Dropping family from FB
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Anonymous
| I am cleaning up my FB account, slimming the friends/family list way down. I want to drop my DH's grown kids who over the years have made it a point to communicate and respond to everyone's post except mine. I know, it sounds like I'm being a big baby, but I feel it's an intentional "FU," especially when I post something that's relevant about their dad or their half sister. I simply don't want to put myself in a position to get my feelings worked up over it and feel if there is something important enough, I can call them. We are a very well behaved family given the circumstances and, other than their passive aggressive behavior, we have no real issues. On the other hand, I'd hate to create unnecessary drama. What do you think? |
Anonymous
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Always take the high road.
That or leave FB entirely. |
Anonymous
| Don't do it. You will come off as petty and it really isn't necessary. |
Anonymous
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Assess your relationships by what happens IN REAL LIFE , Not FB. I say this as a stepmom of an adult bonus child.
I have relatives who never or rarely comment on my FB -- who cares? |
Anonymous
| Agree with all PPs |
Anonymous
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Put them on a restricted list. No drama, and you're not wasting head space thinking about this.
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Anonymous
| Same boat. Cant stand in-law on FB and all of her "self-aggrandising" posts (term conjured by DCUMers). My best solution was to delete FB from my smartphone, and to remove her from my notifications and to unfollow her. So basically, to see her posts, I have to log in on a computer, search for her, and then see them. And, I stopped liking anything so it looks like im never on it. |
Anonymous
| Just hide them. You won't see them come up in your feed, and you won't show in theirs. |
Anonymous
| Just hide them. Not a big deal. Also, you are thinking about this way too much. Judge your relationships with people based on what happens in real life, not what happens on FB. |
Anonymous
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I think deleting them from DB is more of an FU than a lack of their comments on your posts.
And if you don't communicate much in FB, it's very possible that your posts are not showing up in their newsfeeds. Your newsfeed is "selective", FB has a formula that determines what posts display. It's very possible they haven't even seen them. |
Anonymous
| Restrict them so they can't see your posts, and hide them so you can't see theirs. Then you can check their pages once in a while if you want to. |
Anonymous
Is he your husband because you had an affair with him while he was still married to their mother? Or, do they mysteriously hate your guts for "no reason at all"? Tell the truth now--which I know is asking a lot from a likely family-wrecker. |
Anonymous
Not pp but this makes it sound like you are the second wife who stole him from the first wife and that's why the children don't like you. Otherwise what are the "given circumstances" you refer to? |
Anonymous
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Take the high road.
I would be hurt, too, but just block them so you don't see them but let them see stuff about their dad and sister...you don't have to show them everything but some stuff. Make them an "acquaintance." Customize your posts but don't defriend them entirely. |
Anonymous
| What you're suggesting is the very definition of high drama -- attention-seeking high drama. Think twice. |