her lawn, shoveled her snow, did home repairs, helped unload groceries, drove her family parties as she was a widow.

When I left I did go back weekly to help out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD wanted to move out, she has a good paying job and a good career in tech. But, we encouraged her to save her money and continue staying with us. Marriage is on the cards soon, and we do not want her to walk into her marriage broke.

Women I know who moved from their parents house to a joint marital house regret it deeply. It made a few stay in marriages for too long bc they were afraid of living alone, and even those with happy marriages missed the independence. Some things are worth paying for.

I did that. I moved to a group house for about a year and it sucked so I moved back home, save the money and moved in with my husband after marriage. I did not miss out on anything and it was nice to have the money.

Ha ha! My college-going DC, (30 minutes away, super social, rooming with a friend, excelling at school) came home for the weekend. He mentioned that he won't mind commuting from home because he misses his bed, his bathroom and all the delicious home cooked food.

So there are perfectly well adjusted kids who are fine being home. It is normal around the world and it is now very normal in USA. Nearly a third of Gen Z are living at home with their parents.

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/07/21/realestate/adult-children-living-at-home.html

This year’s rapid inflation rates have meant higher prices for virtually everything, including rent, food and even partying. So what comes next may not be much of a surprise: Nearly a third of Americans between the ages of 18 and 25 — part of what is collectively known as Gen Z — live at home with their parents or other relatives, according to a new study, and they considered it a long-term housing solution.

The analysis comes courtesy of Credit Karma, a personal finance platform, which surveyed 1,022 young adults in the United States online between June 10 and June 15 of this year.

From the very beginning of the pandemic, flocks of young Americans were moving back home. A 2020 analysis from Zillow found that about 2.7 million adults in the United States moved in with a parent or grandparent in March and April of that year.

I stayed till I married. Saved enough for a down payment on a house. I hope mine come back and live with us to save.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD wanted to move out, she has a good paying job and a good career in tech. But, we encouraged her to save her money and continue staying with us. Marriage is on the cards soon, and we do not want her to walk into her marriage broke.

Women I know who moved from their parents house to a joint marital house regret it deeply. It made a few stay in marriages for too long bc they were afraid of living alone, and even those with happy marriages missed the independence. Some things are worth paying for.

I did that. I moved to a group house for about a year and it sucked so I moved back home, save the money and moved in with my husband after marriage. I did not miss out on anything and it was nice to have the money.

Ha ha! My college-going DC, (30 minutes away, super social, rooming with a friend, excelling at school) came home for the weekend. He mentioned that he won't mind commuting from home because he misses his bed, his bathroom and all the delicious home cooked food.

So there are perfectly well adjusted kids who are fine being home. It is normal around the world and it is now very normal in USA. Nearly a third of Gen Z are living at home with their parents.

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/07/21/realestate/adult-children-living-at-home.html

This year’s rapid inflation rates have meant higher prices for virtually everything, including rent, food and even partying. So what comes next may not be much of a surprise: Nearly a third of Americans between the ages of 18 and 25 — part of what is collectively known as Gen Z — live at home with their parents or other relatives, according to a new study, and they considered it a long-term housing solution.

The analysis comes courtesy of Credit Karma, a personal finance platform, which surveyed 1,022 young adults in the United States online between June 10 and June 15 of this year.

From the very beginning of the pandemic, flocks of young Americans were moving back home. A 2020 analysis from Zillow found that about 2.7 million adults in the United States moved in with a parent or grandparent in March and April of that year.

I stayed till I married. Saved enough for a down payment on a house. I hope mine come back and live with us to save.

Kids who love home generally don’t save more. They just spend on different things.