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Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!


That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)


Most players are genuinely supportive of one another. Unfortunately, it’s often the parents who unintentionally harm team morale. It's important to understand that when selections are made, it's not about saying one child isn’t talented—it’s often that another child was simply the better fit at that moment. These decisions are rarely easy for coaches, and most take them very seriously.

When parents speak negatively, it can influence their children, who then bring that energy into the team environment. If a player continues to be selected despite this, the situation becomes difficult to manage and often beyond the coach’s control. It’s essential to trust the process and remember that we’re all here to support every child’s development—not just our own.


The parents on the ARLs 2011 may be part of the problem, but the club continuing to send the same player over and over again is bound to cause issues on a powerhouse team with a number of deserving players. Particularly one who now sees herself as better than the rest.


I’m pretty close to this situation. PP is right. The resentment and frustration continue to grow within the team. Parents are worried about favoritism in college recruiting right around the corner.

It could be nice either way the coaches and club could provide some feedback.


Sounds like you are talking about BP.


Not only BP. Sounds like this phenomenon is in every club LOL.
DMV soccer is basura. Other regions have issues as well but this area is special. With that said why are you all happy paying 4-6k a season for substandard exposure in a team sport. The Chosen players cant win by themselves and there is strength in numbers. Talk/communicate and make your demands. Vote with your feet. Otherwise your kid is just a took for someone else's goals and club marketing. And you can only look in the mirror for blame.

Find your gumption. And advocate.


Can you elaborate more on substandard exposure? Do other regions get more exposure? How?
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Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!


That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)


Most players are genuinely supportive of one another. Unfortunately, it’s often the parents who unintentionally harm team morale. It's important to understand that when selections are made, it's not about saying one child isn’t talented—it’s often that another child was simply the better fit at that moment. These decisions are rarely easy for coaches, and most take them very seriously.

When parents speak negatively, it can influence their children, who then bring that energy into the team environment. If a player continues to be selected despite this, the situation becomes difficult to manage and often beyond the coach’s control. It’s essential to trust the process and remember that we’re all here to support every child’s development—not just our own.


The parents on the ARLs 2011 may be part of the problem, but the club continuing to send the same player over and over again is bound to cause issues on a powerhouse team with a number of deserving players. Particularly one who now sees herself as better than the rest.


I’m pretty close to this situation. PP is right. The resentment and frustration continue to grow within the team. Parents are worried about favoritism in college recruiting right around the corner.

It could be nice either way the coaches and club could provide some feedback.


Sounds like you are talking about BP.


Not only BP. Sounds like this phenomenon is in every club LOL.
DMV soccer is basura. Other regions have issues as well but this area is special. With that said why are you all happy paying 4-6k a season for substandard exposure in a team sport. The Chosen players cant win by themselves and there is strength in numbers. Talk/communicate and make your demands. Vote with your feet. Otherwise your kid is just a took for someone else's goals and club marketing. And you can only look in the mirror for blame.

Find your gumption. And advocate.


Can you elaborate more on substandard exposure? Do other regions get more exposure? How?


Ahem “clears throat” for informercial voice. Im glad you asked

Does your club send the same talent over and over and over to ID sessions because they are trying to force a square into a circle? (Those kids NEVER get called back give it up TD!!)

Does your team’s instagram feed Only feature Offensive highlights from the Attacking third? (Poor defenders and the goalie apparently doesn’t exist. Like can the goalie get some love?!)

Has your teams Captains bands consistently rested on the Arms of the same kids being sent to ID sessions or the same annoying loud kids year after year… or the team managers kid?

Does your DC sit in the back or on the far edges of photoshopped game day photos (vs prominently in the center)

Is you DC’s social media footprint monitored and/or controlled by your club in order to control narratives and make sure your DC is outshining the players they have chosen to market for easy college commitments?

Does your DC get chosen or even asked to play up for events and opportunities vs the chosen kids?

Is your club transparent in all aspects of decision making, feedback on game play and exposure opportunities?

Does your TD have a direct say on what kids get selected for what vs coach autonomy.

Does your club let you have access to games in trace/veo/etc freely or does it control your ability to clip from game highlights.

Does your club support buddy system teams vs winning combinations?

Is your club/team ok with losing as long as the “chosen kids” get exposure?

Does your team managers kid magically get selected for everything under the sun?

If you have answered yes to any of these questions then congratulations your DC may be suffering from substandard exposure.

These symptoms normally begin in march but sometimes are year round. If suffering from substandard exposure you will need to see a specialist that can help you in the areas of
Photography and video editing. You… yes you (points at you) will also have to be an expert at social media from soccer wire to include Tiktok. These things are required to build up your DCs footprint and create a counter narrative. In addition have you set up soccer wire or any of the huddle profiles etc? You will need to in your copious amounts of spare time.

Lastly you should go into your bathroom or if in a car pull down the make up mirror and repeat these words. I am my childs advocate who pays over three thousand dollars for substandard exposure. You will need to yell out loud, I demand better (please ignore your neighbors or people in cars next to you while you do this. Odds are they are doing the same thing just at work or with marriages etc or maybe even futbol).

Once you have taken these steps. Speak with your DS/DD and figure out a plan of action. If not getting play time ask your coach for measurements and reasons why for accountability. If its not the coach calling shots approach your TD because at this point you have very little to lose. Look at yourself as the chinhook or apache helicopter parent at this point and keep reminding yourself you paid 3-6k for this. Be relentless and crazy eyed. They should fear or at the most groan audibly when you approach them.

Most importantly dont trust the process or people who stall you out and ask you to trust the process. Ask them what is the process and take out a notepad. Dont take people at their word. Instead email EVERYTHING. Ask for measurements and real reasons why your DC is getting overlooked. If they are giving you vague answers then it’s probably time to move on as your 3-6k exists only to keep the club’s lights on. Time with the ball is essential and a club that allows that shoud have time with your DCs card. Also beware of people who talk fast. Thats just a weird thing to do in travel sports.

Now if your team actually has a star difference maker on your team, that attracts coaches and interest from far and wide (not ID callups but kids that actually could go pro) then it may be beneficial to stick around the team for secondary exposure. But only if your DC is not warming the bench.

Hopefully this post helps you with identifying and alleviating your symptoms of poor exposure and hopefully your DC finds a home full of equal playing time, winning culture, good feedback from coaches, loving teammates and showcases on showcases.


But who are we kidding… this is the DMV. Dress warm its getting chilly. Good luck.
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Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!


That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)


Most players are genuinely supportive of one another. Unfortunately, it’s often the parents who unintentionally harm team morale. It's important to understand that when selections are made, it's not about saying one child isn’t talented—it’s often that another child was simply the better fit at that moment. These decisions are rarely easy for coaches, and most take them very seriously.

When parents speak negatively, it can influence their children, who then bring that energy into the team environment. If a player continues to be selected despite this, the situation becomes difficult to manage and often beyond the coach’s control. It’s essential to trust the process and remember that we’re all here to support every child’s development—not just our own.


The parents on the ARLs 2011 may be part of the problem, but the club continuing to send the same player over and over again is bound to cause issues on a powerhouse team with a number of deserving players. Particularly one who now sees herself as better than the rest.


I’m pretty close to this situation. PP is right. The resentment and frustration continue to grow within the team. Parents are worried about favoritism in college recruiting right around the corner.

It could be nice either way the coaches and club could provide some feedback.


Sounds like you are talking about BP.


Not only BP. Sounds like this phenomenon is in every club LOL.
DMV soccer is basura. Other regions have issues as well but this area is special. With that said why are you all happy paying 4-6k a season for substandard exposure in a team sport. The Chosen players cant win by themselves and there is strength in numbers. Talk/communicate and make your demands. Vote with your feet. Otherwise your kid is just a took for someone else's goals and club marketing. And you can only look in the mirror for blame.

Find your gumption. And advocate.


Can you elaborate more on substandard exposure? Do other regions get more exposure? How?


Ahem “clears throat” for informercial voice. Im glad you asked

Does your club send the same talent over and over and over to ID sessions because they are trying to force a square into a circle? (Those kids NEVER get called back give it up TD!!)

Does your team’s instagram feed Only feature Offensive highlights from the Attacking third? (Poor defenders and the goalie apparently doesn’t exist. Like can the goalie get some love?!)

Has your teams Captains bands consistently rested on the Arms of the same kids being sent to ID sessions or the same annoying loud kids year after year… or the team managers kid?

Does your DC sit in the back or on the far edges of photoshopped game day photos (vs prominently in the center)

Is you DC’s social media footprint monitored and/or controlled by your club in order to control narratives and make sure your DC is outshining the players they have chosen to market for easy college commitments?

Does your DC get chosen or even asked to play up for events and opportunities vs the chosen kids?

Is your club transparent in all aspects of decision making, feedback on game play and exposure opportunities?

Does your TD have a direct say on what kids get selected for what vs coach autonomy.

Does your club let you have access to games in trace/veo/etc freely or does it control your ability to clip from game highlights.

Does your club support buddy system teams vs winning combinations?

Is your club/team ok with losing as long as the “chosen kids” get exposure?

Does your team managers kid magically get selected for everything under the sun?

If you have answered yes to any of these questions then congratulations your DC may be suffering from substandard exposure.

These symptoms normally begin in march but sometimes are year round. If suffering from substandard exposure you will need to see a specialist that can help you in the areas of
Photography and video editing. You… yes you (points at you) will also have to be an expert at social media from soccer wire to include Tiktok. These things are required to build up your DCs footprint and create a counter narrative. In addition have you set up soccer wire or any of the huddle profiles etc? You will need to in your copious amounts of spare time.

Lastly you should go into your bathroom or if in a car pull down the make up mirror and repeat these words. I am my childs advocate who pays over three thousand dollars for substandard exposure. You will need to yell out loud, I demand better (please ignore your neighbors or people in cars next to you while you do this. Odds are they are doing the same thing just at work or with marriages etc or maybe even futbol).

Once you have taken these steps. Speak with your DS/DD and figure out a plan of action. If not getting play time ask your coach for measurements and reasons why for accountability. If its not the coach calling shots approach your TD because at this point you have very little to lose. Look at yourself as the chinhook or apache helicopter parent at this point and keep reminding yourself you paid 3-6k for this. Be relentless and crazy eyed. They should fear or at the most groan audibly when you approach them.

Most importantly dont trust the process or people who stall you out and ask you to trust the process. Ask them what is the process and take out a notepad. Dont take people at their word. Instead email EVERYTHING. Ask for measurements and real reasons why your DC is getting overlooked. If they are giving you vague answers then it’s probably time to move on as your 3-6k exists only to keep the club’s lights on. Time with the ball is essential and a club that allows that shoud have time with your DCs card. Also beware of people who talk fast. Thats just a weird thing to do in travel sports.

Now if your team actually has a star difference maker on your team, that attracts coaches and interest from far and wide (not ID callups but kids that actually could go pro) then it may be beneficial to stick around the team for secondary exposure. But only if your DC is not warming the bench.

Hopefully this post helps you with identifying and alleviating your symptoms of poor exposure and hopefully your DC finds a home full of equal playing time, winning culture, good feedback from coaches, loving teammates and showcases on showcases.


But who are we kidding… this is the DMV. Dress warm its getting chilly. Good luck.
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Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!


That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)


Most players are genuinely supportive of one another. Unfortunately, it’s often the parents who unintentionally harm team morale. It's important to understand that when selections are made, it's not about saying one child isn’t talented—it’s often that another child was simply the better fit at that moment. These decisions are rarely easy for coaches, and most take them very seriously.

When parents speak negatively, it can influence their children, who then bring that energy into the team environment. If a player continues to be selected despite this, the situation becomes difficult to manage and often beyond the coach’s control. It’s essential to trust the process and remember that we’re all here to support every child’s development—not just our own.


The parents on the ARLs 2011 may be part of the problem, but the club continuing to send the same player over and over again is bound to cause issues on a powerhouse team with a number of deserving players. Particularly one who now sees herself as better than the rest.


I’m pretty close to this situation. PP is right. The resentment and frustration continue to grow within the team. Parents are worried about favoritism in college recruiting right around the corner.

It could be nice either way the coaches and club could provide some feedback.


Sounds like you are talking about BP.


Not only BP. Sounds like this phenomenon is in every club LOL.
DMV soccer is basura. Other regions have issues as well but this area is special. With that said why are you all happy paying 4-6k a season for substandard exposure in a team sport. The Chosen players cant win by themselves and there is strength in numbers. Talk/communicate and make your demands. Vote with your feet. Otherwise your kid is just a took for someone else's goals and club marketing. And you can only look in the mirror for blame.

Find your gumption. And advocate.


Can you elaborate more on substandard exposure? Do other regions get more exposure? How?


Ahem “clears throat” for informercial voice. Im glad you asked

Does your club send the same talent over and over and over to ID sessions because they are trying to force a square into a circle? (Those kids NEVER get called back give it up TD!!)

Does your team’s instagram feed Only feature Offensive highlights from the Attacking third? (Poor defenders and the goalie apparently doesn’t exist. Like can the goalie get some love?!)

Has your teams Captains bands consistently rested on the Arms of the same kids being sent to ID sessions or the same annoying loud kids year after year… or the team managers kid?

Does your DC sit in the back or on the far edges of photoshopped game day photos (vs prominently in the center)

Is you DC’s social media footprint monitored and/or controlled by your club in order to control narratives and make sure your DC is outshining the players they have chosen to market for easy college commitments?

Does your DC get chosen or even asked to play up for events and opportunities vs the chosen kids?

Is your club transparent in all aspects of decision making, feedback on game play and exposure opportunities?

Does your TD have a direct say on what kids get selected for what vs coach autonomy.

Does your club let you have access to games in trace/veo/etc freely or does it control your ability to clip from game highlights.

Does your club support buddy system teams vs winning combinations?

Is your club/team ok with losing as long as the “chosen kids” get exposure?

Does your team managers kid magically get selected for everything under the sun?

If you have answered yes to any of these questions then congratulations your DC may be suffering from substandard exposure.

These symptoms normally begin in march but sometimes are year round. If suffering from substandard exposure you will need to see a specialist that can help you in the areas of
Photography and video editing. You… yes you (points at you) will also have to be an expert at social media from soccer wire to include Tiktok. These things are required to build up your DCs footprint and create a counter narrative. In addition have you set up soccer wire or any of the huddle profiles etc? You will need to in your copious amounts of spare time.

Lastly you should go into your bathroom or if in a car pull down the make up mirror and repeat these words. I am my childs advocate who pays over three thousand dollars for substandard exposure. You will need to yell out loud, I demand better (please ignore your neighbors or people in cars next to you while you do this. Odds are they are doing the same thing just at work or with marriages etc or maybe even futbol).

Once you have taken these steps. Speak with your DS/DD and figure out a plan of action. If not getting play time ask your coach for measurements and reasons why for accountability. If its not the coach calling shots approach your TD because at this point you have very little to lose. Look at yourself as the chinhook or apache helicopter parent at this point and keep reminding yourself you paid 3-6k for this. Be relentless and crazy eyed. They should fear or at the most groan audibly when you approach them.

Most importantly dont trust the process or people who stall you out and ask you to trust the process. Ask them what is the process and take out a notepad. Dont take people at their word. Instead email EVERYTHING. Ask for measurements and real reasons why your DC is getting overlooked. If they are giving you vague answers then it’s probably time to move on as your 3-6k exists only to keep the club’s lights on. Time with the ball is essential and a club that allows that shoud have time with your DCs card. Also beware of people who talk fast. Thats just a weird thing to do in travel sports.

Now if your team actually has a star difference maker on your team, that attracts coaches and interest from far and wide (not ID callups but kids that actually could go pro) then it may be beneficial to stick around the team for secondary exposure. But only if your DC is not warming the bench.

Hopefully this post helps you with identifying and alleviating your symptoms of poor exposure and hopefully your DC finds a home full of equal playing time, winning culture, good feedback from coaches, loving teammates and showcases on showcases.


But who are we kidding… this is the DMV. Dress warm its getting chilly. Good luck.


The team manager is not going to like this. Trouble in paradise.
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Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!


That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)


Honest question. How does the club only focus on developing a few players? Do they not have the players participate in the same drills?

There are many ways that players are favored even during drills. Coaches choose which players are neutrals, who rotates where, and who gets most reps in drills. When there is a demonstration which players are chosen to do it? Which players are given encouraging positive feedback vs which are always negative. We’ve all seen coaches who are constantly calling out bad plays by some players but never when the bad play is from their favorites. The rest of the team sees it and grows to resent it.


+1
I’m at a u13 GA Club and this is already becoming apparent. 2nd year with club, same coach…. This kind of thing develops a few players over the other players. These small coaching biases absolutely add up over time. Seen this exact thing first hand. Without a doubt, the coach has already picked 3 players to nominate for next year and is developing them more now in multiple small ways… play the neutral, used repeatedly for examples, lots of praise, allowed them to re-try dribbling attempts in ‘scrimmages’, picked to guest play up more, invited to skills clinics, paying for lots of private training, coaches giving obviously more feedback before/ after practice. All these things add up.

Most parents have stopped watching practice, but it’s noticeable if you do watch and pay attention.


Honest question: why is it better for development to play the neutral?
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!


That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)


Most players are genuinely supportive of one another. Unfortunately, it’s often the parents who unintentionally harm team morale. It's important to understand that when selections are made, it's not about saying one child isn’t talented—it’s often that another child was simply the better fit at that moment. These decisions are rarely easy for coaches, and most take them very seriously.

When parents speak negatively, it can influence their children, who then bring that energy into the team environment. If a player continues to be selected despite this, the situation becomes difficult to manage and often beyond the coach’s control. It’s essential to trust the process and remember that we’re all here to support every child’s development—not just our own.


From what I understand, there are a few complicating factors as it relates to the ARL 11s. Its an incredibly talented team, so there are a number of deserving players, with a variety of strengths. Yet the club has continued to send the same player to ALL of the opportunities (as an attacking player AND as a defender). Is she the better fit at all of these moments and at all positions as you suggest above? Perhaps. But with a team chock full of talent, its a little hard to believe.




Is it better to be a role player on Arlington 2011 or leave and be one of the top players on a GA team?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!


That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)


Most players are genuinely supportive of one another. Unfortunately, it’s often the parents who unintentionally harm team morale. It's important to understand that when selections are made, it's not about saying one child isn’t talented—it’s often that another child was simply the better fit at that moment. These decisions are rarely easy for coaches, and most take them very seriously.

When parents speak negatively, it can influence their children, who then bring that energy into the team environment. If a player continues to be selected despite this, the situation becomes difficult to manage and often beyond the coach’s control. It’s essential to trust the process and remember that we’re all here to support every child’s development—not just our own.


From what I understand, there are a few complicating factors as it relates to the ARL 11s. Its an incredibly talented team, so there are a number of deserving players, with a variety of strengths. Yet the club has continued to send the same player to ALL of the opportunities (as an attacking player AND as a defender). Is she the better fit at all of these moments and at all positions as you suggest above? Perhaps. But with a team chock full of talent, its a little hard to believe.




Is it better to be a role player on Arlington 2011 or leave and be one of the top players on a GA team?


They have a couple of kids that are role players on the team and they are sent to most things. People might have different opinions who they are but the whole team gets exposure. It also depends on what you are looking for from the team? Going to GA - if your kid is strong player on ARL/ VDA then she will definitely be the leader of the pack at GA. But if we are talking recruiting - at 2011, probably still edge out and better to stay on ECNL.

Younger - soccer scene is changing and I would consider GA.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!


That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)


Most players are genuinely supportive of one another. Unfortunately, it’s often the parents who unintentionally harm team morale. It's important to understand that when selections are made, it's not about saying one child isn’t talented—it’s often that another child was simply the better fit at that moment. These decisions are rarely easy for coaches, and most take them very seriously.

When parents speak negatively, it can influence their children, who then bring that energy into the team environment. If a player continues to be selected despite this, the situation becomes difficult to manage and often beyond the coach’s control. It’s essential to trust the process and remember that we’re all here to support every child’s development—not just our own.


From what I understand, there are a few complicating factors as it relates to the ARL 11s. Its an incredibly talented team, so there are a number of deserving players, with a variety of strengths. Yet the club has continued to send the same player to ALL of the opportunities (as an attacking player AND as a defender). Is she the better fit at all of these moments and at all positions as you suggest above? Perhaps. But with a team chock full of talent, its a little hard to believe.




Is it better to be a role player on Arlington 2011 or leave and be one of the top players on a GA team?

Playing time is what matters. If the role player is still getting good minutes, stay.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!


That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)


Most players are genuinely supportive of one another. Unfortunately, it’s often the parents who unintentionally harm team morale. It's important to understand that when selections are made, it's not about saying one child isn’t talented—it’s often that another child was simply the better fit at that moment. These decisions are rarely easy for coaches, and most take them very seriously.

When parents speak negatively, it can influence their children, who then bring that energy into the team environment. If a player continues to be selected despite this, the situation becomes difficult to manage and often beyond the coach’s control. It’s essential to trust the process and remember that we’re all here to support every child’s development—not just our own.


From what I understand, there are a few complicating factors as it relates to the ARL 11s. Its an incredibly talented team, so there are a number of deserving players, with a variety of strengths. Yet the club has continued to send the same player to ALL of the opportunities (as an attacking player AND as a defender). Is she the better fit at all of these moments and at all positions as you suggest above? Perhaps. But with a team chock full of talent, its a little hard to believe.




Is it better to be a role player on Arlington 2011 or leave and be one of the top players on a GA team?


ECNL exposure is considerably more than GA. Better chance with staying on the team.
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We do realize we are talking about a specific 15 year old child here. Doesn't anyone think that is kind of weird?
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Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!


That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)


Most players are genuinely supportive of one another. Unfortunately, it’s often the parents who unintentionally harm team morale. It's important to understand that when selections are made, it's not about saying one child isn’t talented—it’s often that another child was simply the better fit at that moment. These decisions are rarely easy for coaches, and most take them very seriously.

When parents speak negatively, it can influence their children, who then bring that energy into the team environment. If a player continues to be selected despite this, the situation becomes difficult to manage and often beyond the coach’s control. It’s essential to trust the process and remember that we’re all here to support every child’s development—not just our own.


The parents on the ARLs 2011 may be part of the problem, but the club continuing to send the same player over and over again is bound to cause issues on a powerhouse team with a number of deserving players. Particularly one who now sees herself as better than the rest.


I’m pretty close to this situation. PP is right. The resentment and frustration continue to grow within the team. Parents are worried about favoritism in college recruiting right around the corner.

It could be nice either way the coaches and club could provide some feedback.


Sounds like you are talking about BP.


Not only BP. Sounds like this phenomenon is in every club LOL.
DMV soccer is basura. Other regions have issues as well but this area is special. With that said why are you all happy paying 4-6k a season for substandard exposure in a team sport. The Chosen players cant win by themselves and there is strength in numbers. Talk/communicate and make your demands. Vote with your feet. Otherwise your kid is just a took for someone else's goals and club marketing. And you can only look in the mirror for blame.

Find your gumption. And advocate.


Can you elaborate more on substandard exposure? Do other regions get more exposure? How?


Ahem “clears throat” for informercial voice. Im glad you asked

Does your club send the same talent over and over and over to ID sessions because they are trying to force a square into a circle? (Those kids NEVER get called back give it up TD!!)

Does your team’s instagram feed Only feature Offensive highlights from the Attacking third? (Poor defenders and the goalie apparently doesn’t exist. Like can the goalie get some love?!)

Has your teams Captains bands consistently rested on the Arms of the same kids being sent to ID sessions or the same annoying loud kids year after year… or the team managers kid?

Does your DC sit in the back or on the far edges of photoshopped game day photos (vs prominently in the center)

Is you DC’s social media footprint monitored and/or controlled by your club in order to control narratives and make sure your DC is outshining the players they have chosen to market for easy college commitments?

Does your DC get chosen or even asked to play up for events and opportunities vs the chosen kids?

Is your club transparent in all aspects of decision making, feedback on game play and exposure opportunities?

Does your TD have a direct say on what kids get selected for what vs coach autonomy.

Does your club let you have access to games in trace/veo/etc freely or does it control your ability to clip from game highlights.

Does your club support buddy system teams vs winning combinations?

Is your club/team ok with losing as long as the “chosen kids” get exposure?

Does your team managers kid magically get selected for everything under the sun?

If you have answered yes to any of these questions then congratulations your DC may be suffering from substandard exposure.

These symptoms normally begin in march but sometimes are year round. If suffering from substandard exposure you will need to see a specialist that can help you in the areas of
Photography and video editing. You… yes you (points at you) will also have to be an expert at social media from soccer wire to include Tiktok. These things are required to build up your DCs footprint and create a counter narrative. In addition have you set up soccer wire or any of the huddle profiles etc? You will need to in your copious amounts of spare time.

Lastly you should go into your bathroom or if in a car pull down the make up mirror and repeat these words. I am my childs advocate who pays over three thousand dollars for substandard exposure. You will need to yell out loud, I demand better (please ignore your neighbors or people in cars next to you while you do this. Odds are they are doing the same thing just at work or with marriages etc or maybe even futbol).

Once you have taken these steps. Speak with your DS/DD and figure out a plan of action. If not getting play time ask your coach for measurements and reasons why for accountability. If its not the coach calling shots approach your TD because at this point you have very little to lose. Look at yourself as the chinhook or apache helicopter parent at this point and keep reminding yourself you paid 3-6k for this. Be relentless and crazy eyed. They should fear or at the most groan audibly when you approach them.

Most importantly dont trust the process or people who stall you out and ask you to trust the process. Ask them what is the process and take out a notepad. Dont take people at their word. Instead email EVERYTHING. Ask for measurements and real reasons why your DC is getting overlooked. If they are giving you vague answers then it’s probably time to move on as your 3-6k exists only to keep the club’s lights on. Time with the ball is essential and a club that allows that shoud have time with your DCs card. Also beware of people who talk fast. Thats just a weird thing to do in travel sports.

Now if your team actually has a star difference maker on your team, that attracts coaches and interest from far and wide (not ID callups but kids that actually could go pro) then it may be beneficial to stick around the team for secondary exposure. But only if your DC is not warming the bench.

Hopefully this post helps you with identifying and alleviating your symptoms of poor exposure and hopefully your DC finds a home full of equal playing time, winning culture, good feedback from coaches, loving teammates and showcases on showcases.


But who are we kidding… this is the DMV. Dress warm its getting chilly. Good luck.


The team manager is not going to like this. Trouble in paradise.
it is what it is
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Anonymous wrote:We do realize we are talking about a specific 15 year old child here. Doesn't anyone think that is kind of weird?


No, not at all. Why do you think virtue signaling is necessary?
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Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!


That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)


Honest question. How does the club only focus on developing a few players? Do they not have the players participate in the same drills?

There are many ways that players are favored even during drills. Coaches choose which players are neutrals, who rotates where, and who gets most reps in drills. When there is a demonstration which players are chosen to do it? Which players are given encouraging positive feedback vs which are always negative. We’ve all seen coaches who are constantly calling out bad plays by some players but never when the bad play is from their favorites. The rest of the team sees it and grows to resent it.


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I’m at a u13 GA Club and this is already becoming apparent. 2nd year with club, same coach…. This kind of thing develops a few players over the other players. These small coaching biases absolutely add up over time. Seen this exact thing first hand. Without a doubt, the coach has already picked 3 players to nominate for next year and is developing them more now in multiple small ways… play the neutral, used repeatedly for examples, lots of praise, allowed them to re-try dribbling attempts in ‘scrimmages’, picked to guest play up more, invited to skills clinics, paying for lots of private training, coaches giving obviously more feedback before/ after practice. All these things add up.

Most parents have stopped watching practice, but it’s noticeable if you do watch and pay attention.


Honest question: why is it better for development to play the neutral?


Good question. Let’s use a small scrimmage as an example.

In this setup, the neutral player wears a different-colored pinnie from both teams. Their role is to primarily operate in the middle of the field and play for both sides. Each time possession changes, the neutral player immediately looks to receive the ball and make a pass for the team that just won possession.

For younger players, this role is a clear visual signal — it shows who the coach expects to work the hardest during practice. The neutral player is constantly involved, touching the ball on almost every play. This helps them develop soccer IQ and 360-degree awareness much faster than others. They’re always checking their shoulder, receiving under pressure, and passing quickly.

By contrast, players on the outside — defenders, wingers, and strikers — naturally touch the ball far less and therefore develop game awareness more slowly. In fact, they might get 75% fewer touches than the neutral player in a single session.

When coaches consistently select the same players to be neutrals, it sends a strong message: these are the coach’s “trusted” players. Those players also benefit the most, improving two to three times faster than the rest — not exactly the best message to send to 11–14-year-olds. It’s like everyone pays the same fee, but only a few get most of the value and development time.

Our coach occasionally rotates in new neutral players, but if they make a few mistakes, they’re usually switched back out for the regular neutrals who are already comfortable in that role.
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Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!


That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)


Honest question. How does the club only focus on developing a few players? Do they not have the players participate in the same drills?

There are many ways that players are favored even during drills. Coaches choose which players are neutrals, who rotates where, and who gets most reps in drills. When there is a demonstration which players are chosen to do it? Which players are given encouraging positive feedback vs which are always negative. We’ve all seen coaches who are constantly calling out bad plays by some players but never when the bad play is from their favorites. The rest of the team sees it and grows to resent it.


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I’m at a u13 GA Club and this is already becoming apparent. 2nd year with club, same coach…. This kind of thing develops a few players over the other players. These small coaching biases absolutely add up over time. Seen this exact thing first hand. Without a doubt, the coach has already picked 3 players to nominate for next year and is developing them more now in multiple small ways… play the neutral, used repeatedly for examples, lots of praise, allowed them to re-try dribbling attempts in ‘scrimmages’, picked to guest play up more, invited to skills clinics, paying for lots of private training, coaches giving obviously more feedback before/ after practice. All these things add up.

Most parents have stopped watching practice, but it’s noticeable if you do watch and pay attention.


Honest question: why is it better for development to play the neutral?


More touches
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Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!


That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)


Most players are genuinely supportive of one another. Unfortunately, it’s often the parents who unintentionally harm team morale. It's important to understand that when selections are made, it's not about saying one child isn’t talented—it’s often that another child was simply the better fit at that moment. These decisions are rarely easy for coaches, and most take them very seriously.

When parents speak negatively, it can influence their children, who then bring that energy into the team environment. If a player continues to be selected despite this, the situation becomes difficult to manage and often beyond the coach’s control. It’s essential to trust the process and remember that we’re all here to support every child’s development—not just our own.


From what I understand, there are a few complicating factors as it relates to the ARL 11s. Its an incredibly talented team, so there are a number of deserving players, with a variety of strengths. Yet the club has continued to send the same player to ALL of the opportunities (as an attacking player AND as a defender). Is she the better fit at all of these moments and at all positions as you suggest above? Perhaps. But with a team chock full of talent, its a little hard to believe.




Is it better to be a role player on Arlington 2011 or leave and be one of the top players on a GA team?


They have a couple of kids that are role players on the team and they are sent to most things. People might have different opinions who they are but the whole team gets exposure. It also depends on what you are looking for from the team? Going to GA - if your kid is strong player on ARL/ VDA then she will definitely be the leader of the pack at GA. But if we are talking recruiting - at 2011, probably still edge out and better to stay on ECNL.

Younger - soccer scene is changing and I would consider GA.
The scene has changed but I dont think anyone knows what any of it means long term on the girls side. Perhaps this year with the SY change we will get a clearer picture for where kids go and stay. There is one thing I have learned about youth soccer in the DMV, which is it is highly unpredictable so what’s the point of being too strategic. Maybe a one year view, but I am not sure you can think further out. I, like most in the area, like to think strategically and position my kid for the best optimal outcome, but it is so unpredictable. That said, I feel strongly that you can only focus on what’s in front of your nose. Everything else is speculation.
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