lack of sex

[Anonymous]

I think I want a baby but not sure I feel that strongly about it. I'm married to a man who loves me but lives alcohol more. I should be ovulating around now but we haven't had sex. That's because when he has been drinking he can't get it up. It is so frustrating. It makes me angry I may have to have fertility treatments when maybe I'm not pregnant because of his drinking? I wassurprised my doctor at shady grove said I should be pregnant by having sex once a week. I suppose I have been hoping it's the frequency and not me!

[Anonymous]

You arent sure if you want a baby, but decide to get fertility help to get pregnant and i guess just sees what happens or how you feel once you do get pregnant? You have a husband that is an alcoholic and you want to reproduce with that? You are upset not that he drinks but that he cant get it up when he drinks? Im sorry but i do hope you dont have children at this point in your life.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a troll. What RE would say once a week is sufficient? Sperm doesn't live for 7 days.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like OP was the one who was drunk-posting at 2am.

[Anonymous]

"You have a husband that is an alcoholic and you want to reproduce with that?"

I have the same question.

[Anonymous]

What married woman who wants a baby has sex only once a week?

[Anonymous]

Consider it a blessing you have not had a child with this man yet. He needs to address the alcohol issue first, then you can consider having children. If he doesn't, then you need to decide if you want to remain childless and stay with an alcoholic or move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What married woman who wants a baby has sex only once a week?

My husband won't put out! He drinks frequently and can't get it up wjen he drinks. Or he isn't in the mood, is stressed etc. I don't think Dex is a priority for him. I used to blame myself but now realize it has very little to do with me.

Well, the RE said that after two years of unprotected sex, even if not that frequent, I should have gotten pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Consider it a blessing you have not had a child with this man yet. He needs to address the alcohol issue first, then you can consider having children. If he doesn't, then you need to decide if you want to remain childless and stay with an alcoholic or move on.

He's not necessarily an alcoholic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Consider it a blessing you have not had a child with this man yet. He needs to address the alcohol issue first, then you can consider having children. If he doesn't, then you need to decide if you want to remain childless and stay with an alcoholic or move on.

He's not necessarily an alcoholic

Are you two attracted to each other. Is he old? Depressed?

He likes the bottle more than sex with you?

[Anonymous]

OP. Yes we are attracted to each other. No not depressed. We have a pretty great life besides this issue. We have great friends, enjoy each other's company, great job, similar interests. But he just isn't that into sex. He was married previously and they rarely had sex. But what do I do? Divorce? Why should I have to have fertility treatments when he can't even not drink long enough to get me pregnant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Consider it a blessing you have not had a child with this man yet. He needs to address the alcohol issue first, then you can consider having children. If he doesn't, then you need to decide if you want to remain childless and stay with an alcoholic or move on.

He's not necessarily an alcoholic

No, but you are an idiot. A child is something serious. You said you aren't sure if you want one yet are trying for one. You said he loves drinking more than her loves you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Consider it a blessing you have not had a child with this man yet. He needs to address the alcohol issue first, then you can consider having children. If he doesn't, then you need to decide if you want to remain childless and stay with an alcoholic or move on.

He's not necessarily an alcoholic

No, but you are an idiot. A child is something serious. You said you aren't sure if you want one yet are trying for one. You said he loves drinking more than her loves you

Thanks for calling me an idiot. That was kind. I suppose I wanted kids previously but faced with his drinking and fertility treatments I'm having second thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Consider it a blessing you have not had a child with this man yet. He needs to address the alcohol issue first, then you can consider having children. If he doesn't, then you need to decide if you want to remain childless and stay with an alcoholic or move on.

He's not necessarily an alcoholic

No, but you are an idiot. A child is something serious. You said you aren't sure if you want one yet are trying for one. You said he loves drinking more than her loves you

Thanks for calling me an idiot. That was kind. I suppose I wanted kids previously but faced with his drinking and fertility treatments I'm having second thoughts.

You need to hear the truth. Seriously, how old are you? You sound very immature

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Consider it a blessing you have not had a child with this man yet. He needs to address the alcohol issue first, then you can consider having children. If he doesn't, then you need to decide if you want to remain childless and stay with an alcoholic or move on.

He's not necessarily an alcoholic

No, but you are an idiot. A child is something serious. You said you aren't sure if you want one yet are trying for one. You said he loves drinking more than her loves you

Thanks for calling me an idiot. That was kind. I suppose I wanted kids previously but faced with his drinking and fertility treatments I'm having second thoughts.

You need to hear the truth. Seriously, how old are you? You sound very immature

OP and her DH have issues they need to face, clearly. But PP are you able to add to the discussion without name calling?