Was I out of line at the grocery store with a shrieking toddler?

[Anonymous]

Even if my kid had a legit reason to be shrieking nonstop, I would still be doing a combo of communicating with them to soften voice as not to hurt the ears of other & shopping as quick as I could to get out of there asap.

If nothing else look like you are trying. Encouraging and delighting in it, is awful.

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Anonymous wrote:My 2 year old went through a short phase where she did this. Nothing would stop it so I decided ignoring it was best. I got dirty looks which is fine, but I would have had a MAJOR problem with you talking to my kid directly.

So what? Did you care that shoppers had a major problem with your kid shrieking? You would just seethe in silence and the kid would stop shrieking.

I don’t even understand what you’re saying.

Nothing I did stopped it. We share the world with babies and children who are still learning and growing. As an adult, you should be mature enough to deal with it.

So, no, you don’t care at all about the people around. You want the benefit of living in a society without doing your part.

You’re insane.

You’re a lousy parent. Take your shrieking kid outside until they are calm enough to return. Since you can’t figure that much out and also are confounded by the idea that other people around you matter too, there is very little hope that you have any idea how to parent.

You need a hobby.

You need birth control.

I’m a great parent and if your parents were half as good as I am, you would not be trolling the internet for kicks. Please get help. You deserve better.

Nothing about letting your kids scream their heads off suggests you’re a good parent. Get your tubes tied.

You should scream more often. It might let out some of your pent up rage and need for attention.

Are you the crazy mama who wants to fight people in the store for talking to your brat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of the kindest things that happened to me was a day that I was wearing my daughter at the grocery store. She was in a back carrier, maybe a year and a half old and not consolable. Her dad had been overseas for two weeks and I needed to get groceries. An older woman looked at me and said, honey you’re doing great. We’ve all been there.

That’s how you handle it

Why would you put an inconsolable toddler in a back carrier? Did you not have one that faced you like an ergo?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a young child is with an adult in public you address the adult, not the toddler.

You weren’t wrong to say something but out of line to say it to the child.

Then she’ll be scolding the mom. The child learns they can act however they wish and won’t get in trouble and that others will get the blame.

OP was totally on point.

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Anonymous wrote:I love that you did that. Expletive that mom.

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You did good, OP!!

[Anonymous]

Didn’t read all the replies, but wanted to share..Once saw a Mom clearly struggling with her daughter. Remembered hearing to be nice to the Mom to be helpful. Said something empathetic, and the Mom burst into tears. She was overwhelmed, her daughter had special needs, and Mom really needed to pee! I’m an RN, showed her my ID and we went to the back of the store, I stayed with her daughter while she used the restroom. She actually cried because someone reached out to her

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Anonymous wrote:My 2 year old went through a short phase where she did this. Nothing would stop it so I decided ignoring it was best. I got dirty looks which is fine, but I would have had a MAJOR problem with you talking to my kid directly.

So what? Did you care that shoppers had a major problem with your kid shrieking? You would just seethe in silence and the kid would stop shrieking.

I don’t even understand what you’re saying.

Nothing I did stopped it. We share the world with babies and children who are still learning and growing. As an adult, you should be mature enough to deal with it.

So, no, you don’t care at all about the people around. You want the benefit of living in a society without doing your part.

You’re insane.

You’re a lousy parent. Take your shrieking kid outside until they are calm enough to return. Since you can’t figure that much out and also are confounded by the idea that other people around you matter too, there is very little hope that you have any idea how to parent.

+ 1.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

To clarify, I didn’t scream at the child, which in written text would look like: “OUCH! YOU ARE HURTING MY EARS!”

So for the sake of this thread, and to be correct, it was: “Ouch. You are hurting my ears.”

OP, are you neurodivergent? Seems like a possibility.

I was looking for this. Something is really off. ASD?

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Anonymous wrote:One of the kindest things that happened to me was a day that I was wearing my daughter at the grocery store. She was in a back carrier, maybe a year and a half old and not consolable. Her dad had been overseas for two weeks and I needed to get groceries. An older woman looked at me and said, honey you’re doing great. We’ve all been there.

That’s how you handle it

Why would you put an inconsolable toddler in a back carrier? Did you not have one that faced you like an ergo?

The back carrier is actually more comfortable. For both of us. She was fine when she went into it. She liked the closeness and to be able to see over my shoulder.

I wasn’t doing anything wrong. Whatever was bothering her was
better before we left the store. She had a solid 5-10 mins singing the song of her people though.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

To clarify, I didn’t scream at the child, which in written text would look like: “OUCH! YOU ARE HURTING MY EARS!”

So for the sake of this thread, and to be correct, it was: “Ouch. You are hurting my ears.”

OP, are you neurodivergent? Seems like a possibility.

I was looking for this. Something is really off. ASD?

I think she just doesn’t have much experience with 2 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Didn’t read all the replies, but wanted to share..Once saw a Mom clearly struggling with her daughter. Remembered hearing to be nice to the Mom to be helpful. Said something empathetic, and the Mom burst into tears. She was overwhelmed, her daughter had special needs, and Mom really needed to pee! I’m an RN, showed her my ID and we went to the back of the store, I stayed with her daughter while she used the restroom. She actually cried because someone reached out to her

May God bless you; you're a kind and considerate person.

Lots of folks deal with matters that they keep hidden and buried within themselves. A simple act of kindness and understanding can make a significant impact on another's life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yesterday late afternoon I went to the grocery store and almost immediately heard a child letting out loud, ear-piercing shrieks, the kind that reverberate through the aisles and make people wince. Every time it happened, I noticed other shoppers grimacing or exchanging uncomfortable looks.

This went on throughout my trip. Eventually, I ended up in the same aisle as the child, a little girl, maybe 2 or 2.5 years old, and her mom. What surprised me most was that the mom was laughing and clearly encouraging the shrieking, not trying to redirect or stop it. I was frustrated, not just by the noise, but by what felt like a complete disregard for others in the store. I walked up to their cart, looked at the child, covered my ears, and said “Ouch! Your shouting is really hurting my ears!” The little girl immediately burst into tears. The mom called me an expletive and told me I was rude. For the record, the shrieking stopped after that.

I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it. I didn’t yell or scold, I tried to speak calmly but honestly. Still, I’m wondering, was I out of line? Should I have just ignored it? How do others handle this kind of situation?

On behalf of all teachers , thank you for doing that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Didn’t read all the replies, but wanted to share..Once saw a Mom clearly struggling with her daughter. Remembered hearing to be nice to the Mom to be helpful. Said something empathetic, and the Mom burst into tears. She was overwhelmed, her daughter had special needs, and Mom really needed to pee! I’m an RN, showed her my ID and we went to the back of the store, I stayed with her daughter while she used the restroom. She actually cried because someone reached out to her

+1 Empathy

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Anonymous wrote:Didn’t read all the replies, but wanted to share..Once saw a Mom clearly struggling with her daughter. Remembered hearing to be nice to the Mom to be helpful. Said something empathetic, and the Mom burst into tears. She was overwhelmed, her daughter had special needs, and Mom really needed to pee! I’m an RN, showed her my ID and we went to the back of the store, I stayed with her daughter while she used the restroom. She actually cried because someone reached out to her

+1 Empathy

How does that apply to OP who saw a mom delighting in the shrieking? That wouldn't signal to anyone a mom was in distress, rather it points to mom being a sociopath.

[Anonymous]

Karen’s are delighting in this ASD OP